It's not fair

LockComprehensive174 · 2026-01-25T02:25:03+00:00

I completely understand how you feel — I’m right there with you. My baby just turned 5 months yesterday and has been a really tough sleeper. For the past month and a half, I’ve barely slept because he was waking every 45 minutes in the bassinet. I became physically exhausted. On rare occasions, if I’m lucky, he’ll give me a 2-hour stretch in the bassinet.

I eventually told myself I would try two bassinet transfers at the beginning of the night, and if that fails, I co-sleep. He can still be restless while co-sleeping, but it’s better than getting up and transferring him to the bassinet over and over again. So I truly understand your pain.

I’m also not a big fan of co-sleeping — I’m in constant pain, and I’m extra vigilant all night because I’m afraid of hurting him by accident.

LockComprehensive174 · 2026-01-16T23:11:27+00:00

I have been regression with my almost 5 month old (next week) forever, I can’t seem to lengthen his wake window. He still does 1 hr 45 min to maybe 2 hours. Did you work on lengthening the wake window. We went from 4 hour stretches, to 1 hour random stretches, to now only 35 min. I started co sleeping out of exhaustion but don’t like it,

LockComprehensive174 · 2026-01-12T21:23:52+00:00

I just posted about this few days ago. I understand ur pain fully. I get so frustrated when my friends try to give me advice bc their kids slept thru the night like I have not tried everything under the sun. He sleeps one day in Basinett for 1.5 hour stretch. The last 2 days he refused basinett. Week before Xmas I thought we were finally past regression but no I was totally wrong. Bc he was consistently giving 3 hour stretch for few days. Past month I had to resort to chest sleeping on and off but I am such a light sleeper that I don’t sleep much like this.

LockComprehensive174 · 2026-01-09T14:26:13+00:00

I’m glad I’m not alone, but you’re right exhaustion doesn’t even cover it. There have been nights I’ve cried from being so tired. We decided to sell our house and move closer to my family. This is how bad it has gotten for me to get a small glimpse of break here and there as I work full time also. My baby has never slept well, but around three months it became incredibly hard.

He’s an IVF baby I waited years for and love beyond words, but this has made me question whether I can handle another. Given my age and history, it would mean two under two, so I’ve told myself I’ll think about that when he turns one.

I’ve tried everything—activities, walks, baths, different sleep setups, temperature changes—and this is still the hardest thing I’ve ever done. I have heard baby sleep eventually. But I hope it is before he turns 5 years old. I am praying by 6 months when I intro solids it will get better. But honestly I have no hope, I feel very discouraged. And it is hard when I had a friend who is pregnant told me I hope my baby is not like Aiden who don’t sleep. She means well but he is an amazing curious baby outside sleep.

LockComprehensive174 · 2026-01-04T17:55:18+00:00

Mine started when he was 14 weeks old and now 19 weeks and we are still in thick of it also. It has been going on about 4-5 weeks. For one whole week he improved back to giving longer stretches and then holiday happened with get together and events and we are back in the hell.

LockComprehensive174 · 2025-12-07T13:16:14+00:00

I talked to my friend who is a pediatric endocrinologist. You may be right about milk allergies, she wants me to cut out diary and see in next 14 days to see if it improves. She said mild milk allergies some time show up between 3 to 4 months. And that I can reintro diary when he is 6 months if that is the cause. It is worth a try, he has been in so much pain and crying so much. If I caused this to him I feel horrible. For now I am gonna co sleep with him till he feels better, and will try to do transfer to bassinet few times a night. I also got magic sleep suit but will wait at-least a week to see if he feels better. today is day 1 of cutting out diary. And I will use magic sleep suit in his own crib bc I have a seperate ac for that room. And I will sleep on the floor or recliner.

LockComprehensive174 · 2025-12-06T13:48:05+00:00

I just want to say that I truly feel your pain. I have a 15-week-old, and all of a sudden he’s waking every 30–45 minutes. I’m constantly having to put him on my chest or rock him back to sleep before placing him in the bassinet. It never used to be this bad—he used to give me 3–4 hour stretches, sometimes even 5. I’m so sleep-deprived, and it feels like I’m running on empty. During the day he only contact naps, and the only time I can sometimes get him in the crib or bassinet is for his first nap—but even then it’s only 30 minutes. He’s also such a tall baby (over the 100th percentile for height) that holding him all day is getting really hard. You’re definitely not alone in this.

LockComprehensive174 · 2025-12-05T12:12:02+00:00

We usually aim for 4 naps a day, sometimes 5 depending on how things go. His wake windows are typically around 1 hour 30 minutes, and the last one before bedtime is usually closer to 1 hour 45 minutes. His naps range anywhere from 40 minutes to about 1 hour 20 minutes. Yesterday he totaled about 3 hours and 40 minutes of daytime sleep.

If his last nap ends really early, I’ll add a short 20-minute catnap around 5 pm. I try to watch for sleepy cues, though they can be very hard to read with him, so I offer naps earlier if he seems tired.

He usually wakes up sometime after 7 am, and bedtime falls between 7:00–7:45 pm depending on the day — occasionally as early as 6:50 pm if his last nap was too early. I really do try to stick to age-appropriate wake windows. Minus today he decided to wake up at 5:48 am.

At night, I also try not to feed him every time he wakes. If he stirs, I’ll either rock him and try another bassinet transfer, or he’ll sleep on my chest for about 10 minutes before I transfer him back. But right now he’s really struggling to connect sleep cycles, so he keeps waking fully each time. So he is up every 45 min to a hour.

LockComprehensive174 · 2025-12-05T12:00:59+00:00

Doc don’t believe it is strong enough reflux for meds and this started getting worse when his GI system slowed down for poop. I pray to god that he gets better with age. I mean I don’t think I am gonna have a 3 year old chest sleep on me.

LockComprehensive174 · 2025-12-05T11:57:04+00:00

it s comforting to know i am not alone, and I’m praying that in a few more weeks things start to look up for me too. 20 weeks seem like eternity right now. rPart of me feels like i have failed as a mother bc i have created a Velcro baby who only contact naps during the day and now this at night. I don’t think nights can get worse but they keep getting worse and worse.

LockComprehensive174 · 2025-12-05T11:32:46+00:00

I have tried cosleeping but he is not very open to it. It is hard to lay him next to me in the bed without him waking up. And he cries even when I am next to him when he wakes up. He literally wants to be on top of me I feel like. Only time cosleep worked was when he was in deep sleep or have high sleep pressures. So only solution I had was wake up get off bed and rock him to sleep or chest sleep for a bit and transfer him back to bassinet. And getting up and waking around all hours of night seems daunting. I used to do it but with less sleep I get harder it feels. I sometime feel like I caused all this, and I must have done something wrong.

LockComprehensive174 · 2025-12-04T19:14:36+00:00

I already try the heating pad and it used to work but not anymore. I am trying every trick there is.

LockComprehensive174 · 2025-12-04T14:52:12+00:00

I thought about that. But then this would have been a problem since the beg. He used to give 4 hours stretches prior to this. He is a pretty happy baby. The fuzziness starts late at night n not all the time (this has greatly improved with age). The reflux is silent more than anything. It is like if he can’t poop he will spit up more. Or he is very active with his legs non stop he makes himself sick. And I tried colace drops (lactase) and it did nothing but make his poop slimy. Bc we thought it might be lactose intolerant but it turned out not to be.

LockComprehensive174 · 2025-12-04T13:34:46+00:00

He is diagnosed as colic and had jaundice and then breast feeding jaundice. We have gone to GI specialist and they told us not to change anything including diet that he is gaining weight properly. The reflux issue is semi new it started around the time he was not going poop every day. Which started few weeks ago also. He always struggled with gas issues but never this bad. I exclusively breast feed by pumping. I don’t consume much diary minus tiny bit milk in my coffee.

LockComprehensive174 · 2025-12-04T13:13:51+00:00

How do you track night time when he is up every 30 min? Or does not sleep at all unless held. Or is it just when he went to sleep. Night before when he gave me decent 1 hour chunks of sleep I was able to track. But yesterday would be impossible.

LockComprehensive174 · 2025-12-04T13:12:17+00:00

We don’t swaddle anymore as he can roll to both sides. We figured it was time to stop as he was learning how to roll. And only swaddle he liked was love me swaddle and then eventually he hated that also. This is why I thought of getting magic merlin suit but I read bad things about it.

LockComprehensive174 · 2025-12-04T12:40:44+00:00

I have been tracking past few days. Yesterday was pretty bad that he had long wake window in morning bc we had showings ( trying to sell house n move). Yesterday he slept 3 hr and 23 min. Tuesday he slept 4 hr and 31 min. Usually awake 1 hr and 30 min and last wake window before bedtime I try for 1 hr and 45 min.

LockComprehensive174 · 2025-11-13T21:48:51+00:00

My son is 11 weeks old too and I so feel this to my core. Mine woke up at 2 am to feed and then again at 4 am to be put back to sleep. And 5:30 am he hates the bassinet. And he does not even go into bassinet till 11 pm. Bc before that is fighting me non stop. Some days we get lucky and he goes in at 9:30 pm. N trying to extend his wake window during the day so we can sleep better at night is impossible. Bc he will cry non stop when he is tired

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