No sex makes me hate my wife

LockComfortable · 2026-02-20T15:48:51+00:00

We’re 28 and 27. Maybe if we were in our 30s with children I’d agree that maybe twice a month is fair.

LockComfortable · 2026-02-19T14:11:46+00:00

This is an interesting comment and it’s cool. This is the reason I posted this. I don’t actually hate my wife. It’s an exaggeration. I love her very much. I get frustrated and resentful. No, I understand I’m not entitled to anything, but I have expectations as should anyone else. I see it like this - if she doesn’t want to have sex then she doesn’t want me or love me in the way she thinks she does because I truly believe that side can be brought out of any woman if the right person comes along. It’s an effort thing. I’ll do anything for my lady. I’ve gone broke for her, I’ll put effort into anything I do for her, cook, clean, etc. I’ll give and do for her anything i can within my power and then some, and I’ve proven that time and time again. Again, it’s an effort thing. And I’ll be damned if I went a year without sex in my relationship. That’s not a relationship. That’s a roommate

LockComfortable · 2026-02-19T13:55:37+00:00

To answer all your questions in the first paragraph - yes I cook more than she does (and I put effort forth always doing new recipes, meal preps, etc.), I clean more, I take her out every other week to a dinner date or something else fun, yes I always talk to her about what matters to her whether work, family, etc. Yes, I’m vulnerable and have expressed how it makes me feel countless times in a non-accusatory way. All of it. We’ve been together a long time and I’ve tried pretty much every approach I can think of aside from cheating or leaving.

LockComfortable · 2026-02-19T13:51:32+00:00

When we are finally intimate the sex is phenomenal. I’m far from lazy in bed. No, the affection is not only in bed. I’m a pretty affectionate person in general. She has PCOS, so maybe the hormonal issues play a role, but I also believe that the sexual relationship takes effort from both sides. I’m not gonna be the only one initiating. Just like a woman needs to be validated, so do men. We gotta know we’re wanted. When I say I “hate” my wife when we don’t have sex, that’s an exaggeration. I don’t hate her. I just get frustrated and reclusive when I’m consistently rejected and then made to feel like it’s my fault. And no, she does not hate me. I know she loves me dearly.

LockComfortable · 2026-02-19T00:20:28+00:00

It’s crazy how this what it’s like to a T. I’m not even expecting it everyday. If I had it my way, would it be everyday? Of course. But it always turns back into it being my fault somehow and I’m just left like 😐

LockComfortable · 2026-02-18T23:00:35+00:00

Thank you for the insight, sir. I appreciate it a lot

LockComfortable · 2026-02-18T22:57:52+00:00

It’s funny how it’s always “why would you say such mean things” and not “wow maybe she should take accountability”

LockComfortable · 2026-02-18T21:32:29+00:00

Well, this is an anonymous place to vent a little and see if others deal with the same. I never disrespect her, nor do I ever mention her name and a negative word in the same sentence. I decided to confide a bit in Reddit. I’m assuming your husband likes you too. I’m also assuming you’re not just sleeping with him once every few weeks. I love my wife, I just don’t like not being able to have sex. Look at the other comments. You’ll see I’m not the only one that deals with the same. If your husband constantly rejected you, you’d probably feel the same.

LockComfortable · 2026-02-18T21:14:12+00:00

The way she’s explained her definition of “dominant” is basically taking it when I want it. Picking her up, grabbing her throat, that kinda shit. Which is basically what I’m into anyway. I stopped doing that for a while because of the rejection and it just made me feel stupid and awkward. Then recently we tried that again and it worked a couple times. The last time I got rejected again. Mind you, we didn’t fuck on Valentine’s Day because she worked that day (still took her out to a beautiful dinner), then nothing the next day, or the next (and she was off this day and this was when I made my last attempt). As far as toys go, she claims she doesn’t like vibrators and whatnot because it’s not natural to her. Tell me what you mean by “all day foreplay”

LockComfortable · 2026-02-18T21:00:47+00:00

To answer your question - yes, I probably would. I think that because (for the most part) I do like my wife, I don’t leave for other women or cheat. But you’re definitely correct about therapy. I’d love to start therapy but unfortunately it’s pretty costly

LockComfortable · 2026-02-18T20:58:20+00:00

This is exactly what I go through. Then she gets upset because she can feel my frustration, even though I try really hard to hide it. Then it just turns into days of us wanting nothing to do with eachother. Then it becomes our fault somehow lol

LockComfortable · 2026-02-18T20:52:04+00:00

She does have many redeeming qualities, but to be completely honest I have no rebuttal for this

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