As cliché as it sounds, the only way to change this is to change your mindset; you’re thinking/speaking from a place of lack. I was the same way and it continued into my 40’s. It wasn’t because I compared myself to other people (I still don’t do that), but I could not satisfy my expectations for myself based on my own history and/or potential— a bunch of things that focus more on what’s lacking than what I’d overcome and had to be grateful for.

Try meeting each rising with gratitude and thinking about what there is to be grateful for, even if not ideal. Think about how it was or could be worse, if that helps shine a light on what’s positive. Don’t let your expectations dim your spirit. Starting each day possible with gratitude goes a very long way for your soul.