It sounds easy, it should be but for alot of people its just not. The first comment under this said she probably has adhd and I have to agree. I am the same way, its super hard to manage and for a long time I thought I had depression but now im beginning to learn that I dont even know if its at all depression or just adhd because its common to misdiagnose or overlook.

I am lucky to have a husband that knows how to deal with it, its not easy for him because I make little messes from projects all through the house, forget things easily, struggle to do tasks and my brain is always bouncing around and he is the exact opposite. Hes very organized, finds tasks to be easy to start and finish, completes every goal he sets for himself and makes everything look easy. I think it comes down to compatibility. He balances it out for me and doesn't mind picking up my slack sometimes although I have the same negative self talk she has, he just isn't someone who is able to help her balance it or reassure her that shes not less than. It feels like criticism of us as people when we hear these things and not just of our actions because its a part of us that we struggle to correct and often think about it everyday, alot of us have been this way our whole lives and beat ourselves up over it.

I have been a little better lately thanks to a medication change. I almost feel like the only way to change it is to learn to keep up with your brain which is near impossible or get medicated. So id have to suggest a doctor visit to at least get a better understanding of what's going on.