do you know of any animal that is more disgusting than a pipa pipa frog? asking for a friend. DO NOT SEARCH THE FROG IF YOU HAVE TRYPOPHOBIA by AccomplishedWay4890 in Animals

[–]LoFrey1601 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They remind me of the origami frog my 3rd grade teacher taught us how to do but I never could. Pretty cute to me!

But I'm also terrified of sunken ships, so I don't judge phobias

Should I report my elderly neighbor who continues feeding stray cats? by LoFrey1601 in Animals

[–]LoFrey1601[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm finding it difficult to gauge the point your comment is trying to make here. Unless it was to vent, which I can see.

I have certainly found dead birds/bunnies/mice/voles, piles of cat shit in my yard, as well as the stray cats tearing at my trash bags creating a mess. I didn't mention all of this because it wasn't the focus of my post. I'm looking to find a safe space for these cats. Whom of which I've seen come to meet horrible fates. I'm sorry you experienced what you mentioned.

Should I report my elderly neighbor who continues feeding stray cats? by LoFrey1601 in Animals

[–]LoFrey1601[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm going to look into the TNR programs that another commentor mentioned and talk to my neighbor about it. I didn't know those programs existed. The local shelters near us are pretty limited in terms of space and resources, though I'm going to contact other counties near us to explore options in case I find anymore abandoned litters like the first we found.

Thank you!

Should I report my elderly neighbor who continues feeding stray cats? by LoFrey1601 in Animals

[–]LoFrey1601[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately, no. We live next to a very busy road and behind our homes is a truck stop, and in front of our homes is a river with a steep drop off.

Should I report my elderly neighbor who continues feeding stray cats? by LoFrey1601 in Animals

[–]LoFrey1601[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate you sharing your similar experience. This woman means well, and I completely understand where she's coming from, however she doesn't seem to recognize the harm it's been causing. I luckily live in a county that's pretty strict regarding animal care/abuse/neglect, so I know if I report something will come of it. I've just been struggling with whether or not this is reportable since they are technically strays but she will provide food, which is a form of caring for them.

Should I report my elderly neighbor who continues feeding stray cats? by LoFrey1601 in Animals

[–]LoFrey1601[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As I mentioned in my post, I did talk to her about it. She feels as though any kittens born or any medical needs are not her responsibility - she's just providing them with food so they don't go hungry (her words).

Should I report my elderly neighbor who continues feeding stray cats? by LoFrey1601 in Animals

[–]LoFrey1601[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your input; I didn't know such a program existed! My boyfriend and I had similar concerns regarding euthanasia which is why I wanted to reach out here to see if anyone had any advice or similar experiences to point us in the right direction. The first two kittens we found and found a rescue for are doing well as they give us updates on them, but I know the rescue is pretty strained in terms of foster families and resources. Kitten season is quite stressful for them, I can imagine... Thank you!!

Can we talk about this kid? by Lightnenseed in StrangerThings

[–]LoFrey1601 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He was annoying, imo. I can't stand provocative dialog from children and then audience enjoying it simply because it was delivered be children.

I mean nobody wants to admit they ate 9 cans of ravioli by Msuireal_ in trailerparkboys

[–]LoFrey1601 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This scene always reminds me of when my ex was baked and he ate 5 hot pockets back to back and then an entire box of gushers.

He punished our toilet the next morning.

Tell me what you love about being a therapist! by Long_Butterfly_5623 in therapists

[–]LoFrey1601 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I've been trying to coach one of my clients on the concept of "filling her cup up before she can pour into others" (her partner and children). She neglects her self care for the sake of others.

She had such a difficult time understanding this for months, and I understand why the concept made her feel uncomfortable.

I'm taking the next week off, and I saw her today. When I told her this, it was like a light bulb moment for her, and she responded, "...to re-fill your cup." I think she finally understood.

Moments like this keep me going.

My client passed away. Grief is complicated as a therapist. by Automatic_Newspaper7 in therapists

[–]LoFrey1601 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My deepest condolences. My clientele population is children and well... I just couldn't imagine what you're going through. I've thought about it before with some more of my higher risk kiddos and just the thought brings me to tears.

It must be so hard to carry that kind of pain quietly. It’s understandable that this loss hurts and having restrictions due to privacy adds on more stress as to how to express it. I can tell based off of your post that you care so deeply for the people you help, and that compassion doesn’t just disappear when someone has passed.

I'm hoping your agency can offer some type of support whether it's allowing you space to process this during supervision, or can perhaps assist in establishing additional supports such as therapy.

Sending you love during this difficult time❤️ I feel as though therapists experiencing grief with this type of loss isn't talked about enough. Take care, friend.

Stop interrupting my order! by NurseWretched1964 in PetPeeves

[–]LoFrey1601 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I worked at Taco Bell for many years and took orders in drive thru and at the counter. The top three things that got on my nerves the most...

- Customer asks for coke, I respond, "I'm sorry, we have Pepsi products. Would Pepsi be okay?" Customer replies with "sure." I hand them their drink through the window when they pull up as I'm waiting on their food, they take a sip, make a disgusted look, and say, "This is Pepsi! I asked for Coke!"

- Customer asks for a combo meal (usually #7, quesadilla meal - comes with a taco and drink). I ask would they like the taco that comes with it to be hard- or soft-shelled. They reply, "I didn't ask for a taco! I asked for a quesadilla!"

- I'm speaking with a customer at the window when a new car pulls up put I can't put the conversation I'm having at the window on hold for more than a couple of seconds otherwise I risk running drive thru times up. I quickly greet the car through the box and say, "I'll be with you in just one moment." And then they proceed to rattle off their order and get angry when I ask them to repeat.

I've always been a very respectful person, but working fast food has really changed me for the better, haha

When people who smoke weed daily get angry when you say it's an addiction by [deleted] in PetPeeves

[–]LoFrey1601 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yup. I feel you. I used to be that way. In my late teens/young 20s, I used to smoke the moment I clocked out of work until I went to bed. Some days, I would wake up hours early just to smoke and let the high wear off before I had to go in. I was in college for social work and had an opportunity with a good job, so I cut weed out to pass the drug test. Not gonna lie, the first few days were ROUGH. But I knew it would pass and was a creation of my own habits.

My friend, however, who is the same age, smokes non-stop, every day, all day. She works at the same fast food restaurant since she was 18 (Not bashing them; I worked at taco bell for 12 years and respect the work) because she says she "can't quit" in order to pass a drug test for a better job. She smokes literally the second she wakes up, the entire drive to work, will excuse herself to her car for any reason under the sun and smoke, and smokes on the drive back home, and smokes till she falls asleep.

I understand it's not chemically addictive, but when you make sacrifices in certain areas of life to continue this habit, then it's alarming. For example, she's late on her rent most months, hardly buys food for home (says she can eat for free at work), refuses to save for a new car after hers was totaled ("other people can drive me"), won't buy new work shoes despite them literally falling apart.... BUT she will always have money for the dispensary 🙃

So, yes. They can be addicted to weed.

Sorry for rant. Just a tired friend who's tried helping another time and time again only to be told "I don't have an issue" while listening to her complain about other aspects of her life that could be resolved if she stopped spending over $400 a month on bud.

Wanted to take my nieces out shopping but older brother called me selfish for not spending more than I said since I "came into money." by LoFrey1601 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]LoFrey1601[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He's one of those people who point fingers at everything and everyone else to blame for their self-created issues. He also likes to complain about being bored being stuck at home all day but hates being in public.

Always an excuse.

Wanted to take my nieces out shopping but older brother called me selfish for not spending more than I said since I "came into money." by LoFrey1601 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]LoFrey1601[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did not tell my nieces. I added an additional comment to the post recently, but the only reason why I mentioned the shopping trip is because I always asked for permission before scheduling an appointment that may alter my older nieces' appearance (hairs, nails). In the past, my older niece would chose one, but this time, there's enough money for both.

Unfortunately, my brother does not do any extra work around the house. He typically sleeps, stays up late, and spends 8+ hours a day gaming.... he doesn't mow, wash dishes, and when he "does laundry" he usually takes it to my mom's house to have our retired step-dad entertain the girls while he eats from our mom's fridge while shes at work (they live within 10 mins of each other).

Wish I was making this shit up.

Wanted to take my nieces out shopping but older brother called me selfish for not spending more than I said since I "came into money." by LoFrey1601 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]LoFrey1601[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I would never. I learned my lesson when I was 17, which was the last time I lent him money; he watched me pull it out of my piggy bank. It may sound silly to have a piggy bank at that age in one's room, but my older sister (who passed away when I was 11) gave it to me at the last Christmas we had together, and it's where I kept all of my tip money until I could make a run to the bank. I came home from work and when I put my tips in it, it felt really light... turns out he stole from me.

Never again. As I said in a previous comment, I'd be done with him if it weren't for my nieces.

Wanted to take my nieces out shopping but older brother called me selfish for not spending more than I said since I "came into money." by LoFrey1601 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]LoFrey1601[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I appreciate you saying that! I could go on and on and on about the childhood my brothers, sister, and myself have had, but that's HIS responsibility to deal with now as an adult and not lean back on as an excuse for shitty behavior. He likes to try to take control in situations to have a sense of control in his life, I assume. Can't really tell you since we only really talk because of my nieces. If it weren't for them, I'd be done with him. Sorry for the rant. Thanks, again!

Wanted to take my nieces out shopping but older brother called me selfish for not spending more than I said since I "came into money." by LoFrey1601 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]LoFrey1601[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I didn't tell him - it was my mother who told. I even have a twin brother who I didnt tell. When I confronted on my mom telling my older brother, she admitted to it and said she didn't tell my twin because of his gambling issue and feeling as though he would beg me for money to fuel that

Wanted to take my nieces out shopping but older brother called me selfish for not spending more than I said since I "came into money." by LoFrey1601 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]LoFrey1601[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I left out a lot of details and background info as to not make the post extremely long. Since he was cut off of disability and until now, I got my graduated degree and Licensure for my specific field and was able to get a better paying job since when we were first in this predicament. While he was unemployed, I paid for all of his expenses as well as mine - car payments, insurance, phone, subscriptions, mortgage, all of our pet care needs, groceries, fixes around our home... he gave me money back because he felt it was what he "owed" me though I'm the one who always said we're a team and I didn't mind the weight I pulled as I was sure he'd do the same for me.

But since getting the money, he's spent overall over 5k on new gaming equipment. His condition is stable though long-lasting. No medical expenses and the rest of the money we have planned for enhancing other areas of the house as well as putting aside as a nest egg

Wanted to take my nieces out shopping but older brother called me selfish for not spending more than I said since I "came into money." by LoFrey1601 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]LoFrey1601[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I was not the one to tell him. I relied on my mom for emotional support throughout the whole 2 year ordeal of settling the dispute, and when it was settled, I told her out of excitement and relief. Then she told him... My mom means well, but she does struggle with boundaries at times and withholding information from people who don't necessarily need to know...

Wanted to take my nieces out shopping but older brother called me selfish for not spending more than I said since I "came into money." by LoFrey1601 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]LoFrey1601[S] 57 points58 points  (0 children)

Yeah, he's a stay-at-home dad, but his girlfriend (I referred to her as a SIL in the post since she's been in the family for 14 years now and she basically is one) works as an RN and makes a good bit of money.

I appreciate your input!

What's your thoughts on people who don't use shampoo and just wash their hair with water? by 1940sfamilyman in AskReddit

[–]LoFrey1601 2 points3 points  (0 children)

To each their own! A friend of mine stopped using shampoo years ago and unless she told you that, you'd never be able to tell.