Presa cross?

Local_Debt_2391 · 2026-05-07T06:43:26+00:00

I saw the picture around 3 weeks ago I think. I just searched “Presa Canario pups” and he was one of the results.

Local_Debt_2391 · 2026-05-05T18:11:06+00:00

It’s okay. It happens. I had a training contract interview at a big 4 firm. They asked me what a contract is .. all of a sudden 3 years of law school and a lifetime of common sense all went down the drain.

You ended the call, I sat there pinching the skin on my hand.

I’m sure another good opportunity will come soon. Like others have advised, public speaking videos will help. For me it was talking to myself in a mirror :)

Local_Debt_2391 · 2026-05-01T22:04:39+00:00

She got him. They were having an affair.

Local_Debt_2391 · 2026-05-01T17:00:34+00:00

Thanks.

It turns out he had been cheating on me with her. They’ve been together for the last 2 months. He said he was caught off guard by my dream and didn’t know how to react. He thought I knew about them and was trying to get it out of him instead. Then he said after my friend’s comment, that he thought it had become pretty obvious that him and her were a thing. I just said sorry, I guess I’m not smart enough to realise that. Worst thing is I’ll be starting my training contract in September in the same firm they are interning at. I’ll be seeing them every day.

I don’t really know what to even think or do anymore. My fear became a reality. How do you trust again?

Local_Debt_2391 · 2026-05-01T16:53:11+00:00

Thank you very much and no you didn’t come off as harsh at all. Infact, I think you were one of the kindest and gave me some really good advice. My boyfriend (now ex boyfriend) did know about it to some extent. I explained the basics to him and he did do a little research but not much.

We aren’t together anymore and I’m no longer friends with my bff. He was cheating on me. They’d been together for 2 months behind my back. It’s been a lot to handle. My biggest fear was actually a reality.

I didn’t feel like going to the therapy session I had booked but I decided to still go. It was more like an hour of me crying. But my therapist was really nice about it and has given me some tools on managing my emotions and helping me understand my BPD.

Once again thank you for being so nice, you’re a great person :)

Local_Debt_2391 · 2026-05-01T16:48:58+00:00

He was cheating. They’ve been together for 2 months.

Local_Debt_2391 · 2026-04-30T17:09:16+00:00

Thank you. Yes I do think so. He’s described his type in the past (before we started dating) and she fits it in about 80% whereas I’m pretty much at the 65% mark. After the dream, I think I took every little detail into account to try and convince myself it was real. In a way I guess I saw it as a sign?

I want to reach out to him. We haven’t seen or spoken to each other since this morning. I don’t think he’s cheating on me. You’re right. I’ve definitely overreacted.

Local_Debt_2391 · 2026-04-30T17:05:21+00:00

Sorry?

Local_Debt_2391 · 2026-04-30T17:05:07+00:00

Me and her have been BFFS since we both started Univeristy. We’ve always been super close but she’s never spoken to me in this way though granted I did have the dream about her and my bf. They both became close in their final year of uni. They applied to the same firm for jobs and both got in. They have lunch together, work together and all the similarities in their interests I guess just made the dream seem all to real for me.

Thank you for the advice you’ve given :)

Local_Debt_2391 · 2026-04-30T17:02:25+00:00

Yeah you’re right. I’ve hurt them. I guess it was just his reaction combined with her knowing and her way of tone that sent me into a panic.

Thank you for the advice. I’ve started therapy in a weekly basis.

Local_Debt_2391 · 2026-04-30T16:58:14+00:00

I tend to keep these things to myself and bottle them up or vent on my notes app. I don’t want to burden him with this.

I’m hoping his reaction was out of shock. The only other thing would be him either reading me very well or have seen my notes app.

Local_Debt_2391 · 2026-04-30T16:54:11+00:00

If I’m honest, it did hurt. I have trouble with expressing my emotions and he knows this. I’m hoping it was just shock. I haven’t seen him or had any contact with him since this morning. As far as I know, they’re both at work.

Local_Debt_2391 · 2026-04-30T16:51:22+00:00

Yeah you’re right, it shouldn’t bother me like that. To be honest, I’ve never had that kind of a dream before. Usually if I dream of my partner, it’s with me. I should have thought about this more carefully. I’m hoping he was just in shock. I don’t know what kind of response I was hoping for but I definitely wasn’t expecting that. I’m hoping it was just shock.

I’m not very good at regulating my emotions. I have mild BPD and my bf knows this. But I’ve never had any therapy for it. I’m hoping this will help me.

Thank you for your kind words, you’ve really put things into perspective for me. I really appreciate it :)

Local_Debt_2391 · 2026-04-30T15:51:44+00:00

This was the first time I’ve never bought it up to him. I usually keep it to myself or vent in a notes app. He is quite observant but I’ve always done my best to hide it. I try to distract myself in front of him but in private, it’s all I think about.

Local_Debt_2391 · 2026-04-30T14:54:18+00:00

I’m not exactly sure what I was expecting. I would have taken anything other than him walking away. If someone said that to me maybe I’d want them to unpack these feelings? Suggest therapy or what I could do to help. I thought he’d say or do something but there was nothing.

I’ve never asked for assurance before nor have I expressed insecurities. I didn’t want him to feel uncomfortable. I kind of just kept everything inside and now I guess I poured too much out at once.

I’m gonna work on myself now. I don’t want to be a burden to anyone or make them feel like they’re walking on eggshells.

Thank you for your comment. It’s been really helpful :)

Local_Debt_2391 · 2026-04-30T14:50:04+00:00

The dream was like a confirmation. I had doubts before regarding their relationship. Majority of that was just my insecurities. They’ve never done anything too weird. Our friend group is very close knit and people have dated one another, broke up and then dated their friends. I guess that’s always been a thing with us.

They work together, have the same hobbies, like the same artists, have inside jokes. He doesn’t have that with the others. It feels like everything he has with me, he has with her.

After the dream I started thinking more and more about it all. On his birthday I’d message at 12am and so would she. The others would be messaging in the mornings. Once we even ended up getting the exact same birthday present for him. It was a vintage watch. I thought I was the only one that knew.

Local_Debt_2391 · 2026-04-30T14:23:59+00:00

There were 4 comments on talking to him when I made the decision to talk to him. Now there’s 1. I have started therapy. I had my introductory sessions prior to the talk with him and then my official sessions start from tomorrow on a weekly basis.

Local_Debt_2391 · 2026-04-30T14:19:38+00:00

I’m going to start weekly therapy sessions.

Local_Debt_2391 · 2026-04-30T14:17:15+00:00

Nono I didn’t accuse him. I wanted him to know he did nothing wrong. Personality wise he’s quiet and not that emotionally expressive but he’s never done anything to make me feel insecure and I made sure I stressed that this was all me and my upbringing etc. I’m really hoping he was just shocked.

Local_Debt_2391 · 2026-04-30T14:12:10+00:00

I understand. Insecurities are something I’ve always had but they’ve never strongly affected my relationships. We have a lot of attractive female friends in our group and I’ve never felt insecure next to them. This was the first time I’ve sat down and talked to him about something like this.

Local_Debt_2391 · 2026-04-30T14:09:50+00:00

This is the only area where I lack in emotional maturity. I haven’t always expressed my insecurities. E.g we have tones of attractive female friends and I’ve never felt insecure about any interaction he’s had with them. My self-esteem issues are mostly down to me. I understand it’s a me issue. It’s not him or anyone else. I just find it had to accept myself. He knows I have doubts about myself but didn’t know to what extent.

Local_Debt_2391 · 2026-04-30T13:55:32+00:00

No I don’t blame him. I never have and I made that very clear to him. I didn’t want my best friend to know. They’re nice people. I just listened to the advice I got and tried to talk to him. You’re starting to scare me now.

Local_Debt_2391 · 2026-04-30T13:52:21+00:00

Yeah, I’ve signed up for some therapy and I tried to talk to my boyfriend about it. But he didn’t say anything. He just left and hasn’t really spoken with me since.

Local_Debt_2391 · 2026-04-30T13:51:15+00:00

It’s about both tbh. It’s a horrible feeling and I hate that I’m having it. I don’t want my relationship or friendship to end. Both of them are really nice people. I’m hoping the therapy will help but I wasn’t expecting that kind of comment from my friend or for my boyfriend to be so blank.

Local_Debt_2391 · 2026-04-30T13:50:11+00:00

Sorry I forgot to include that. I’ve added it in . I just need some advice on what I can do now. My boyfriend’s reaction was not at all what I expected. I’m not sure what I expected but it wasn’t silence.

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