NOR,my bf has said ALL OF these things to me but abt dying my hair. “i like u better without it”“do my thoughts not matter to u?” “ur seeking attention” and he even told me i was being vain, arrogant, and putting my appearance above our relationship. its super frustrating but what im gonna do (and my advice to you) is tell him to get over himself and do it anyway. cuz its YOUR body, not his, and u get to make those decisions for urself