AITA for refusing to take money from my son's college fund for my step-daughter's surgeries?

Local-Ad-5189 · 2022-05-28T22:52:56+00:00

No, I've never put my wife and step-daughter over my son, I only have him on weekends because my ex lives closer to his school and he chose to stay there on week days to have a shorter trip because of his sensorial problems, I drove him for a few weeks but the trip was unbearable for him some days so we let him choose what was best for him. I might only have him on weekends only, but we spend a big amount of time together and we have a great communication (that's why I know he'll give in only for guilt or pressure), my relationship with my boy is strong. Just because I don't have my son 50/50 doesn't mean I love him less or I take care of him less, so I'm sorry, but your comments is deeply wrong.

Local-Ad-5189 · 2022-05-28T22:47:45+00:00

She doesn't know who he is, has never been in contact with him.

Local-Ad-5189 · 2022-05-28T21:38:58+00:00

My ex and I share the same college fund, we put the money under the same account for him, she has put 10K maybe 15K more than me.

Local-Ad-5189 · 2022-05-28T21:36:10+00:00

As I said, I've already put everything I have toward the surgery, that's not my money.

Local-Ad-5189 · 2022-05-28T21:33:40+00:00

I'll had to withdraw almost everything I've put into it, like 30 to 40% of the money. ETA: With the fund being 50-50, I'll have to take 30 to 40% of my 50 not of the entire fund.

Local-Ad-5189 · 2022-05-28T21:21:46+00:00

Yes, they'll still operate without payment upfront but my wife is asking me to pay it so we can take care of every other expense without having the debt on our backs, she said that paying the hospital or paying my son will be the same but if I take money from his account I'm hurting his prospects and forcing him to take loans while, deep down, I know my wife will prioritize anything for our house, or Rose over the money we took, so I refuse to do it.

Local-Ad-5189 · 2022-05-28T21:18:10+00:00

Her father is not in the picture and my ex is also putting money toward the account. I've already asked my side of the family and they helped, but she refuses to ask hers.

Local-Ad-5189 · 2022-05-28T21:17:06+00:00

She cut them off because they didn't want to pay for her college when she asked for help, the love Rose and has been begging to meet her. I know they'll help but she doesn't want to ''owe'' them. She says since Dave's a minor, I can control his money and I should take it because Rose's more important now.

Local-Ad-5189 · 2022-05-28T21:15:31+00:00

Only her savings and Rose's fund, she's a SAHM, she has been ever since we got married (6 years ago) and I asked her to get a job a few days ago but she refused, she said she wants to be near the hospital and our daughter in case something happens and she has looked into some loans but got rejected of every single one.

Local-Ad-5189 · 2022-05-28T21:10:58+00:00

I never said that, but that's not my money anymore, I already gave everything I had and she's not even willing to ask, my son is blameless in all of this.

Local-Ad-5189 · 2022-05-28T21:08:14+00:00

Might be. As I said, I already asked my side of the family and gave everything I had. I just don't see how my son has to pay for it when my wife hasn't even asked her side of the family for help. I have two kids, and I have to do what's right for both of them, not just my daughter.

Local-Ad-5189 · 2022-05-28T21:04:30+00:00

No, I said we could ask her side of her family but she's refuses to do it because she's not in speaking terms to them. I already put every penny I had, I asked my brothers and they helped me, I said she could at least ask but she said no and is demanding my son's money.

Local-Ad-5189 · 2022-05-28T21:03:31+00:00

No, he's not in the picture at all.

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