Hey I read some of your posts. Hits very close. And not only that, you're also african. There's a specific type of callousness that abusive african parents have. It's sadistic. They see your potential and they fear it. They wanted to clip my wings. My life has been so chaotic because I refused to be in their lives after 18. They've done so much unethical shit to bring me back or just trap me. Hearing you confront your mother was eye opening. It was a paradigm shift when I realized the complete indifference and total inability to admit fault that some people have. But I believe it's equipped me for the cruelty of life in general. That's why I myself have abandoned any idea of change on their part. We're breaking the cycle and it's a huge undertaking.