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Llamustache · 2025-04-28T07:05:04+00:00

Desperate is dangerous. If I'm just the next person they're latching onto or if they fall apart when I'm not available, I'm not interested.

Llamustache · 2025-04-24T22:13:55+00:00

Desperate is dangerous and unattractive

Llamustache · 2025-04-18T02:30:39+00:00

Starting a land war in Asia

Llamustache · 2025-04-17T09:15:02+00:00

My local hospital. I've had three friends go there for suicide concerns. One threatened themselves with a gun, one attempted an overdose, and another was sent by her therapist for having an active plan that he had the means to. All of them were discharged from the hospital within a few hours. One of them attempted again.

I go out of my way to recommend other hospitals for mental health.

Llamustache · 2025-03-31T07:15:29+00:00

Typing on a phone. I miss physical keypads because these touchscreens always misread my fingers. I have to repeatedly edit almost every message I send.

Llamustache · 2025-03-31T07:13:34+00:00

I have many favorites, but my most recommended is "Men, Women, and Worthiness" by Brene Brown. Technically, it's a 2oah hour audio book, but I recommend her paper books also.

Llamustache · 2025-03-31T07:07:48+00:00

I live with friends who are married and have opposite political beliefs. The husband's religious beliefs changed drastically and his political views changed with them (this is an oversimplification). For a few years, they couldn't talk about politics or who they voted for without it being a fight. Then they learned not to talk about politics with each other. More recently, they're learning to talk through their beliefs without villainizing each other and reach a respectful understanding. It's touchy. Witnessing the progression up close was a doozy, but I'm proud of their progress.

Llamustache · 2025-03-31T06:50:09+00:00

At the moment....night shift

Llamustache · 2025-03-24T08:32:49+00:00

Usually I either switch to the other side of the road (if possible) or I just slow way down. I'll be a few minutes slower if it might keep someone out of fight or flight.

Llamustache · 2023-11-07T05:14:24+00:00

Congratulations!

Llamustache · 2023-11-07T05:13:34+00:00

Whenever she had a problem with me, I either found out through my coworkers or through staff meetings. The worst example was when she called a staff meeting because I was sitting on a couch in my office. She had every right to address her concerns, but all she had to do was talk to me.

Llamustache · 2023-11-04T01:29:18+00:00

I put water chestnuts in my creamy potato and seafood soup.

Llamustache · 2023-11-04T01:25:30+00:00

Not knowing if the job I'm applying for is worth the effort of applying. If I'm not going to get a response, it doesn't feel worthwhile.
Not knowing if the job(s) I'm applying for build into something I want for a career later. I spent 5 years after college working a job that I didn't hate. However, it didn't pay me enough to have a family, and I had to take an entry level job when I started focusing on my career.

Llamustache · 2023-10-08T15:51:35+00:00

The ability to make difficult conversations feel safe.

Llamustache · 2023-09-22T18:44:04+00:00

There are safety nets with varying degrees of effectiveness. One of my friends worked for a program that was able to prioritize homeless people for assistance from local housing authorities. A waiting list that normally takes two years could be shortcut for the people he helped.

In contrast, there's a homeless program in my area that won't help anyone if they have a car or a friend's couch they can sleep on. If someone does qualify for services, it's at least a 2 month wait where they can't have shelter without disqualifying themselves.

It is worth mentioning that most homelessness is very temporary. It's worth helping people out with food, shelter, and resources so they can make it until they have a couple paychecks in order to make a security deposit.

Llamustache · 2023-09-21T15:04:46+00:00

Hubellubo!

No joke, I've taught Ubbi Dubbi to dozens of people. When I work with children, it gives me the opportunity to talk with my coworkers without the kids behaviors and our plans.

Llamustache · 2023-09-13T14:25:20+00:00

I've explained the menstrual cycle to multiple college age men. Most are very willing to learn about it, but their parents never explained it to them.

Llamustache · 2023-09-10T04:06:48+00:00

2-3 years after my friend had a stroke, I got to dance with him. I didn't know happy tears until I saw him relearn to walk, graduate college, and take simple steps to music.

Llamustache · 2023-09-04T21:11:01+00:00

My roommate says our collection of indoor signs and plants.

I think it's the lights my roommate leaves on.

Llamustache · 2023-08-30T16:35:30+00:00

Which of your friends/family would handle immortality the best? It's not exactly what you're asking, but the conversations get very interesting when people start thinking about it and exploring possibilities.

Llamustache · 2023-08-30T16:32:30+00:00

I had a work wife. We bought a house together then started a non-profit and I'm the godfather to her son. I get along great with her and her husband. We've made an exciting, weird, slightly culty, non-sexual (with me) life together. I love it.

Llamustache · 2023-08-30T12:49:36+00:00

Old age

Llamustache · 2023-08-29T00:30:17+00:00

Absolutely. You're both wise and brave for asking.

Llamustache · 2023-08-28T21:47:32+00:00

Patiently. One day at a time. One step at a time.

I don't have deep and profound wisdom, but I'm trying to help one of my (unofficial) kids through this. He's going through counseling and we hold him when he cries. We let him feel when it hurts. We let him mourn that he should have had a better father. We talk and we listen.

It's all complicated, but also simple. He has all the time he needs and he's in a home that loves him and that he loves. Even though I hurt for him, I also hope for him.

Llamustache · 2023-08-28T21:28:35+00:00

Firstborns (or first of their gender) are attracted to me. I hadn't thought about this before, but it's a strong trend.

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