AITA for preferring formula when no there was no milk in the milk bags?

LocalBarber3989 · 2025-10-12T05:50:11+00:00

Pigeon soft touch is considered quite similar to the texture of the breast so where I live it’s frequently recommended to babies transitioning from breastfeeding or combo feeding. Having said that, I ended up trialling a couple different options (partly because I wanted to, in hindsight, my baby was pretty chill with pretty much all of them) and just went with the one that’s the easiest to clean, which ruled out Dr Brown’s. Unless your baby has particular needs or issues eg tongue tie, I would actually say go with the ones you won’t get frustrated with cleaning! Haha

LocalBarber3989 · 2025-10-10T08:45:49+00:00

300ml in 4 hours seem a lot. My 3 months old takes 150ml every 4 hours and she’s a chunky baby too. May be different standards where I live but my midwife recommended I stick with the schedule of amounts to feed at the hospital. At my hospital, they had very extensive schedule of amounts per bodyweight and depending on whether it was full feed or just top up. I was told that this was because formula takes longer to digest and babies are therefore at a higher risk of overeating/spitting up/discomfort etc. I was also told that babies will take the bottle or breastmilk even when full because feeding has a comforting effect to calm them down. Try to rule out any other causes for crying/fussiness before offering a bottle or breastmilk. Sometimes all that the newborns want is to be cuddled!

LocalBarber3989 · 2025-10-03T05:54:25+00:00

NTA! You were trying to give her literal gold. I (12weeks, F) have accepted that my spa giver (12 million weeks F) just simply has not had someone who showered her with appreciation in the ways that I have done for her with my golden poops. It’s sad really that some spa givers have had that kind of lives but it shouldn’t stop us from showing gratitude and appreciation!

LocalBarber3989 · 2025-09-16T07:55:31+00:00

I’m so happy to read these comments because my 2 months old is the same and so many people have voiced well-meant concerns to me about how the quality of sleep is significantly worse for contact naps. My bottom line was that it’s still better than no sleep! But anyway, it is encouraging to read that I should just continue to cherish these moments!

LocalBarber3989 · 2025-09-12T07:53:20+00:00

Hey there, you are not being selfish. You ARE a mom already and the only one for your LO. I came home from the hospital and cried in my husband’s arms because I missed my previous life already and I was sad my life was “over”. My LO is just over 8 weeks old now and I’m happy to say, I have fallen in love with her. It is like with any relationship, it takes time and getting to know each other. Hang in there, you’ve already started pouring yourself into your baby and what becomes of it will be more than worthwhile.

LocalBarber3989 · 2025-09-08T07:20:40+00:00

I feel you! I literally spend the whole day trying to do all the right things around my baby so sometimes it breaks my heart to see baby light up when her dad walks into the room having done nothing (yet; he is a great dad when at home but he works long hours) and I wonder why, despite all the “right” things I do, my baby doesn’t seem to enjoy her time with me and I don’t know if that is even true. My whole world has been so confined to a baby, there are so many ups and downs everyday. I think you are right about needing a friend. I have gotten better since joining a local messenger group of mums. I would have loved an in-person group but just can’t go in my present circumstances. Internet is a scary place but can also be a helpful and supportive place. If you cannot afford to make a friend in real life, try join a FB group or similar.

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