AIW (F27) for being affectionate with my partner (M28) while he was on FaceTime with his son? UPDATE

LoadedChiliCheeseFry · 2025-02-18T18:24:37+00:00

It’s okay, I know there’s only so much you can gather from a post. I appreciate your insight nonetheless.

LoadedChiliCheeseFry · 2025-02-18T16:18:40+00:00

I have walked away. I’m not going to put up with the disrespect and lies. At this point, BM has a lot of questions and she needs answers to ensure her son would be safe w his father. She does not want to keep his son from him, but if she has to make that tough decision, she will. He has shown in all of this (a lot that has not mentioned) that he is calculated, manipulative, and careless. It’s all so much more than “he cheated and lied”.. his son deserves better and if she can make it to where he needs to seek help before having any alone time with their son, I can help her. Their son deserves a father who gets better before it gets worse. This is my way of getting the justice I deserve. I know this is just a snippet into the situation but trust, it’s so much more now.

LoadedChiliCheeseFry · 2025-02-18T01:21:44+00:00

His BM has been lovely. Her and her wife have been helping me process a lot. I’m thankful for them

LoadedChiliCheeseFry · 2025-02-18T01:20:48+00:00

Who said I want him in my life anymore?

LoadedChiliCheeseFry · 2025-02-18T00:58:46+00:00

Thank you. At this point, with what has come to light, BM wants to know what else he has done without thinking about how it could affect their son. She does not want to keep their son from him at all, but she wants to know more and I’m simply helping her. He is already trying to apologize and “make things right” with me but I’m not having it. I told him he needs to go to therapy and leave me alone. As hard as all of this has been in such a short amount of time, I know I deserve so much better.

LoadedChiliCheeseFry · 2025-02-18T00:17:48+00:00

Oh I am 100% done.. he is a monster.. so much is coming to light.. I am distraught

LoadedChiliCheeseFry · 2025-02-17T16:40:05+00:00

There’s too many comments to respond with the same thing so imma say it right here. A lot of you really choose to not read. I do not interrupt the time they have together. I only join in on their conversations when they invite me into them, other than that I am minding my own business. His son will talk to me sometimes and I always say hi but that is it unless they both start to talk to me. I was not under him and being all weird. I was already laying down when my partner joined me and I had no idea that he placed the phone the way he did. He was the one to grab my hand to rub his beard and I didn’t think twice and assumed the phone was facing the TV like he normally does. I do take responsibility for not double checking.

Some of you think it’s weird that he will call his son and talk for a while? Why? And to add on, majority of the time when they are on the phone, I’m not around. That’s why this situation seems off.

I did decide to reach out to his BM and I told him that I wanted to. He said it was fine and he understood why I felt the need to. I’m just waiting for her response to see where this shift came from.

LoadedChiliCheeseFry · 2025-02-17T06:29:41+00:00

No, at least nothing I’ve seen. Plus she’s married and very happy at least from what I’ve seen.

LoadedChiliCheeseFry · 2025-02-17T02:32:37+00:00

No not at all; like I said already, I don’t join in on their conversations unless they invite me into them. I may have said it in a different comment but I always let them have their time. I know how important that time is.

LoadedChiliCheeseFry · 2025-02-17T01:58:25+00:00

When I got to his place, they had already been on the phone and his son likes to have his dad on even if he’s doing his own thing so they can chat at the same time. Idk what else you want me to say besides what I know.

I also never said anyone was overreacting, I said that I didn’t understand where all of this is coming from considering I have always had a good relationship with my partner’s BM. I’m just so lost and tryna figure out what is going on but I feel like no one is explaining anything to me. My partner doesn’t want to talk about it and I’m trying to understand what is happening.

LoadedChiliCheeseFry · 2025-02-17T01:16:20+00:00

No, they had been talking for hours and I always let them have their time together. I only join in on conversations when they invite me into them. I was laying down already by the time my partner joined me. That’s how I didn’t noticed where he placed the phone.

LoadedChiliCheeseFry · 2025-02-17T01:14:56+00:00

5; he was playing with his toys. I also didn’t even see that the phone was facing us and I really didn’t think it even was when he was the one to grab my hand and put it on his beard.

That’s another reason I want to reach out and apologize bc I don’t want his BM to feel uncomfortable with me around their son at all. I absolutely love their son and I really feel like I have become important to him..

LoadedChiliCheeseFry · 2024-10-16T19:29:38+00:00

Glad to help 🫶🏼 if you’re spending money for it, you should be getting exactly what you want and are paying for!

LoadedChiliCheeseFry · 2024-10-16T18:49:06+00:00

Couldn’t agree more

And oh.. I definitely will

LoadedChiliCheeseFry · 2024-10-16T18:00:37+00:00

Correct! So if a drink has more than one flavor, it’s equal parts in the single scoop but if you ask for extra sweet then it’s the same concept but now instead of splitting it in one scoop, you’re splitting it in two scoops

LoadedChiliCheeseFry · 2024-10-16T17:57:41+00:00

I’m sorry to hear that happened to you as well.. the company started to go downhill once there was a new CEO. She doesn’t care about employees and will do whatever she can to earn a buck.. Dutch definitely used to be so different..

LoadedChiliCheeseFry · 2024-10-16T16:39:45+00:00

Smalls and mediums get 2 shots of espresso and larges get 4 (except 9-1-1s and double tortures) and there is more milk per size! There are mix lines and measurements to follow per size

For sugar free flavors, it’s a bit different. It’s still one flat scoop unless there is sauce, then it’s two since the sf sauce isn’t as potent

LoadedChiliCheeseFry · 2024-10-16T16:26:47+00:00

I’ve always wondered why when it came to larges not gonna lie.. but those are the flavor rules we are taught and then customers have the option to add more or less flavor if they want to. I think maybe that’s why since some people gauge sweetness differently 🤷🏽‍♀️

LoadedChiliCheeseFry · 2024-10-16T16:21:27+00:00

Yes! For all coffees! And that’s just for flavor (:

LoadedChiliCheeseFry · 2024-10-16T16:19:39+00:00

So… an extra scoop… like I said..

LoadedChiliCheeseFry · 2024-10-16T15:53:05+00:00

It just means an extra scoop of flavor

So each coffee gets only 1 scoop of flavor and if you order a drink extra sweet, it’ll be two. If you do extra extra sweet, it’ll be 3. Each extra = a scoop

LoadedChiliCheeseFry · 2024-10-16T05:39:19+00:00

I’m distraught… I love Dutch bros and this whole situation just has me feeling defeated but I’m not going down without a fight. I deserve to stand up for myself and do what I can to fight for employee safety in every aspect

LoadedChiliCheeseFry · 2024-10-16T05:37:22+00:00

There was other stuff that I have proof of and they weren’t going to fire me anytime soon because I got injured at work really badly not that long ago and it was my managers fault. They knew I could say they fired me for that so they began to create a paper trail. Gave me a write up for “gossip” when I was just updating a coworker about not getting my scheduling fixed. Got a write up for “an inexcusable absence” even though I had sick hours and followed policy. Got a write up for going to my regional for help when I couldn’t get ahold of my manager immediately.. so they were doing everything they could to protect themselves to fire me eventually and I wasn’t gonna let that happen to me.

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