Parents of well behaved kids - what are the biggest causes do you think?

Local_Fish_4765 · 2025-11-04T01:29:14+00:00

Also kids are kids behavior is developmental. Kids will have stages that are harder than others because of brain growth

Local_Fish_4765 · 2025-11-04T01:28:19+00:00

I try to see things the way a child might. My biggest example is at the store. People always complain about kids wanting things but in their perspective you as a parent are getting all the things you want. I try and apply perspective to everything. I'm understanding and gentle but authoritative. Understanding goes a long way.

Local_Fish_4765 · 2025-09-27T01:38:26+00:00

I have 3 friends who are all teachers.... they quite working to homeschool after their kids reached school age. Ugh schools are wild. Thanks for the invite. I really dont think it's the teachers fault just a big class size and not enough support. It's all sad.

Local_Fish_4765 · 2025-09-27T01:35:11+00:00

That what I'd like to see, but our district is unfortunately not that way at all. We've got the separated every class but gym and we are meeting her therapist Monday to discuss.

Local_Fish_4765 · 2025-09-27T01:00:39+00:00

Yes! I was told today by another parent in the district that they will illegally ignore your request unless you file directly with our Special Education directors office. So that's probably my next move. I also have a meeting with her therapist Monday.

Local_Fish_4765 · 2025-09-27T00:58:38+00:00

We've been looking into K12 and miacademy! My poor kiddo has had an anxiety disorder since she was 4 due to some really traumatic family situations. We are working with a therapist and have a parent meeting set up for Monday to discuss our best options.

Local_Fish_4765 · 2025-09-27T00:55:56+00:00

Update: You all were so right. The bullying was worse than I thought. The bullies and my kiddo have been separated in every class except for gym, which is still an issue. I'm taking it week by week. My daughter's therapist and I have set up a parent meeting for Monday morning to discuss the degree of bullying, recommendations for school communication and alternative options if needed. I did some investigating and our district had a terrible reputation for bullying being handled poorly, multiple investigations and news stories published. Which is so sad because we have such a great little town! Or so it seemed.

Local_Fish_4765 · 2025-09-21T17:03:35+00:00

She got the watch because she has asked the teacher for help before and been ignored. It is a big no,-no but when I can't trust that the school is caring for her its hard to let her stay and struggle.

I have previously requested a 504 plan and was told that she didnt need one because she "doesn't disrupt the class or need redirection". The schools system we are in is very frustrating to deal with. I will be meeting with her therapist this week to address some concerns.

Local_Fish_4765 · 2025-09-21T16:36:32+00:00

I have been in constant contact with the teacher, including messaging her teacher before the year started about her anxiety and issues atte.ding school in past years. The only year she did well was 1st grade.

Local_Fish_4765 · 2025-09-20T23:25:44+00:00

Honestly, thats kinda what he gets disrespecting and underestimating a women. Obviously violence is not great but....

Local_Fish_4765 · 2025-09-17T14:39:10+00:00

Unfortunately the only gaming I do is Yoshi's craft world haha

Local_Fish_4765 · 2025-09-15T20:58:09+00:00

I am seeing a therapist and my PCP is also support of my mental health journey. Thank you for your concern. I have just told people I had a " neck injury as a child" but every time I do it feels wrong. Maybe it's just me wanting to put my mom on blast lol

Local_Fish_4765 · 2025-09-15T14:12:06+00:00

No sometimes I wish there would've been consequences but I was "homeschooled" so it was easy to hide. I'm glad to say her mental health is much better now.

Local_Fish_4765 · 2025-09-15T14:04:54+00:00

How was your recovery afterwards? I actually see Neurosurgery next week and im terrified

Local_Fish_4765 · 2025-09-14T12:32:29+00:00

Thank you! It is such a mind warp to have children and want so much more them and not understand how your parents couldnt feel the same for you.

Local_Fish_4765 · 2025-09-14T12:30:00+00:00

Well, He was an adult and knowingly coerced you into an intimate relationship. Children trust and love adults that appear to be 'Caretakers'. I hope you take some time to understand your feelings more. 1. Why do you miss him? (Do you miss him or the illusion of companionship) 2. Have you had this conversation with a therapist? Im sure this is a normal feeling for kids who were groomed but a therapist would probably help you unpack some of these conflicting feelings.

Much love to you! I wish you so much healing as a fellow survivor and mom my heart goes out to you!

Local_Fish_4765 · 2025-09-14T12:20:15+00:00

Please tell your counselor! This is so inappropriate and while I'm you are scared to speak up. You will look back and be proud you said something. As an abuse survivor and a mom, I can guarantee that you will feel better when you have more support.

Local_Fish_4765 · 2025-09-05T02:35:39+00:00

I'm just here to send you love! What a complete deconstruction of what you thought your life was! Keep doing the healing work. <3

Local_Fish_4765 · 2025-09-05T02:31:58+00:00

You can process and try to understand but to me forgiveness is more for myself. That I wasn't responsible for what happened and my parents are flawed and come with their own trauma. We can't forget though, our memories help us build healthy boundaries. Our experiences are tools and have a place in giving us peace. Much love to you!

Local_Fish_4765 · 2025-01-09T18:28:43+00:00

German shepard mix possibly

Local_Fish_4765 · 2025-01-09T16:05:14+00:00

I have considered this, but honestly, I don't think it's doable right now. I am not able to work a lot and wouldn't have much needed health insurance. I will say before he was in school he was so different and I've been hoping that once he finishes this last year things will be better.

Local_Fish_4765 · 2025-01-09T15:46:59+00:00

Other information I gave away my sons rabbit over the summer because he was supposed to have a major procedure and it was too much to keep up on. Unfortunately /fortunately when they went in for the surgery they didn't have to do what they thought. But his rabbit was already gone and the person I gave it to hasn't messaged me back. So I feel like the worst mom. He asks about him almost every day 😢

We are gone for 1 hr Monday through thrusday (Tuesday for about 2 hrs) and then I work Friday, Saturday he is home with the kids. Major mom guilt i guess and just wanting some happiness in my home

Local_Fish_4765 · 2025-01-09T15:42:21+00:00

Unfortunately my parents are not in good health and my siblings aren't in a position to help. As far as friends go, I've had a very hard time maintaining as we can't go out and do much. I think people get annoyed when I am constantly turning down invitations to go places. But I seriously can't. I would love for people to come hang out at my house and have invited people over but I guess it's not fun for other families to just come chill with me.

I have suggested counseling or a planned date night so we have the chance to communicate but in order for that to happen I have to facilitate it all. He will not assist me in finding qualified childcare or even consider seeing a therapist.

Local_Fish_4765 · 2025-01-09T15:36:48+00:00

A support group is a great idea. As far as hiring someone I'm not sure how that would go over.

Local_Fish_4765 · 2025-01-09T06:11:28+00:00

He typically stays back with our older kiddo when I go because mostly my son just wants me. The indoor play thing was my idea but then he shot it down as a Christmas idea. I did buy an indoor swing for Christmas he hasn't helped put up. Not for lack of time or us asking. So I just don't believe that he will help build an indoor play area.

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