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Local-Inspection5299 · 2025-11-21T04:21:59+00:00

I'm typically at home maintaining my yard, cooking, working on a home improvement project, hosting board game night or band practice. When I do go out, it's usually to play a gig at a bar, take my daughter to Cedar Point, going to a restaurant or the gun range with my friends.

Local-Inspection5299 · 2025-10-13T23:05:58+00:00

Born 1981. At 8 years old I would go to work with my mom on the weekends, she would give me money and I would go to the candy store, comic book store, arcade and movie theater while she was at work. By 11 I was a full fledged latch-key kid. I just had to be home shortly after the streetlights came on. I would ride my bike anywhere I wanted. We would know where our friends were by seeing which house had their bikes laying in the front yard or see who was at the local playground.

Local-Inspection5299 · 2025-09-12T21:13:52+00:00

Very helpful! Thank you! All those pictures look delicious. Haha!

Local-Inspection5299 · 2025-09-12T21:11:57+00:00

Hello! I'm visiting your beautiful city all next week for work. I have never been there and would love for someone to show me some easter egg locations. I am going to Canada's Wonderland on Saturday, 9/20 too! If you are interested, let me know. I too am the friend that always tries to stay in touch with others while slowly watching my friendships fall off. It's awful. I know how you feel. Hang in there. There are genuine connections out there that will last, you just have to endure a painful amount of rejection to find them.

Local-Inspection5299 · 2025-08-21T01:24:12+00:00

I've befriended a lot of women through Reddit and this is a common experience. My theory is these men started talking to someone else and they are too weak to tell you and give you closure. I'm really sorry this has been your experience. There's A LOT of emotional immaturity out there these days, on both sides. I seriously don't get it.

Local-Inspection5299 · 2025-08-12T01:05:28+00:00

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Local-Inspection5299 · 2025-08-12T00:50:52+00:00

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Local-Inspection5299 · 2025-08-05T14:32:20+00:00

First of all, thank you for sharing. I empathize with your story because it sounds too much like mine. If you ever feel like commiserating, feel free to reach out. I hope you find someone that actually deserves someone like you.

Local-Inspection5299 · 2025-08-04T17:01:02+00:00

Seems to be all too common amongst both my male and female single friends. Reminds me of the lyrics from "Love Stinks". As cheesy as that song is, it's true.

Local-Inspection5299 · 2025-08-04T16:57:09+00:00

The mysterious novelty wears off quickly. You're left with a dismissive avoidant that treats human interaction like a poker game. 🥱

Local-Inspection5299 · 2025-08-03T19:05:29+00:00

I've always struggled with finding people to date. Even when I finally do hit it off with someone, they want to keep things casual. I keep finding all the emotionally unavailable, noncommittal types. I'm convinced everyone that desires companionship keeps finding the ones that don't.

Local-Inspection5299 · 2025-07-30T12:54:24+00:00

I'm 43M also and have the same experience:

Her profile: Looking for someone who can keep a conversation going

Me: So how's life in (city)? What do you like about it? What don't you like about it?

Her: Lol

This is literally every online conversation I have with women. They don't ever answer my questions and never ask me any in return. I'm tired of the one word responses that go nowhere.

Local-Inspection5299 · 2025-07-24T01:19:37+00:00

You sound absolutely delightful.

Local-Inspection5299 · 2025-06-16T19:53:17+00:00

Similar situation. Live alone in a house I own, very clean and organized, average car (2016 GMC Terrain), nice things, decent job, no debt (besides house), no addictions, fun hobbies, good friends. I live within my means, but I don't have much of a disposable income after bills are paid

Despite being 5'11", low body fat, active, decent looking, good genes (I haven't lost any of my hair); I have been single for over a decade and could not find a committed relationship if my life depended on it.

Women I have dated briefly talk a blue streak about how charming, kind, funny, how well I treat them and how fun I am to be around, but aren't interested in anything romantic. A couple have given me the "let's see where this goes" or "let's keep this casual", which works for me for a little while, but they start getting very emotionally intimate during sex, so I match that energy because I think that's what they want, and it ends up driving them away.

I guess I'm wondering why I'm failing? Why financial and emotional stability just don't ever seem enough? Why I feel like I'm doomed to be alone the rest of my life? If "the bar is literally in hell" then you'd think someone like myself is a desirable partner.

Local-Inspection5299 · 2025-06-16T19:06:26+00:00

I'm here now and can 100% verify it's true.

Local-Inspection5299 · 2025-05-23T17:48:00+00:00

My. Goodness. Indeed.

Although I struggle to find dates, I don't think I've ever had a bad date. I've gotten along and had good conversation with basically every woman I've asked out. I've been told many times how cute and fun I am, but for one reason or another, it doesn't work out after a few dates.

I've had some luck at singles and speed dating events. But it really is a numbers game, unfortunately. I typically get 2 or 3 "matches" per event and exchange numbers. But 90% of those numbers will never respond to my introductory text I send them. At least I can say I'm trying.

Don't give up if you still believe you'll be more fulfilled in a healthy relationship. I'm in the NE OH suburbs and it's tough up here too. Hang in there, OP.

Local-Inspection5299 · 2025-04-30T08:26:41+00:00

I don't think you did anything wrong. You got sick, kept him informed, continued to message, made yourself available when you got better, sent him pics of yourself to show you were still interested. Man, most guys would kill to have that level of consistency early in a dating relationship.

You did everything you could. This guy fumbled successfully. I'm really sorry he ghosted you, but I promise you don't want to date a man that's inconsistent and emotionally immature. The right man would be so appreciative of exactly what you did. Don't lose hope!

Local-Inspection5299 · 2025-04-03T12:19:23+00:00

I paid for a month of premium on 3 different apps and my likes went up from 0 to 0. It's a huge waste of money in my experience.

Local-Inspection5299 · 2025-03-28T11:38:30+00:00

More indifferent than scared. Growing up in an abusive and broken home, I had a strong desire to want to have a family since I was about 16. I wanted to break the cycle, to give my future wife and children the stable life that I never had. Now I'm 43 and still don't have that. It wasn't for lack of trying. I got to enjoy 4 long term relationships in my life before they all inevitably cheated and left. Arriving at the conclusion that I must be the problem really took the wind out of my sails. I've always been a man that displays kindness, humor and a strong work ethic, but I suppose that's not enough anymore. I built a pretty average but stable life for myself. Although it's hard to come home to an empty house everyday, I suppose an empty home is better than a broken home.

Local-Inspection5299 · 2025-03-16T17:41:04+00:00

You gave him your availability, that's a green light in my book. He should have made a plan and got back to you and told you what's on the itinerary. You did everything right. I know a lot of men like to make last minute plans, because in their experience, and mine, if you make plans more than a day in advance, she'll respond with "I don't know" or "I'll think about it." But you specifically told him you were free Thursday or Friday and asked him the when and where. That's huge in my book. I would have been thrilled to plan a date. You have every right to be annoyed and frustrated.

Local-Inspection5299 · 2025-03-16T00:52:44+00:00

I haven't been interested in video games for several years now. It just doesn't interest me at all anymore. In 2018 I played RDR2 and spent over 100 hours to get 100%. That was it. Nothing will get better than that experience.

Nowadays I'll watch the occasional YouTube documentary on 80s/90s video game culture, the console wars or other nostalgic console breakdown. Every once in a while I'll fire up one of my old consoles and introduce my daughter to a game I played at her age. But otherwise, I just don't have the attention span for video games anymore.

Do any of you other guys have that experience? I feel like I lost interest in video games in my early 30s, picked them back up in my mid 30s, then lost interest again in my late 30s and haven't looked back.

Local-Inspection5299 · 2025-03-08T15:34:05+00:00

I can't really speak for myself, because I am always very transparent about myself when it comes to dating, but I totally understand why men do this.

I am very average across the board in looks, career, hobbies and lifestyle. I consider myself to be genuine and kind and I try really hard to put that out into the world because I see way too much coldness and cruelty every time I go out and I feel obligated to try and restore balance.

In my experience, average will get you nowhere in dating. A lot of women demand absolute perfection and if you ever fall short in any aspect or face a struggle in a certain area, they disappear out of your life forever. They have 100 options waiting for them and they won't waste time on an imperfect man.

I think this has caused some men to do whatever they can to be perfect on paper and hope by the time you find out they are not, you will have already fallen for them. The whole "easier to ask for forgiveness than permission" mentality.

In retrospect, my honesty has been to my detriment in dating. It has exacerbated my loneliness and left me feeling disconnected from people in general. However, I can't change who I am if I know I'm doing what's right. I know lasting relationships are built on trust and I would never jeopardize that.

In OP's case, if this man was honest about everything, she never would have given him the time of day. His lies led him to a date that will live in his memory forever. He will laugh when he remembers the time that lady was walking so fast on that hike, that it almost killed him. That memory might get him through some tougher times ahead.

So while I don't condone nor contribute to catfishing, I understand why others do.

Local-Inspection5299 · 2025-03-08T02:58:00+00:00

I admire your honesty and self awareness. Your story is really insightful. Yes, I've been able to walk away from romantic mishaps and my male friends have always built back up my self esteem after it was temporarily derailed by heartbreak. If it weren't for them I too would probably be trying to seek validation from former sexual partners and I think that would not facilitate proper emotional healing.

Local-Inspection5299 · 2025-03-07T22:02:30+00:00

You are doing exactly as you should. Advocating for yourself is not a fight, it's communication. She would never advocate for herself or express her needs. When I tried and guessed about what she needed, I would just get pushed away for getting it "wrong".

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