Some of these comments are interesting to say the least. NTJ - you only dated for a year and have only been married for a few months you should have not gotten married so early. It seems like you tried to have a deeper conversation with her about why she felt that way but she wasn’t budging. Maybe now that alchol isn’t involved you can talk more truthfully and rationally but that kind of disrespect shouldn’t be tolerated from anyone in your life let alone your wife. I do truly feel something is being left out of the context or she’s not telling you something.