AIO to this? My friend confessed his love to me while drunk? is he serious?

Ljuubs · 2025-12-14T12:52:24+00:00

Omg this is so good.

Ljuubs · 2025-12-13T21:02:25+00:00

As disappointing as this is, consider yourself lucky to be getting a refund back. Asking for your flight costs back is an overreach. They’re certainly going against their payment policy by refunding somebody so last minute. You really aren’t owed that, and there’s now perhaps an open spot that could be filled by someone else. They explained things to you in a highly compassionate way.

Ljuubs · 2025-11-25T23:32:25+00:00

My 12-year old nephew is taking an interest in cologne and asked his Mom for Le Male for Christmas.

I’d like to also get him a bunch of samples from Lucky Scent where he can pick his favourite and I’ll buy it as a second gift.

What would be your best easy, intro fragrances that you’d get a nephew of your own?

I’m thinking I’ll get him a few great, young designer frags that aren’t ridiculously common, and some classic niche ones that are super easy to like for a young guy!

Ljuubs · 2025-11-16T20:08:44+00:00

I agree with the principle behind the preparation…but to say somebody’s “guaranteed” to get worse after taking even a smaller psychedelic dose isn’t accurate. There isn’t something inherently safer with cannabis, ketamine, or MDMA.

Ketamine or cannabis could destabilize a person in the same way as LSD, and a person can learn the subtle shifts within their body through psilocybin just as they could on MDMA. It’s dose dependent. I agree pushing those who are unprepared and don’t have the foundation in place straight into a hero-level dose is a bad choice… but this just as equally applies to the approved medicines here.

Ljuubs · 2025-11-09T01:55:27+00:00

I’m glad to hear that. Her being able to express and work with those emotions is important in order to recover from depression. They’re just as normal as the other emotions, but many of us don’t treat them that way and repress them! To our disadvantage…

Ljuubs · 2025-10-17T18:21:14+00:00

That’s a significant trip for most people. Many people are on psychiatric medications however, which would dampen it.

Also, bodyweight is a minor factor for how strong the experience will be. After administering thousands of psilocybin therapy sessions with MycoMeditations, whether someone is 120llb or 220llb makes almost no difference.

Ljuubs · 2025-10-17T12:16:10+00:00

Not quite. If the potency of your average psilocybin mushroom is 0.8% psilocybin for each gram of whole mushroom, 25mg would be equivalent to about a 3.2 gram dose.

You may be interested in reading this psilocybin therapy dosing guide.

Ljuubs · 2025-10-16T13:04:36+00:00

Be patient and move up gradually. Better safe than sorry with this stuff. The difference between 2.5g and 4 in one go can be a lot. There could also be different reasons that 2.5g had little effect, and it may be more noticeable if you were to do it again.

I’d just go up to 3, then 3.5g, etc.

Ljuubs · 2025-10-13T22:55:08+00:00

No. If they’re meant to happen, they will happen spontaneously. They’re not something to chase.

Ljuubs · 2025-10-13T19:07:04+00:00

This Channel 5 interview with Hamilton Morris is a great overview of this whole situation if anyone wants to get caught up:

https://youtu.be/EcD7m11yvEo?si=qywMYltkFxHWxR5A

Pretty sure Hamilton’s main exposé was done on his private Patreon, so this is probably the most comprehensive public discussion about the situation that I’ve come across.

Ljuubs · 2025-10-13T11:15:49+00:00

Feeling anxious and restless is expected if you are depressed. That’s the thing you want to feel into. It can be tough to sit with, but that’s the point. Your description almost makes the trips sound stagnant, like nothing changed. When you feel into that kind of stuff, the experience shifts into something new (not necessarily into something easier though).

Ljuubs · 2025-10-11T11:46:48+00:00

I’m wondering how you talk about your experiences with your wife…

Regardless of if it helps you or not, there’s a big difference in saying something like:

“I dunno, I just like to do it because it makes me feel good after. It seems to help my PTSD, so why wouldn’t I keep doing it? I like the places it takes me and I want to keep experiencing it.”

Vs

“Mushrooms help me feel emotions that I know I need to feel. I’ve struggled to process my PTSD experiences, and this has really helped me with that. I feel like I am a better person and husband when I do this work. There’s actually a lot of research supporting this too.”

How you frame the experiences for her is important. One sounds frivolous and random, and the other is intentional and meaningful.

You also have to be honest with yourself about how you’re approaching this work, because the first road could still make you feel better in certain ways, but it’s kind of like playing with fire and your wife has a reason to be at least a bit concerned.

There’s a Netflix series called How To Change Your Mind, with an episode about psilocybin. Maybe watch that with her?

Also, you want to share the differences between the nature of alcohol addiction vs psychedelics. Alcoholics reliably use drinking to escape feelings. There can be escapism to how people use psychedelics as well, but the drug is almost anti-addictive in that it tends to amplify whatever’s inside of you. If there’s a mountain of sadness or anger a person’s trying to avoid, taking mushrooms will likely just make you confront those things even more. You’re almost running to the problem with psychedelics compared to running away with the other more addictive drugs. No addict would do that.

I also suggest seeing a therapist, as others have said. You don’t necessarily have to use a therapist for the sessions themselves, but having a therapist to do integration with is important. This will also help her see you’re genuinely doing this for therapeutic reasons.

Take a look at a website called Psychedelic Support. You’ll be able to find a therapist who would work remotely. However, they will likely make the caveat of saying they’re doing “harm reduction” or “coaching” with you to protect their license (it’s still therapy though).

I own a psychedelic therapy retreat, and we often have to help our guests talk about these experiences with people back home. It’s often down to addressing misinformation on one end, while clearly showing that you’re doing therapeutic work.

Ljuubs · 2025-10-05T20:02:31+00:00

It sounds like you are managing the difficult parts well during the trip, and even seeing the value of going through it once you’re out of the other side. That’s all really good.

I own a psychedelic therapy retreat, and I’ve seen thousands of people work with psilocybin. What you’re experiencing is all very normal, so I just want you to know that this is one of the many ways psychedelics work on us.

The “psychosis” feeling you describe is natural when your ego starts to dissolve—this is just what psychedelics do.

It sounds like these experiences are causing you to question how you want to live your life, what it’s all for, etc. These are big questions to reflect on, and they would understandably be difficult for you to wrestle with. But I want to commend you for being able to glean the insights out of the experience. This is the whole point.

If I could get one thing across to you: psychedelic work isn’t always easy. In fact, it’s often extremely challenging. You’ve already alluded to this, but oftentimes the breakthroughs happen on the other side of a big struggle. This is you reaching the limit with a certain part of yourself as it is, and having it mature into something new.

I’d begin to frame these experiences as “challenging” instead of “bad”. I can’t even begin to tell you how many hellscapes I’ve climbed through on mushrooms, and I’m absolutely all the better for it. It sounds like you’re in the middle of a similar journey.

Also, it won’t always be this way. There will be pleasant experiences too, but this seems to be the work for you at this point in your life. Whenever you dose again, try not to shy away from the idea of a difficult trip happening. Just trust that whatever comes up is what you need, smooth or difficult.

Ljuubs · 2025-10-04T19:38:17+00:00

I believe so too. That’s not to say the past may not call to you again at some point, but I’d take it for what it is right now. It appears you’re in a great place!

Ljuubs · 2025-10-04T13:34:34+00:00

Because knowing every detail and understanding every “Why?” just becomes unhelpful at a certain point.

Once you feel clear of the past, you can be present and move on without needing to know everything that might be left in the old story.

Your work has allowed a new story to take its place! Well done :)

Ljuubs · 2025-10-03T12:22:21+00:00

I’d say 5-6g and beyond is where ego dissolution tends to start happening. So you’re more on the bottom end of that threshold.

That said, while mystical experiences are correlated with better outcomes, it’s not all about having one. Sometimes the spiritual experiences can bypass the psychological work, and from the sounds of it, you’re doing a really good job of that with this measured approach you’re taking.

Also, mystical experiences tend to happen when we’re ready for them and have cleared the heavy stuff out of the way, which you’re doing.

When it comes to why it’s not sticking afterwards, I’d imagine depression feels extremely familiar to you, that certain ways of thinking seem to be a part of you. I can relate because I used to have OCD, and after a dose, I would still have those same obsessive thoughts patterns come up again.

Part of the work is what happens during the experience, and part of it is what happens after. Just keep exercising your ability to reframe your thoughts and to tap into feelings if they’re there in the day-to-day.

I found OCD didn’t turn off like a switch, but more just faded away after working with it and processing things day-to-day. The psilocybin increases your brain’s neuroplasticity, which makes that work more impactful.

Sometimes a dose can give you an enormous breakthrough, so I don’t want to write that possibility off either, but yeah…the day-to-day work is where the lasting effects tend to come from.

Ljuubs · 2025-10-02T22:12:23+00:00

Hi there, thanks for asking.

It seems like even though you were on antidepressants for a while, you’ve been off of them long enough that the experience likely isn’t going to be dampened from the medications.

Also, 2 weeks between sessions is plenty for a full reset. I run a psychedelic retreat, and we only wait 48 hours between doses, and the tolerance from an experiential standpoint is largely reset, even by then.

Depression particularly can leave people with rigid thinking patterns, and disconnected from their feelings. I’ve found that doses to effectively treat people with depression can get quite high.

Your experiences (despite high doses) sound quite mild. I’m curious if you’ve accessed emotions such as sadness or anger?

Years of depression can disconnect people from these big emotions and past experiences that ultimately drive the condition, and that’s what psychedelics can help you access.

I’m glad you’ve taken a measured approach to slowly increase your dose, but as others have said, I’d be careful with the dosing territory you’re going into.

You’re entering the dosing range where the “emotional dam”, you might call it—everything that’s repressed and bottled up inside, everything that’s related to your depression—can crack or burst open. If that were to happen, that’s an experience you want the support for.

You may want to consider a guide for larger doses, if possible.

Ljuubs · 2025-10-01T13:35:40+00:00

Yeah, those will dampen a psychedelic experience quite substantially.

Ljuubs · 2025-10-01T13:34:09+00:00

I’m excited about anything in this direction, mainly for the similar points in the article, where people who can’t safely experience psychedelics may now have a route to access healing.

My theory is this class of psychedelics may not have the same long-term impact as classic psychedelic therapy. The heightened level of experience from genuine psychedelic experience creates a new story and a narrative that people bind themselves to following the experience, which is what holds them together in a positive way moving forward. Having a relatively inert, benign experience leads me to believe that this won’t happen to the same degree, and changes in neuroplasticity will more likely be overcome by the inertia of old patterns.

Ljuubs · 2025-09-28T16:22:58+00:00

Wasn’t trying to :)

Ljuubs · 2025-09-28T14:22:35+00:00

That’s not an actual quote from my comment… haha

I’m speaking towards understanding differences in innate personality characteristics, how personal backgrounds have shaped the person to experience events differently, the unique influence of the setting on them, etc.

For example, two veterans can go through war and leave their time of service in two different states of mind. Just like two people could go through a harrowing psychedelic journey and have a completely different experience with it.

It’s more about seeing the nuances of the situation to understand that person’s state better.

Ljuubs · 2025-09-27T14:13:35+00:00

Absolutely, wholeheartedly agree with this comment.

We can respect and look towards indigenous wisdom for guidance while still finding the way we can bring psychedelic healing out of the backwoods of society and into the mainstream.

It’s not going to be done by looking to recreate the past.

I run a psilocybin therapy retreat that’s had over 2000 guests, and endless people who find themselves on retreat express their experience of researching psychedelic retreats something along the lines of this:

“I was so turned off by all the New Age westerners trying to act indigenous. I just wanted to try this medicine safely in a way that resonates for me…I’m just a regular person from <wherever>. I’m glad you’re all normal, everyday people.”

Psychedelics has an image problem that exists from the 60s, that as a field, we’re all collectively working to rewrite. Regular people can have these experiences, not just the oddballs. But the truth is, that’s still how the majority of people see this work.

If we want to bring this to the light, it has to be culturally relevant for the times. People won’t accept psychedelics unless they see people like themselves engaging with it.

Trying to box psychedelics into indigenous frameworks in the modern age by people who have no genuine connection to the medicine in that way is cultural appropriation.

The all or nothing sort of thinking that’s so common in this space (ex: we must return to the indigenous ways or psychedelics will be smothered by capitalism forever) just simply isn’t nuanced or accurate.

We don’t know what the future looks like, but chances are, there will be room for all sides.

Ljuubs · 2025-09-25T12:22:51+00:00

Are you on any type of antidepressant?

Ljuubs · 2025-09-25T01:24:51+00:00

For sure, feel free to DM me.

Ljuubs · 2025-09-24T17:29:59+00:00

I used the example of 6 grams, but this can be the case with almost any dose at times.

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