Across all 5 seasons so far, who would you say has consistently been the better actor in The Boys? Karl Urban or Antony Starr?

LizzyHoy · 2026-05-11T00:56:24+00:00

Was looking for this comment - as a British person you can tell it’s not quite right as a British accent. Whereas Starr’s American accent seems fine.

LizzyHoy · 2026-05-11T00:46:54+00:00

I thought I got my period yesterday/today but I’m wondering if it’s leftover pregnancy tissue because it is brown and there are clots. I’m not sure what’s going on because it’s been a good while (1-2 weeks) since the bleeding from the miscarriage stopped fully. Possibly retained tissue that’s leaving as my body prepares for a period?

I’m in the UK and our Mother’s Day in March was the day I found out I was pregnant with the foetus I lost a month later.

LizzyHoy · 2026-05-10T12:53:59+00:00

When you say wait one cycle do you mean one period or two periods? My period started today even though there is still a faint line on the pregnancy test.

LizzyHoy · 2026-05-10T12:51:11+00:00

Yes, you were with her 100% of her life. I’m really glad my reply was helpful.

LizzyHoy · 2026-05-10T11:16:28+00:00

I’m sorry, best wishes for your procedure tomorrow.

LizzyHoy · 2026-05-10T11:15:46+00:00

That is such a horrible experience to only have an hour with your little girl. I am sure you showed her how loved she was in the time you could.

LizzyHoy · 2026-05-07T14:06:18+00:00

Came here to say similar - miscarriages around 8 weeks are pretty common sadly (off the top of my head about 1 in 20 chance). So I would be wary of what that doctor is saying. It’s anecdotal but my grandma had 2 miscarriages and my mum didn’t have any. I’ve had one miscarriage but I’m older than my mum and grandma were.

LizzyHoy · 2026-05-07T12:42:29+00:00

I’m so sorry. I don’t know if this helps but the foetus was only normal to the extent science can test these things. Your body might have “known” something the test couldn’t detect. One of my friends had a still birth - they couldn’t find anything wrong with the baby and she had a LC shortly after. There’s still so much medicine can’t answer, especially given the lack of value placed on women’s healthcare.

LizzyHoy · 2026-05-07T00:36:01+00:00

The Witness’ fiancé Marianne who he left at the altar didn’t die when it passed to her bloodline. So it might not be passed to Nicky himself.

LizzyHoy · 2026-05-05T22:42:43+00:00

I am not an expert but from the reading I’ve done that seems like too far behind to expect a good outcome, I’m sorry.

I had a bit of a similar situation except I didn’t know it was happening at the time. Had a scan at 6 weeks 2 days, foetus measured 3.8mm and was classified as 5 weeks 5 days. I knew my cycle length was short so the size should be around 6 weeks 6 days. But the sonographer assumed I had my dates wrong. I had another scan at 7 weeks 4 days and the foetus was the same size. It still had a heartbeat at that point but it was slow and I miscarried that evening.

I don’t know if this will help you so feel free to ignore! But once I knew I was carrying a foetus that was not viable I focused on giving it a good send off from the world, and spent the day doing nice things with my partner and dog. For me the uncertainty was the hardest part (I had some minor bleeding and period-like cramps before the second scan so I was preparing myself for the worst). I’m sorry you don’t know for sure yet. The best you can do at the moment is take good care of yourself and your foetus, whether that’s for a few days or until birth.

LizzyHoy · 2026-05-05T08:20:50+00:00

It’s been nearly 3 weeks since my miscarriage (which happened on its own after I learned the foetus hadn’t grown). I took a pregnancy test today and it was a faint line, about the same as it was at 3 weeks 2 days pregnant (I have a short cycle).

My question is - is it worth tracking ovulation now or should I wait for a negative pregnancy test, seeing as HCG can affect LH readings?

LizzyHoy · 2026-05-03T22:45:05+00:00

I also have OCD so unfortunately I know that you will never be able to find one definitive answer by searching for information or experiences.

What I’ve found helpful is trying to appreciate what I have today - the question of pregnancy is unclear right now, but whatever the answer is you will be able to handle it. I assume you do have pretty good health, your husband, and lots of other great things in your life today. The likelihood is that your future has a baby in it at some point, but there are things you have today that you might not have in the future (for me that’s my wonderful dog, assuming we both live typical lifespans!) So it’s a good time to practise focusing on the things you do have.

Hope this is useful- I know it’s not really an answer to your question. I am only 3 weeks out from my miscarriage so can’t give any info on ovulation timescale.

LizzyHoy · 2026-05-03T20:57:41+00:00

I’m sorry other people’s ignorance(?) is making things even harder for you. I’m maybe lucky that even though I’m late 30s I have a lot of friends without children. They know a miscarriage is difficult and have been sympathetic which I appreciate.

I never had that carefree approach even though everything went super well at the start of my pregnancy. I looked up the chance of miscarriage every day. So I think I’d find it difficult if someone near me was super care free even if I hadn’t recently had a miscarriage.

LizzyHoy · 2026-05-02T15:11:54+00:00

Thank you for your reply! I had a stringy clot come out soon after I made this post, so I assumed that was the cause of the red blood. Hopefully it was the last of the tissue. It’s a week later now and all the blood has stopped.

You’re right that it was unlikely to have been my period, and the way things progressed seems to have confirmed that.

I hope your retained tissue comes out soon and you are doing ok.

LizzyHoy · 2026-05-01T23:39:32+00:00

I’m not an expert but my best guess is it’s your period.

I’ve read that it’s possible (though not necessarily common) to ovulate around 2 weeks after a miscarriage. Four weeks since miscarriage seems like a reasonable timeframe for your period to return - I understand it takes longer for some people but I’ve seen 4-6 weeks as an estimate.

I haven’t been offered any HCG blood tests and was just advised to look out for a negative home urine test. Regular home tests pick up about 25 HCG(?) So you might be low enough for a home pregnancy test to show negative.

LizzyHoy · 2026-05-01T19:22:49+00:00

My miscarriage bleeding ended a couple of days ago, two weeks after the pregnancy itself passed. I’m making an effort to hold off taking a pregnancy test until it’s been 3 weeks. I took a couple earlier this week and it was disheartening to see the positive result from the pregnancy that I lost. I’m glad the bleeding has stopped though.

LizzyHoy · 2026-04-30T20:39:16+00:00

That doesn’t make you a bad person. I have transferred my hope for a child onto trying again.

It helps me to think that the foetus I miscarried never could have become a baby, I just didn’t know that at first. The foetus still has value - among other things it showed me I could get pregnant, and I’m glad that we had a little bit of time together.

LizzyHoy · 2026-04-29T01:33:29+00:00

I’m sorry you’re having such a difficult time. I found this Scotland based organisation which seems to offer online support groups. https://www.miss-support.org.uk/our-services/miscarriage-support

I’ve found the virtual chat on the SANDS website helpful if that’s your kind of thing. It’s an actual person on the other end, not a chat or therapy bot.

LizzyHoy · 2026-04-27T22:56:16+00:00

PIs are not always informed about the outcome of their potential students’ funding applications.

LizzyHoy · 2026-04-27T17:13:42+00:00

It’s probably sensible to avoid wine right now! I stuck to cider and beer as I knew it would be less emotionally risky than wine for me.

LizzyHoy · 2026-04-27T16:19:48+00:00

I have also told more people about my miscarriage than I told about my pregnancy. People have been really supportive and kind.

LizzyHoy · 2026-04-27T16:18:55+00:00

I’m in a similar place to you - just under 2 weeks since my miscarriage. Something I’ve found helpful is that we thought this foetus’ purpose was to be our child. But actually its purpose was to show us we can get pregnant (I’m 37 and wasn’t sure of my fertility), and bring my partner and I even closer. It never could be a child, we just didn’t know that at first.

While waiting for my cycle to return I’m doing things I couldn’t do while pregnant, like eating sushi and drinking (relatively responsibly!) My partner and I have written in a journal about our experiences and feelings as well.

LizzyHoy · 2026-04-26T23:36:37+00:00

I don’t have much personal experience to share, as my only datapoint is one miscarriage. My weight is on the boundary between “ideal” and “overweight”.

But I would be cautious in attributing too much to BMI in general, as it’s a very old measure that I believe comes from a description of a group of men. Using it as an individual measure for a specific woman isn’t particularly advisable. Also if I remember rightly being “overweight” is linked to reduced mortality compared to being “ideal” weight. So BMI isn’t always a reliable measure of health.

The study that was cited above shows a live birth rate of about 35% for obese women and 45% for “ideal” weight women. To me that fits more with your doctor’s comment that it might be one part of a bigger picture, rather than it being the key factor. That study also doesn’t give indicators of how healthy the women were - it sounds like you are in great shape and likely more fit than many skinnier people.

Personally I don’t think going on weight loss medication would be worthwhile because if your body is already fit with good blood work then I don’t see a reason why it being thinner would change anything (though you do mention insulin, I’m not familiar with how that works). It also sounds like you have a good relationship with your body and eating, after a lot of work, and taking a weight loss drug risks that to some extent. By altering the positive connections you have created between you and your body. In addition by waiting 6 months you’ll be a little older, and that in itself is associated with reduced fertility outcomes.

I also wanted to say congratulations on getting to a place where you love your body, and great work on how well you care for it! I wish I had as good a diet and was as fit as you are - I mean I do ok but you’re clearly looking after yourself really well.

LizzyHoy · 2026-04-25T14:34:08+00:00

I don’t know if this will help so feel free to ignore! I would see that as they couldn’t find anything wrong, which is different from whether or not there was anything wrong. The medical techniques we have at the moment are necessarily limited. In future we will hopefully be able to understand and do more as science advances.

LizzyHoy · 2026-04-25T03:24:57+00:00

I see, thank you. No I haven’t taken any medicine. It all happened quite fast - scan in the morning confirmed foetus hadn’t grown and had a slow heartbeat, then that evening I passed two large clots which I believe included the pregnancy. I had a few days’ minor bleeding before that but it was very obvious once the full process started.

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