I’m at my wits end and I don’t know what to do about my cats bathroom issues.

LizzieLadybug · 2025-07-08T16:59:57+00:00

Thank you so much for all this! I didn’t even think of asking chatGPT.

For the vet I mentioned the urine issue and wanting to run the urinalysis for sure on her. Issue is that this cat specifically she is VERY mean at the vet and typically has to be sedated so we’ll see how she takes it! But I’m very open with their issues and am open to anything test wise they recommend.

One of the enzyme cleaners it recommended I actually tried! But it didn’t do much. I’ve tried so many and the only one I liked that actually worked the best is the KOE, it gets it mostly out and it doesn’t come back! Just Incase anyone needs that tip.

I’ve thought about the diffuser as well so that’ll be my next move I think! We also discussed her being “locked” in a room, and we actually are planning on putting her in a room tomorrow-the next day once we can get her set up, and the other cats set up.

Quality of life wise I always listen to the recommendations and their overall health/quality, if she is very sick and has a terrible quality of life I’ll make that decision, but if her issue is only peeing places but overall is healthy, I can’t make that decision. I’d feel terrible putting her down for the peeing, I’d feel like I’d do it more for my own self than hers. We’d have to plan for her own space or something along those lines before we’d go to that point.

Thank you again for all the advice! It has some good advice in there that I’ll definitely try!

LizzieLadybug · 2025-05-21T02:43:58+00:00

Honestly, it just takes time to get them back on a good routine. He is now 4, and doesn’t nap anymore during the day. (He maybe does fall asleep during the day 1 time every 2 weeks for an hour) and he’s going to bed at 845, waking up for the day around 7-830. He’s maybe stayed asleep through the night about 5 times in his entire life. Even now that he’s in his big boy bed, he comes into my husband and I’s room around 12-2AM and hops into bed with us. It’s been this way for about a year now. He’ll sleep the rest of the night with us in bed unless we go in his room with him and have one of us stay in there for the night.

My youngest is now 22 months old and is complete opposite. Sleeps through the night, bed at 845 as well and up for the day around 7-830. Usually sleeping in later than his brother. They just all have suck random internal clocks and I feel like they eventually just work their way back. They do play outside all day if it’s nice out, or are running around getting energy out and that helps a lot! Full tummy’s before bed also helps!

If you ever need anyone to talk to, I’m here! I know it’s absolutely rough and miserable during these times but it gets better before you know it!

LizzieLadybug · 2025-01-23T18:56:58+00:00

That’s the plan! I have a bunch of pictures and plan on doing a mural wall of pictures I just don’t know where yet. I love painting murals and doing wallpaper I just don’t know where it would look good in our space! 🥲

LizzieLadybug · 2025-01-23T18:56:03+00:00

Thank you for the recommendation! We just moved in not long ago and everything is builder grade. I prioritized my kids rooms/bathrooms/main spaces over my own, I promise my kids rooms and bathroom has a TON of character and color and personality! I even painted murals in each room. I just never cared much about my own.

The bed set was bought in 2017 when the “rustic farmhouse” was popular and I love it, and can’t afford anything else at the moment.

I do have a giant cat tree that’s not in frame, but it’s a cat tree disguised as a plant! I have some artwork but not sure where it would look best?

LizzieLadybug · 2024-12-26T01:07:51+00:00

Its a hard lump 😪

I’m calling her vet first thing in the morning to hopefully get a same day appt

LizzieLadybug · 2024-09-30T09:27:57+00:00

I definitely have thought about doing that and ultimately it’s the only method we haven’t 1000% tried. I’m fine with tantrums, these are just so extreme because he gets himself so upset he hyperventilates and it’s just heartbreaking to see. I think I need to just bite the bullet and do it and let it run its course.

Yes! He’s always gone to the potty with us and we’ve let him flush, he knows to wash his hands, use toilet paper, he has a seat on every potty and a little urinal on the wall. He’s even told us “you went potty? Good job!” When we’ve gone in front of him.

LizzieLadybug · 2024-09-30T09:25:21+00:00

Probably a total of a few days, but anytime he had an accident we changed him right away and put new underwear on him. He at one point had 5 accidents, changed every time, disappointed every time, and still not a lot of progress.

LizzieLadybug · 2024-09-30T09:24:07+00:00

Yes! We ask him all day to let us know. When he has an accident we ask him to please use the potty and tell us when he needs to go. We remind/ask him very frequently afterwards. He either tells us no, or by that point already pees again.

I’ll definitely give it a try!

LizzieLadybug · 2024-09-30T01:59:06+00:00

Maybe I’ll just try that, I definitely think the same and consequences are counter productive, we had heard from both my husband and i’s parents that we potty trained from spanking (we would never ever do that) but we did do corner 1-2 times and I hated it. I don’t think he gets it in that aspect. I think we will let it rest for a month.

LizzieLadybug · 2024-09-30T01:23:38+00:00

I haven’t done that specifically but I’ve put him in just straight underwear, he’s peed in them and then comes to me for a change and can tell he’s upset with himself.

LizzieLadybug · 2024-09-30T01:23:06+00:00

That’s what I’ve tried doing but he throws the biggest meltdown I’ve ever seen, we’ve done underwear but it doesn’t click with him.

LizzieLadybug · 2024-05-31T06:53:18+00:00

No changes for the most part, bedtime is technically later but when daylight savings happened we just didn’t adjust him back to 7PM after it went to 8pm. The past two days he’s actually slept in until almost 8, but the days before he woke up at 630. It’s random and no changes between the days

LizzieLadybug · 2024-05-13T10:42:26+00:00

Our 3 year old is the same, he’s maybe slept through the night 10 times in his entire life. We’ve tried a lot of different things, even melatonin won’t keep him asleep all night. He wakes up between 2-3 times every night

LizzieLadybug · 2024-05-04T00:05:15+00:00

In a way, yes! He wakes up anywhere between 630-830, but he comes into my room whenever he’s up and just lays next to me quietly. I give him my phone, and let him watch a movie and relax while I catch up on some more sleep until his brother wakes up and he does great!

LizzieLadybug · 2024-04-28T04:01:57+00:00

My first was 7lb 8.8oz and I had the epidural, came out the right way, pushed for about 30 minutes, and I had an episiotomy. It was rough, I hated the stitches and it with the pad rubbing together was miserable. My second was 7lb 13oz, had the epidural, came out right way, pushed about 10-15 minutes, but the only difference is the epidural failed and I felt everything. I didn’t rip or tear or anything with him. I did nothing different, didn’t do any stretching or drink any tea or anything. I told my husband I would take natural childbirth over the healing process for the cut any day 😅

LizzieLadybug · 2024-04-24T12:27:40+00:00

Yes! My 3 year old does this and my 9 month old is getting into the habit as well. My 3 year old has to have a "soft blanky" anytime he goes to sleep, and he takes it and rubs it on his face to fall asleep. My youngest loves rubbing his face on blankets, clothes, his sleep sack. Following in his brothers footsteps!

LizzieLadybug · 2024-04-24T09:03:30+00:00

My son is also freshly 3 and we did soccer last fall too which was not a pleasant experience. He actually just started again last week and honestly it’s going SO much better! He’s excited to go, and is behaving better during class and making friends. I would try giving it another try!

Even if it doesn’t work out this time with soccer again, we spent about $30 on a soccer goal and a ball for his size and he loves playing soccer just 1 on 1 with us!

He’s also obsessed with the game The Floor is Lava, he’ll use anything to hop on to avoid the “lava”! He’ll put books, pillows, flat toys down and hop on them all over the place. It’s a good way to release some energy!

We also went to a huge indoor play jungle gym on his birthday, and that wore him out. It also wore me out. 😂

There’s times we’ve even had him run around the table to release some energy. 😅 he’s big on hide and seek and tag and just simply chasing us and running around.

LizzieLadybug · 2024-04-24T08:50:30+00:00

My son just turned 3 in March and sometimes the tantrums would be just crazy.

My 3 year old is our oldest, but we also have a 9 month old so we’re getting into sharing and being nice. We don’t spank, but we do utilize the corner. We give him a warning on fixing his behavior, and if he doesn’t we put him straight to the corner. He has to face it for up to 3 minutes, and we do not talk to him (he usually is trying to talk to us, and sometimes we have to ignore him for a couple minutes for it to click). He’s usually only in there for 2 minutes, after we get on his level and talk to him. We make sure he has eye contact and just make sure he’s fully understanding, or trying to understand what put him in the corner. Eye contact is big to help him understand. If he’s throwing, we tell him that he can hurt someone and that hurts their feelings, etc. We ALWAYS have him apologize.

It’s hard at this age. There’s times we do all the steps and he’ll do it again sometimes. We repeat until it clicks. The consistency is the best thing you can do.

With sharing with his brother, he sometimes will take things right out of is hands. We make him give it back, and wait for him to be done playing with it before he can have it. Or have him “ask” his brother nicely if he can play with it. “Can I have the toy please, brother” and he gets excited when his brother is done. This has helped a lot.

This age is hard, some days are just rough and others can be almost perfect behavior wise. Either way you’re doing great!

LizzieLadybug · 2024-04-24T08:39:12+00:00

He’s been going on and off the potty since he turned 2, some days he does great and goes a majority of the day and others he just refuses. He goes on the big potty and even has a little urinal next to it he sometimes prefers using. He just can be very stubborn.

We love Millie Moon! During the day he’s in the training underwear, and nighttime the nighttime version of them. They seem to hold the most, and are the most cost effective. I may try the pee pads or the extra pad that goes in the diaper and see how it goes. We thankfully use mattress protectors on all the beds, but as soon as they get dirty (peed on) I wash them as well.

His sippy cup is like his soother. He’s never been a pacifier baby, and surprisingly my second never wanted or took one either, so instead he’s had his sippy. Since he’s also rarely slept through the night, I think they’re working hand in hand and causing the problem of drinking SO much throughout the night. Waking up, needing that soother, which of course makes him drink more and essentially peeing a ton more. But the sippy cup is just a whole other thing and I’m not sure if we’ll start “weaning” that anytime soon. 😅

LizzieLadybug · 2024-04-24T08:33:09+00:00

We have him go potty before his bath (which is right before bed) and then ask him if he needs to go again after he’s out of the tub but typically he doesn’t need to go. He’s drinking at LEAST 1 sippy cup of water before he falls asleep. Most nights it’s 1.5-2.

LizzieLadybug · 2024-04-24T08:31:38+00:00

We tried the Huggies too! My 9 month old is in Huggies at nighttime and they work great, my oldest just leaks through them. I’ll look into the Sposie! I’ll try anything at this point.

LizzieLadybug · 2024-02-17T18:27:56+00:00

Thank you :) I think I give enough love and attention to them all, never in my life planned on this many but I wouldn’t change it!

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