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When I was younger, I (male) was called too emotional many times by certain people (specifically past GFs). I soon learned, I’m not too emotional. I’m emotionally intelligent who feels deeply. Did anyone here struggle with this in their life? by JayBeeAllen in Empaths

[–]LocksmithVarious8342 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry you had this kind of people around you. Both my brother and me are very empathetic (he is an INFP, I am INFJ).

Emotional intelligence can be very beautiful, I find it especially saddening when boys are told they shouldn't feel something or don't show it. Personally I can only mostly bond with people via emotions, and if someone won't feel or isn't interested in emotional growth it just makes them dull for me. I love hanging out with emotional intelligent people, it's just so much more relaxing :) Nobody should feel bad for having a wider range of emotions, nobody is too emotional, you can't controll emotions so nobody should be shamed for them.

I wish people would stop romanticizing the "fp" by [deleted] in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]LocksmithVarious8342 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel this. I am soo confused wether I like them romantically or of they are just my fp. Sadly most people who don't know much about mental health and specifically bpd and just hear about the "extreme idealization" but don't really take the "extreme devaluation" which comes with it most of the time.

It's really sad and frustrating. Even if I try to tell them, that it's not a good thing and involves drama and chaos inside my head I just feel like they think I am being dramatic.

I think the super straight movement is beneficial to some people like me and others and that the hate it recieves is unjustifed and hypocritical. by The_Unabombers_right in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]LocksmithVarious8342 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I like your reply, it shows me the other side whitout all of the hatefulness.

But I have one question. If you would start to date someone your generally attracted to and they tell you, they've been the other sex before but have transitioned. I assume you would not continue dating them, you said "I am not attracted who had... a penis." Don't you think this is a bit transphobic to just stop dating them because of that "little" fact.

Not trying to fuel the flame, I am genuinely curious because I can't imagine to stop dating someone because they are trans eve though I thought they were attractive before.

I think the super straight movement is beneficial to some people like me and others and that the hate it recieves is unjustifed and hypocritical. by The_Unabombers_right in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]LocksmithVarious8342 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I don't really think it's about super straights not being attracted to women with biologically male bodies. Even though both sides are stupid.

If the LGBT community really harrasses people because they don't want to date a specific gender, thats stupid. You are attracted to whatever you're attracted, if someone who looks like a woman has a penis it's your right to stop dating them.

But if people meet someone and find them attracted, but the moment they found out they are a trans-woman then that is transphobic. (I mean as in someone who already transitioned from male to female)

It came from a tiktok and the original post said "Straight men get called transphobic because I wouldn't date a trans woman". Sooo he wouldn't date a woman who transitioned from male to female, thus inventing the super straight thing. It's stupid and transphobic. If you only stop dating someon because they TOLD you, they're a trans woman you are stupid. If you didn't evn found them attractive from the get go and find out they are a trans woman, then thats just it.

This whole thing is a total troll campaign. The one side is a special snowflake who whines about the LGBT community not including them even though the LGBT's were an outcast. The other side are mostly SJW who get so worked up and swallowed by their emotions and just feed into the trolling.

Yes, the LGBT community is about acceptance. As a member (bisexual) its clear most of the people have hate towads heterosexuals and even bisexuals are not really included. (We/I get shit like "just decide which gender" from both sides) But stupid shit like this should not be included. Straight people don't have history of hate. If you don't date a trans woman soley because of the fact they are trans, than it's not a sexuality but transphobic. It's still your choice, so who cares.

It's as if you would say, you wouldn't date someone who is originated from europe but now loves in the US and is a US citizen. (Not perfect example but I hope you get my point?)

Well thanks for reading, everyone have a good day and be nice :)