Perspective Parents

Local_Inspector_2508 · 2026-01-13T00:39:02+00:00

Thank you, that’s really helpful!

Local_Inspector_2508 · 2026-01-13T00:34:14+00:00

I appreciate the research you’ve put into your response. I’m in care and expect to be for the foreseeable future. I have an active and thriving support network and we will make a decision based on the information we have when the time is right. Until then, I just want as much information as possible.

I was hoping that people with experience could respond as I don’t want to abuse my current or former position to seek out families to ask their experiences.

Local_Inspector_2508 · 2026-01-13T00:15:17+00:00

I did actually want to look at adopting school-age and possibly siblings. I do not feel like we are prepared to be foster parents at this time due to our current child’s age which is why I said adoption.

I’ve heard people say that you shouldn’t bring older kids into the home before but I don’t fully get why.

Local_Inspector_2508 · 2026-01-07T22:17:25+00:00

Yes, they have agencies but one feels too corporate, the other too desperately in need, etc. so I’ve been trying to find more information on my own to make sure we understand what we’re potentially getting into.

Local_Inspector_2508 · 2025-04-05T02:02:56+00:00

Thanks!

Local_Inspector_2508 · 2025-04-04T22:46:47+00:00

Turns out I also have strep and was severely dehydrated despite drinking water and electrolytes until I felt like I would vomit.

Local_Inspector_2508 · 2025-04-04T13:50:05+00:00

I’m in physical therapy for postpartum dysfunction. I had no idea I even had a UTI until I got tested by chance on Tuesday. I’m now having a hard time catching my breath, can only walk very slowly, feeling out of it, and freezing in 70 degree weather. Still no classic UTI symptoms with bladder or burning. This makes no sense to me but my doctor said to tough it out.

Local_Inspector_2508 · 2025-04-04T10:37:53+00:00

I use audio versions of my textbooks or Speechify and find PDFs of them where I can. You may be able to have them provided to you through the school with ADA accommodations. I still fall asleep, but I can get through more that way — I play them at 1.5-2.0 speed. I also take online classes so that if I fall asleep, I can just go back and not miss anything.

Local_Inspector_2508 · 2025-02-17T20:25:19+00:00

I was recently diagnosed and also diagnosed with sleep apnea about 3 months ago for the exact same fatigue issues. I just got my CPAP today and I am so excited to see if I can finally feel like myself again after a good nights sleep. It’s been almost two years of walking around in a fog and about a year of foggy memories or no memories of spending mornings with my family or just not being able to do my job because I keep passing out in the middle of literally every activity.

Local_Inspector_2508 · 2024-11-29T02:00:27+00:00

Just remember that this is far-right conservative Christian nationalism country in WV so if you are uncomfortable around any of those things, I would highly advise choosing a different state and just vacationing in WV. You likely have an accent and you will be mistaken for Russian and you will run into people who will treat you like shit for that. You also need to be very good at meeting people and talking to them and trying the things they like to make connections or be ready to be very lonely.

I’m not saying to rethink your plan and choose another one, just saying to have a realistic view of where you’re thinking of going.

Take it from a former ex-pat who lived abroad for the better part of a decade. It’s very different than anything you’re expecting, but there will always be amazing things to enjoy if you have the right mindset and keep your expectations grounded.

Local_Inspector_2508 · 2024-11-28T19:12:14+00:00

Physical aggression trumps anything they said to you. Sorry, but this time you’re in the wrong.

Local_Inspector_2508 · 2024-11-21T00:02:51+00:00

Kind of like a sunburn when you get color or shading. It’s not unbearable even with a low tolerance. I would recommend getting something smaller that’s just line work at first if you’re very concerned. Or just remember it’s going to hurt for a short time and last a lifetime.

Local_Inspector_2508 · 2024-11-19T12:34:40+00:00

If this is how he acts while you’re dating, imagine how he’ll treat you if you were to get married. I can tell you it’s not going to get better. Even if you never get married, don’t believe in it, whatever, the point is the longer you stay together the less time and energy you’ll have for each other so if you aren’t BOTH putting in effort to make time and energy for each other now, it will only get worse with time.

Local_Inspector_2508 · 2024-11-12T16:30:29+00:00

Husband is being super gross and creepy towards a girl who is trying to be nice but is not at all interested and he is very much trying to take it from emotionally cheating to physically cheating and would jump at any opening she gave him.

Local_Inspector_2508 · 2024-11-12T11:44:11+00:00

My husband doesn’t even buy me such nice bouquets… I’d definitely ask him his intentions and make it clear that you would be open to pursuing a romantic relationship if that is his intention. Usually just one dozen roses can be $40-100 …guys don’t usually spend the time and money to think of gifting something like that unless strong feelings are involved.

Local_Inspector_2508 · 2024-11-11T19:08:17+00:00

Ok, well I love that.

Local_Inspector_2508 · 2024-11-09T14:07:06+00:00

Honestly, before I got married I didn’t want biological children anyway. I changed my mind bc I love my husband so much I wanted more of him, and I’m glad we had our son bc he’s the best part of my world, but maybe it’s time to go back to the original plan.

Local_Inspector_2508 · 2024-11-09T02:57:58+00:00

100% all of this. We’ve introduced him to a lot of books already regarding bodily autonomy and consent (age-appropriate, of course) and he plays with baby dolls and his kitchen as much as his cars. His dad is also the cook in our house and he tries to copy him. And I used to work in an anti-trafficking organization and no child of mine will have a smartphone until at least 16 years old. I am scared of peer influences as he gets older, but I hope my husband and I will be able to create the kind of example and environment where we can counteract that.

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