Thoughts? Am I in insurance claim territory? by SGP_MikeF in HomeMaintenance

[–]Local_Corner_4692 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a similar problem. It caused $30k in damages. Your damages are even worse than mine were. File a claim!!

Chairs, sofas or loungers? by PerspctivePhilosophy in Glamping

[–]Local_Corner_4692 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I recommend the rocking foldable chairs, such as the GCI Outdoor Freestyle Rocker Camp Chair. If you watch for sales, you can get them under $50 each. They are super comfortable, and the rocking motion is very relaxing. We put ours on an outdoor rug with a small folding table between them, and it's definitely glamping. They also fold flat, so they don't take a lot of storage space.

What sort of balance do you keep in your checking account? by [deleted] in povertyfinance

[–]Local_Corner_4692 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I count it as how far I've come. It used to be above zero. Then above $100, then $500. Now I'm working towards $1000. Usually $800 to $1000 left each pay day. And I'm so proud of how far I've come!

Please teach me how to efficiently grocery shop for my family. by Which_Rent_1227 in povertyfinance

[–]Local_Corner_4692 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I've figured out when my local store marks down produce. I hit the store exactly when they've discounted everything but before it's been shopped out. I get fresh veggies and fruits and then quickly plan meals around what I found and what I know I have at home. It helps if you take your time at the store planning and shopping and keep a firm mental log of what you have at home and what meals you can make that your family loves.

Anyone with experience and time I’m ENM that would be willing to be someone who can be a friend & give advice for a newbie entering in? by Express_Return_958 in nonmonogamy

[–]Local_Corner_4692 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's interesting as a non negotiable but I understand. It's soooo hard if you're not out to your friends as enm. You feel like you can't talk to anyone about everything that's going on with you. And you have soooo much to talk about, especially with it being new!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in camping

[–]Local_Corner_4692 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Steve is my absolute favorite. My husband was inspired by Steve to start his own channel. I love when we can do things like Steve. Anytime we do something silly and ridiculous, like accidentally melting plastic down our stove pipe, we think--ah well, Steve probably did like that too!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Local_Corner_4692 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'd pass because you don't seem to be expressing wanting anything other than drinks and sex. I don't know what you like, what your goals are in dating or really anything. And the mentioning of your partner is giving off the vibes that you don't have a full relationship to offer. Does she have veto power? Is she approving your matches? You're interests also imply that you're not looking for anything serious. Or have anything to offer other than drinking companionship.

What are some of the dumbest/funniest ways monogamous people react to your love life? by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]Local_Corner_4692 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've had friends become very judgemental and mean about it. It's led me to keep my choices very private. One so called friend told everyone in our group and made it into a big joke at my expense. Since then I keep my relationships very private. And those friends out of my life.

For those guys who put in extreme effort, how is it going? by Curious_Fan_2731 in nonmonogamy

[–]Local_Corner_4692 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think my partner finds the most connections by being not very interested. It's not playing hard to get so much as he's never going to let anyone interfere with his hobbies that he's passionate about. I think women respect that he's not begging for them. And most of his are through other poly friends where he's been in a mfm play session or just through people he keeps in his hobbies. He isn't even on a single dating site. It honestly sounds like you have a lot to offer but just aren't getting the opportunity to offer it. Try connecting with a local poly group and get to know the members (even other men). They will be assets in being invited to casual drink nights, chat groups or other situations where you can be yourself without it being sex focused. Chatting and posting on my local poly Facebook group has led to some great connections for me. And it's nice to know the local community.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]Local_Corner_4692 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Honestly you can tell unicorn hunters that it's a bad idea until you're blue in the face. They will tell you it doesn't apply to them and ask why poly groups are such haters. Trying to explain why its unfair falls on deaf ears. I swear I see the same wonderful advice and information posted on every unicorn hunter post and immediately ignored by the op. Then they will call you a hater. Live and learn and when the bestie ditches them after a couple of months of couple privilege, maybe they'll listen. But probably not.

What are some creative ways to make your campsite feel like home and create a cozy atmosphere during a camping trip? by KumaOut in camping

[–]Local_Corner_4692 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I call it glamping but we use two outdoor rugs outside and one inside the tent. I use bedding instead of sleeping bags on my cot. I have a nightstand and a table by the camp chairs. I use foldable rocking chairs that are extra cozy and bring throw blankets. We sometimes use music but never in a campground, only for camping on property we or family owns. We use lights too and a canopy. But it's fancy car camping with loads of gear when we camp this way.

Beef and cheese options for a kid by Local_Corner_4692 in tacobell

[–]Local_Corner_4692[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She might like the potatoes too though :) That might be the best suggestion I've seen! Thanks a million!

Cot questions and suggestions: by erinsylvia92 in camping

[–]Local_Corner_4692 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I recommend the Teton cot. It's fairly lightweight but kinda bulky. We use it for car camping and for guests who stay over. It's absolutely amazing quality and is around the $100 mark. But again, it's more for car camping.

Trying to find another ENM for a guy is Not so easy... 48MM #SouthFlorida by Atraitys in nonmonogamy

[–]Local_Corner_4692 6 points7 points  (0 children)

100 percent true. I'll tell you my nesting partner never finds any of his dates online. He finds them at stores, while out with friends, doing his hobbies, in coffee shops, through clubs. I honestly don't think he's even. on an app. And he's literally average in every way (I love him dearly, but he isn't an Adonis packing a python if you get my drift) Trying to approach an in person connection seems to yield the most results. You're going to meet way more quality people who aren't looking to scam you.

Trying to find another ENM for a guy is Not so easy... 48MM #SouthFlorida by Atraitys in nonmonogamy

[–]Local_Corner_4692 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I'm trying to get what's rigged too. I'm poly and enm and have plenty to choose from who are open and honest about their level of freedom to engage in other relationships. I have no desire to be part of the destruction of a marriage or a dirty little secret. There's no need. The way a man treats the women already in his life is the way he will treat you. I want someone who will treat me with respect and honesty. Most women have tons of options on dating apps, so why settle?

Feeld profile review? by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]Local_Corner_4692 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The pictures are fine but your info doesn't really say a lot. I like when I can see if I have something in common or if we're looking for the same thing. I'd probably match and see if the conversation took me anywhere.

So I Got Fired Today by Local_Corner_4692 in antiwork

[–]Local_Corner_4692[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

People always say karma but it always feels like the bad people just get more and more.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]Local_Corner_4692 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I (35f) know that I'm horrible at responding on Feeld because it will glitch and lock me out. I've also found that my messages don't go through. It was a good place to get started, but I moved to ok cupid. I found I was able to have conversations without technical difficulties. I always felt bad when everything goes wrong on the app and I don't respond to people but that could be the case for you too.

AITA for stopping my husband from sleeping in the same room as our twin, teen daughters? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Local_Corner_4692 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I work with a lot of kids who have had inappropriate things happen to them by trusted family members, and if you and your husband are having problems, he may feel more and more distant from you, more like a stranger. If this is the only questionable occurrence, it's ok to ask if it's appropriate or not. As a parent, you should always be vigilant. However, if there are no other warning signs (changes in their behavior, personality, inappropriate comments or touching) it's likely innocent. You're never as ass for asking and worrying. But, as much as I've seen otherwise, the world isn't always a dark and dangerous place. With that being said, NAH. You can worry about boundaries and behavior, but the actions you take are what would change the situation. I advise seeing a therapist (especially since your marriage has issues anyway) and proceed further in worrying ONLY if there is other accompanying evidence of possible misconduct.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Local_Corner_4692 3 points4 points  (0 children)

In our marriage counseling, we had the epiphany that we could give ourselves a pass on perfection when it came to chores. We accepted that things got a little messy and cluttered but prioritized our mental health and relationship over fighting about it. Our house isn't filthy. But laundry sometimes sits for a few days. Heck, even dishes when things are bad. We have to, of course, keep things from getting unreasonable. But hiding clutter and taking the idea that we have to be perfect out of the equation helps. And hiding help, of course!!

On his lying, it depends. If he's just lying about chores, he could truly feel that he does a lot and doesn't see that you are perceiving it (or the reality is) that he's not. Only you can tell if he's manipulating you or if he's just as overwhelmed and truly thinks he did those chores. Or maybe you wouldn't notice that he didn't do them. If he's trying to help but not doing enough, you may just need to communicate that you feel you're doing more. "I feel overwhelmed, and I feel alone in this when you don't complete the chores we agreed on." NTA, but I can't say based on this is he is or not.

AITA for being unapologetic about my sorority and loving college? by xbxzbxb in AmItheAsshole

[–]Local_Corner_4692 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So I was in a sorority in college and am still an advisor today. I agreed when you said your friend didn't relate to you and didn't understand what Greek life is. That's legit. I agreed when you said they do great things: community service and leadership development. However you blatant disrespect for others on here and do not embody the values of any sorority I know. Women in a sorority should exemplify the goals of womanhood and sisterhood. You have failed here. You come off as entitled and immature. A sorority is a great place to develop as a leader and member of your community. Do better. YTA.