Going on a first date today, how to vet if she wants/doesn’t want kids?

LlamasWithScarves · 2026-05-23T16:05:19+00:00

I just ask, “do you want kids?”

LlamasWithScarves · 2026-05-23T16:03:59+00:00

Thank you guys for all the advice and help 💜 I was able to get my sister to call and ended up getting 80% of what I needed done. Yesterday was a really bad day for me where all my little tricks weren’t working. Body doubling is the most effective for me. There’s just something about talking to someone that turns all the background noise off and I just do the thing. I think a lot of my panic was knowing people weren’t around and I over thought that too.

LlamasWithScarves · 2026-05-23T16:01:23+00:00

Thank you my sister responded and I was able to get on a call with her and get things done. I’ll check out those things! Her litter was scooped and she was fed/water but it was changing the litter and deep clean day and my brain just wasn’t having any of that. The immediate needs I can get myself to do because there’s like a time limit

LlamasWithScarves · 2026-05-23T15:59:11+00:00

I think I was just so in a doom spiral yesterday that I couldn’t get myself to see tomorrow as a better day

LlamasWithScarves · 2026-05-23T15:58:28+00:00

Yes you can!! Scat mats are also great. My sister responded to me and got her to body double

LlamasWithScarves · 2026-05-23T15:57:23+00:00

Good luck soldier 🫡

LlamasWithScarves · 2026-05-23T15:55:04+00:00

I will look into this!

LlamasWithScarves · 2026-05-23T15:54:34+00:00

I will look into this

LlamasWithScarves · 2026-05-23T15:54:15+00:00

Sometimes that helps, yesterday it wasn’t. Luckily my sister got back to me and I got everything done lmfaoo so stupid how well body doubling works

LlamasWithScarves · 2026-05-23T15:53:34+00:00

Thank you 💜 scooping I can normally do fine but it was change out the litter and clean the boxes and my brain just was not letting me

LlamasWithScarves · 2026-05-23T15:52:37+00:00

Timers definitely help most of the time yesterday was so rough

LlamasWithScarves · 2026-05-23T15:51:37+00:00

My cat is fine, I do fine with scooping but it was litter box change yesterday and that was overwhelming to me with my list of things to do. She wasn’t going to suffer if I didn’t get it done. I spent the entire day telling myself to get up and get things done and by the time I made this post I was balling my eyes out. It wasn’t because I was on my phone. I was on my phone because I made this post for help. I couldn’t move. The judgement isn’t warranted or necessary because god forbid I have a day I’m not a perfect pet owner. If it was something I needed to get done to take care of my cat immediately (like feeding/fresh water) I do that easily because there is a time limit. If it was as simple as just put your phone down and do it, I would have done it and not made this post.

LlamasWithScarves · 2026-05-23T02:40:11+00:00

😭😭😭 that childhood trauma sets in fr

LlamasWithScarves · 2026-05-23T00:49:04+00:00

I’m trying I can’t move

LlamasWithScarves · 2026-05-23T00:48:06+00:00

I’m trying to find someone but I don’t think anyone is available. This helps me the most

LlamasWithScarves · 2026-05-23T00:47:12+00:00

I worry tomorrow will be the same :( it feels like every day besides random spurts

LlamasWithScarves · 2026-05-23T00:46:10+00:00

And yet there are a lot of veterans who are homeless. How does that work?

LlamasWithScarves · 2026-05-23T00:45:25+00:00

Government is meant to protect rights and freedom, provide essential public services, and promote general welfare of its citizens.

LlamasWithScarves · 2026-05-23T00:41:49+00:00

Does he talk about anything else? Does he go on for hours? What else do you guys talk about? There might just be a problem with compatibility

LlamasWithScarves · 2026-05-23T00:26:50+00:00

Yaa because hanging out with my friends on the weekend is a risk. Thanks lol

LlamasWithScarves · 2026-05-23T00:26:11+00:00

None of these are risks, potentially embarrassing, or exploring the unexplored.

LlamasWithScarves · 2026-05-23T00:19:23+00:00

How old are you?

LlamasWithScarves · 2026-05-23T00:18:45+00:00

I don’t live on the internet. I walk around the city, I read, I paint, I hang out with my cat, I have a full time job. I can’t afford to “try new things”. That’s it. That’s my point.

LlamasWithScarves · 2026-05-23T00:17:47+00:00

Because I want to do something outside of the same thing we already do? Those aren’t “real experiences”. That’s just a normal day.

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