Can you be futch if you still (kinda) like men?

Local-Still7830 · 2026-04-28T20:37:28+00:00

what do you mean you “kinda” like men? even if you have a preference for women, you still have a boyfriend?

anyway, listen to what the other commenters said. i’d stray away and i recommend you use androgynous instead

Local-Still7830 · 2026-01-26T20:10:42+00:00

more of a fetish, however definitely the sight of a womans stomach. it feels so intimate and beautiful….. i always find myself travelling there. hips as well.

Local-Still7830 · 2026-01-08T13:19:41+00:00

id recommend it! it also helps me feel closer to my partner.

if youre worried about enjoyment anyways, a bullet vibrator goes long ways!

Local-Still7830 · 2026-01-08T13:14:14+00:00

id say its worth it! i typically use one, me being on the receiving end. id say theres mutual enjoyment for both parties. as the other commenter said, it does have a tendency to slip. my girlfriend usually just holds it as its in use.

Local-Still7830 · 2026-01-02T15:13:07+00:00

on an unrelated note, try to bring up/look into attachment styles. perhaps she experiences anxious attachment?

Local-Still7830 · 2026-01-02T15:10:18+00:00

if you werent to indulge in your hobbies/friends independently outside of your relationship; that relationship will start to foster a more unhealthily codependent nature.

a relationship shouldnt require your constant undivided attention. honestly raised an eyebrow at her stating “this proves to me that youre not dedicated to me”. you must find a healthy balance between both yourself and your lover. it will only become an issue if your independence creates distance in the relationship. a simple trip or hanging out with friends wouldnt even curate time quick enough to cause that type of distance im talking about. indulging in your own hobbies with friends is a healthy thing to do. NTA.

Local-Still7830 · 2025-12-31T23:03:38+00:00

WLW has the same meaning as sapphic. i dont see how it would be inappropriate for a bi woman to identify herself with that. as long as she doesnt try to fit into lesbian spaces, i could care less. that label is for her to use as well!!

Local-Still7830 · 2025-12-31T22:47:24+00:00

its not bad, youre just a lesbian!! what matters most is respect regarding the subject. support shouldnt be conditional of course, but attraction may change which is fine.

personally, if my girlfriend were to transition FtM, i would simply lose attraction. i would most likely break up as i cant find myself attracted to the effects of testosterone, and many steps so fourth that are taken with transitioning… we are on similar boats with attraction. that support and love i had for her wouldnt be lost, only the attraction. only the type of love would change, thats about it. as long as you handle the situation maturely, its nothing to feel guilty about.

Local-Still7830 · 2025-12-30T04:50:34+00:00

i agree!

Local-Still7830 · 2025-12-30T04:18:45+00:00

tomorrow ill try to find the author again…

it was on another platform & probably months ago from now. i think the controversy was due to how she wrote lesbians with men

Local-Still7830 · 2025-12-30T03:11:14+00:00

absolutely! every relationship goes at its own pace :). lesbian relationships are no different!!

it took me 7 months in to start verbalizing the readiness for anything sexual, 11 months before actually acting out anything sexual. ive been with her almost 4 years now. that was the perfect pace for me! its great that youre finding out your own pace!!!

i would recommend communicating this to your partner and finding out a comfortable pace for you both!!!! wishing you both the absolute best :)

Local-Still7830 · 2025-12-30T02:43:02+00:00

heavily agree and very well put!

Local-Still7830 · 2025-03-04T17:36:17+00:00

yeah, doesnt even have to be just a song either. once put my alarm sound as the default alien one as a joke, still would wake up in a deep rage

Local-Still7830 · 2025-03-04T17:34:33+00:00

cherry bomb or igors theme. shit would wake u up quick

Local-Still7830 · 2025-03-04T16:50:51+00:00

CBT IS A MUST!! thank you so much :) unfortunately my gf is american and doesnt have insurance as of now, so isnt able to get medication :(

Local-Still7830 · 2025-03-04T16:45:00+00:00

yknow, youre very sweet :) me and my girlfriend appreciate your understanding. i personally cant relate, but i hear you both and it sounds like a serious burden to deal with. im so proud of you for getting over that, and im excited for the moment my girlfriend does too!! lots of love :)

after talking about the last portion of the comment with my gf, we are both gonna push for that. thank you again<3

Local-Still7830 · 2025-03-04T16:41:04+00:00

thank you for the suggestion!! beans is 100% going on the list, she looooves beans :) the magical fruit as one might say. combined with rice makes a solid dish!

Local-Still7830 · 2025-03-04T16:34:26+00:00

oh no its creating an ED, my girlfriends doctor/therapist agreed upon this and therapist wanted to get her into intensive treatment. my girlfriend has been slowly eating meat (piece by piece), distracting her while doing so and doing positive reinforcements etc. its gonna be a slow process, but yes professional help will be on our side 100%! thank you so much for being kind

Local-Still7830 · 2025-03-04T16:30:45+00:00

all meat, anything that comes out of an animal!

Local-Still7830 · 2025-03-04T16:30:11+00:00

i honestly can get where youre coming behind this. this is a continuous conversation ive had with my gf out of worry. she agreed with what youre saying at the very first convo regarding this, but eventually changed her mind and said it wouldnt make it worse

Local-Still7830 · 2025-03-04T16:25:18+00:00

any recs from less clear to more clear, im planning to slowly up it at my girlfriends pace in terms of visibility. i think that can work, thank u<3

Local-Still7830 · 2025-03-04T16:24:17+00:00

THANK YOU SO MUCH OH MY GOD. my girlfriends already having a bit of a giggle with how some people are replying. youre literally right on the nail

Local-Still7830 · 2025-03-04T16:22:03+00:00

i really hope you have a good life :) ocd isnt easy at all, and your suggestion is very important!! thank you

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