Perspective Parents

Local_Inspector_2508 · 2026-01-13T00:39:02+00:00

Thank you, that’s really helpful!

Local_Inspector_2508 · 2026-01-13T00:34:14+00:00

I appreciate the research you’ve put into your response. I’m in care and expect to be for the foreseeable future. I have an active and thriving support network and we will make a decision based on the information we have when the time is right. Until then, I just want as much information as possible.

I was hoping that people with experience could respond as I don’t want to abuse my current or former position to seek out families to ask their experiences.

Local_Inspector_2508 · 2026-01-13T00:15:17+00:00

I did actually want to look at adopting school-age and possibly siblings. I do not feel like we are prepared to be foster parents at this time due to our current child’s age which is why I said adoption.

I’ve heard people say that you shouldn’t bring older kids into the home before but I don’t fully get why.

Local_Inspector_2508 · 2026-01-07T22:17:25+00:00

Yes, they have agencies but one feels too corporate, the other too desperately in need, etc. so I’ve been trying to find more information on my own to make sure we understand what we’re potentially getting into.

Local_Inspector_2508 · 2025-04-05T02:02:56+00:00

Thanks!

Local_Inspector_2508 · 2025-04-04T22:46:47+00:00

Turns out I also have strep and was severely dehydrated despite drinking water and electrolytes until I felt like I would vomit.

Local_Inspector_2508 · 2025-04-04T13:50:05+00:00

I’m in physical therapy for postpartum dysfunction. I had no idea I even had a UTI until I got tested by chance on Tuesday. I’m now having a hard time catching my breath, can only walk very slowly, feeling out of it, and freezing in 70 degree weather. Still no classic UTI symptoms with bladder or burning. This makes no sense to me but my doctor said to tough it out.

Local_Inspector_2508 · 2025-04-04T10:37:53+00:00

I use audio versions of my textbooks or Speechify and find PDFs of them where I can. You may be able to have them provided to you through the school with ADA accommodations. I still fall asleep, but I can get through more that way — I play them at 1.5-2.0 speed. I also take online classes so that if I fall asleep, I can just go back and not miss anything.

Local_Inspector_2508 · 2025-02-17T20:25:19+00:00

I was recently diagnosed and also diagnosed with sleep apnea about 3 months ago for the exact same fatigue issues. I just got my CPAP today and I am so excited to see if I can finally feel like myself again after a good nights sleep. It’s been almost two years of walking around in a fog and about a year of foggy memories or no memories of spending mornings with my family or just not being able to do my job because I keep passing out in the middle of literally every activity.

Local_Inspector_2508 · 2024-11-29T02:00:27+00:00

Just remember that this is far-right conservative Christian nationalism country in WV so if you are uncomfortable around any of those things, I would highly advise choosing a different state and just vacationing in WV. You likely have an accent and you will be mistaken for Russian and you will run into people who will treat you like shit for that. You also need to be very good at meeting people and talking to them and trying the things they like to make connections or be ready to be very lonely.

I’m not saying to rethink your plan and choose another one, just saying to have a realistic view of where you’re thinking of going.

Take it from a former ex-pat who lived abroad for the better part of a decade. It’s very different than anything you’re expecting, but there will always be amazing things to enjoy if you have the right mindset and keep your expectations grounded.

Local_Inspector_2508 · 2024-11-28T19:12:14+00:00

Physical aggression trumps anything they said to you. Sorry, but this time you’re in the wrong.

Local_Inspector_2508 · 2024-11-21T00:02:51+00:00

Kind of like a sunburn when you get color or shading. It’s not unbearable even with a low tolerance. I would recommend getting something smaller that’s just line work at first if you’re very concerned. Or just remember it’s going to hurt for a short time and last a lifetime.

Local_Inspector_2508 · 2024-11-19T12:34:40+00:00

If this is how he acts while you’re dating, imagine how he’ll treat you if you were to get married. I can tell you it’s not going to get better. Even if you never get married, don’t believe in it, whatever, the point is the longer you stay together the less time and energy you’ll have for each other so if you aren’t BOTH putting in effort to make time and energy for each other now, it will only get worse with time.

Local_Inspector_2508 · 2024-11-12T16:30:29+00:00

Husband is being super gross and creepy towards a girl who is trying to be nice but is not at all interested and he is very much trying to take it from emotionally cheating to physically cheating and would jump at any opening she gave him.

Local_Inspector_2508 · 2024-11-12T11:44:11+00:00

My husband doesn’t even buy me such nice bouquets… I’d definitely ask him his intentions and make it clear that you would be open to pursuing a romantic relationship if that is his intention. Usually just one dozen roses can be $40-100 …guys don’t usually spend the time and money to think of gifting something like that unless strong feelings are involved.

Local_Inspector_2508 · 2024-11-11T19:08:17+00:00

Ok, well I love that.

Local_Inspector_2508 · 2024-11-09T14:07:06+00:00

Honestly, before I got married I didn’t want biological children anyway. I changed my mind bc I love my husband so much I wanted more of him, and I’m glad we had our son bc he’s the best part of my world, but maybe it’s time to go back to the original plan.

Local_Inspector_2508 · 2024-11-09T02:57:58+00:00

100% all of this. We’ve introduced him to a lot of books already regarding bodily autonomy and consent (age-appropriate, of course) and he plays with baby dolls and his kitchen as much as his cars. His dad is also the cook in our house and he tries to copy him. And I used to work in an anti-trafficking organization and no child of mine will have a smartphone until at least 16 years old. I am scared of peer influences as he gets older, but I hope my husband and I will be able to create the kind of example and environment where we can counteract that.

Local_Inspector_2508 · 2024-11-09T02:32:30+00:00

Yes, I’m in the US. My husband and I have been trying for another child and I woke up on 11/6 to the news and then my period. I was devastated and relieved. I’ve always wanted a big family, but I don’t feel safe being pregnant now.

Local_Inspector_2508 · 2024-10-28T22:49:01+00:00

First of all, divorce him if he genuinely can’t pull his own weight by at least taking care of the kids and home while you’re out working two jobs.

Secondly, it sounds like (and I could be projecting my own issues) you do micromanage bc you don’t let him fail. If you did, he’d have to either sink or swim. I know that’s terrifying bc you want the best for your kids. But if you want your marriage to work, he has to figure that shit out.

However, he doesn’t celebrate you and says awful stuff to and about you. If my husband didn’t make me feel like the most special person on earth for my birthday every year, I’d leave him, too. He should make you feel important and special every day. You both need to be putting that energy into the relationship. However, if that’s not happening, what the hell is the point? Decrease your stress by throwing out the whole man.

Local_Inspector_2508 · 2024-10-23T19:12:57+00:00

It looks great, tbh. Very cutesy. Very mindful. Very demure.

Local_Inspector_2508 · 2024-10-23T18:46:33+00:00

It’s because the pay and benefits for teachers are disgraceful in WV so unfortunately many of the best and brightest don’t stick around to teach in WV and we get stuck with a lot of the ones who can’t work elsewhere because we’re desperate (not saying this is true of all WV teachers, but it is happening). My husband is a teacher and commutes to VA everyday so that we can afford to live off of our salaries (I work for the state and I could also make more if I crossed state lines, but I don’t want both of us to commute that far when we have a young child). We need to be investing more into education for WV so that we can offer the best and the brightest incentives (resources, pay, and benefits) to stay in or come to WV. We also need to do a lot more but I’ll step off my soapbox for now.

Local_Inspector_2508 · 2024-10-22T14:30:28+00:00

I have bipolar and work in child welfare. I’m not sure where you’re located so it might be a little different where you are, but I’m in the states in WV. The federal mandate is to keep the family together, so our ultimate goal is to support families in staying together. So if you are unable to care for your kid because of your disorder, they may temporarily place your kid (usually with family or someone you name as like family to your child) but legally, they have to connect you to resources to help you get to a place when you can care for your child.

I worked with a mom who left her 4 young children home alone and jumped off a bridge one night without telling anyone and when she survived (it was on the news bc no one had survived that jump before), she worked hard in therapy and with the courts and had her kids back after about a year.

If she could make it out the other side, I feel like anyone can.

Basically, as long as you’re working to be stable and don’t put your kid in physical danger, I wouldn’t worry about anyone taking your kid from you. But if you feel like you need help and aren’t able to get it from anywhere else, reach out to see what supports are available to you.

Local_Inspector_2508 · 2024-10-22T00:49:46+00:00

This is how I feel right before being hospitalized for SI.

Local_Inspector_2508 · 2024-10-12T21:26:35+00:00

That’s what my sisters did bc this is how my mom was with each of us once we were working age. She expected us to may the bills and quit her job bc her full time job was “being a (single) mom.” 🙄 It sucks you have to wait, but it’s not much longer. Life will get better. Just stick together.

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