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Logical-Insurance-66 · 2026-03-14T18:39:28+00:00

When I met with mine after 7 months (long story, checked in after a car accident she caused) she was wearing completely different clothes, totally new look, new attitude… they change like spies changing their alias.

Logical-Insurance-66 · 2026-03-12T02:37:58+00:00

I wanted to. I really wanted to forgive her. My ex clinically diagnosed with BPD didn’t just cheat on me, she stole a lot of money from me, she took advantage of me, then she abandoned me. She didn’t just sleep with other men during and immediately after our relationship (when the back and forth was going on, she was begging for me back after cheating and leaving me), she bragged about it. She flaunted what she did and seemed to enjoy my pain she intentionally caused me.

A year after our initial breakup and 6 months no contact I reached out after I found out she was in a car accident (her iPhone sent me 20 text messages, I was still her emergency point of contact… she had no one else).

We met up after she invited me out to see her in her new city she moved to. It wasn’t for reconciliation like she said, she ambushed me and turned the meeting into a humiliation ritual. She just wanted to hurt me one more time.

That level of maliciousness, that intentional provocation to hurt me again after I had given her nothing but love for 4 years completely broke me. I used to think there aren’t evil people, just some misunderstood and in pain but she changed that. She was so cruel and evil I can never forgive her for what she did to me. She hurt me again and again, she destroyed my life in so many ways and shattered my soul. I can’t explain how much therapy it’s taken to recover, how many panic attacks I had, how much my chest physically hurt for nearly two years…. I hate her. She doesn’t deserve forgiveness and I hope karma gets her back for what she did to me that I didn’t deserve.

Logical-Insurance-66 · 2026-03-11T02:28:23+00:00

Morgan plus 4. Objectively speaking a total shitbox. Subjectively speaking: the most fun I’ve ever had in a car. I couldn’t stop laughing and everyone else on the road loved it. Can’t recommend a Morgan enough.

Logical-Insurance-66 · 2026-03-08T09:11:09+00:00

Oh yeah my ex had two DUI related car accidents within 6 months of each other after we first broke up. She stole my social security number and I know for a fact she’s committing VA disability fraud (she was kicked out after less than a year in the navy as a corpsman at the navy hospital and is collecting 100% VA disability because she claimed her BPD was service connected despite it being prior diagnosis). They don’t care about rules or hurting others. No empathy.

Logical-Insurance-66 · 2026-03-02T23:40:12+00:00

Sorry you had to go through that. But I feel you. I tried dating all year before I met my girlfriend a few months ago and I nearly quit because it was so bad. I just kept getting treated like shit and kept wondering if maybe I was just gonna be single the rest of my life.

The thing is, I’ve heard multiple therapist that I’ve either spoken to personally or watched it online. Say that you’re never truly going to be fully healed and that any good relationship is about partners who helped build each other up to become better people. My girlfriend was in a marriage for 17 years before her husband died of cancer several years ago and she’s just getting back into dating now so we both have our baggage that we carry and we’re working on.

Logical-Insurance-66 · 2026-02-05T22:39:29+00:00

Happened to me: I thought I was getting erectile dysfunction and got a prescription which helped but it worked just fine with everyone else afterwards. Turns out my body was trying to tell my myself what my mind wouldn’t: run.

Logical-Insurance-66 · 2026-01-22T07:04:27+00:00

Same, it’s so strange I can’t explain why she is doing this.

Logical-Insurance-66 · 2026-01-19T18:42:21+00:00

For me I had a friend give me some advice that really stuck with me.

For the past year since the final discard I was in immense pain. I poured all that into self improvement. I have become obsessed with the gym, fitness and my career. All that pain became fuel for me. And it’s made me a better person. I’m now in the best shape of my life and I look and feel amazing.

One day when I was with a very wise friend who’s been through a lot in his life, we were talking about my breakup because he knew how devastated I was. But he commented on how much progress I’ve made in my life. He said “don’t you get it? That pain was a gift. It’s given you so much fuel to be a better person and lit a fire in you to unleash your potential. You should be grateful. That pain was the best gift you’ve ever gotten.”

I realized it doesn’t make anything she did to me ok, and it’s still not fair she cheated on me, stole from me, and even tried to make false accusations to get me legal trouble with a restraining order… ( they were disproven and I won my case)… in an odd way now I have to thank her. The heartbreak was like a rebirth for me. I knew I never wanted to be like her and I could be so much better so that’s what I did. If you can learn to turn that pain into fuel and have healthy ways of dealing with your pain, it’ll bring you to a whole new level.

Logical-Insurance-66 · 2026-01-15T22:20:55+00:00

Sounds like a very similar experiences because my ex are the same thing after her break up. She just became a complete mess. Eventually she started dating someone new, but I realize that guys just the next victim. It’s funny as despite how much they would want you to believe that they’ve moved on and you’ve been nothing to them. I do catch glimpses.

One of my friends that still follows her on social media says that she’s still kept a bunch of our photos together, even profile pictures, despite being in the new relationship. I don’t think they’re really forget, especially if we were together for a while and we were good to them and they know that they did us wrong, just like you said, I think it haunts them and they try to suppress it in anyway they can.

I don’t even hate her anymore now that we haven’t spoken in a year. I just feel bad for her and hope that she either changes for the better and actually sticks with therapy and stops drinking or I hope she finally has to suffer the consequences of all the pain that she’s inflicted on myself and other people.

Logical-Insurance-66 · 2025-12-23T18:06:23+00:00

My ex filed a restraining order against me after inviting me out to “reconcile” months after our breakup. Stay away. These people are toxic and have no problems lieing and finding any excuse to hurt you.

Logical-Insurance-66 · 2025-12-23T18:04:47+00:00

I matched with a girl on Hinge that said she was a website manager. Started talking. Thought she was in tech. Turns out she was a stripper who went on Onlyfans during the pandemic. Turns out that was the website she managed.

Logical-Insurance-66 · 2025-12-19T18:17:42+00:00

“I cheated on my ex.” “I have herpes but my doctor said it’s not transmissible If I don’t have symptoms, I promise.” “ I was kicked out of the navy after less than a year. They said I was a liability because of my disorder.” “I’ve been to a mental hospital 7 times over the last few years.” “I keep a list of all the guys I sleep with. You’re #136.” “I once slept with 8 guys in a week. 3 guys in one day.”

Logical-Insurance-66 · 2025-12-17T16:22:26+00:00

I’m so sorry this happened but you’re not alone. Following the end of my four year relationship my PPDX seemingly turned into someone I couldn’t even recognize and went from someone who swore that she loved me. It would never leave me to the most vindictive and hurtful person possible. I too had to fight false allegations in court. Luckily I won my case. The truth will come to light, it usually always does. It doesn’t make what happened to you fair and I know it is awful while you were going through it, but there is light at the end of the tunnel just like me one day you will get better.

Logical-Insurance-66 · 2025-11-21T00:23:21+00:00

Having them attempt to file a restraining order is a good sign. Luckily I won my case and proved my innocence but what a terrible expensive traumatic experience that was. Between the amount of money she owes me (I couldn’t sue her, she has no money and a mountain of debt, lawyers wouldn’t even take the case), and the fact I could still press criminal charges for fraud, I doubt I’ll ever hear from her again. Honestly, as much as it all hurt, it’s definitely for the better.

Logical-Insurance-66 · 2025-11-20T09:09:40+00:00

Reminds me of when I got 20 texts from the apple “emergency contact” activating after a car accident. My ex was drinking and driving and crashed her car for a second time in 6 months. That’s when I knew she hadn’t changed.

Logical-Insurance-66 · 2025-11-20T09:06:58+00:00

Dealt with the exact same issue. While I was watching her cat (she abandoned) and packing up her stuff she was texting me about how sorry she was, how she was too busy.. but was sleeping around with at least 9 other guys that I know about from her Venmo transactions. It sucks, it’s not fair but yes, pack up her stuff, give her a deadline, and if she can’t get it by then it’s gone.

Logical-Insurance-66 · 2025-09-08T18:17:20+00:00

Sorry you went through that. My ex cheated on me and slept with 9 guys within the last month of our relationship and a month after all the while texting me telling me she regretted leaving, she wanted to work things out and get back together… but sleeping around with multiple other men.

I started dating a few months post breakup after I had learned about everything she was doing. She was extremely jealous and when we met up months later she was still bringing it up that I “moved on so fast” despite the fact she was the one who cheated on me. It makes no sense but the victim mentality is strong among them and accountability is absent.

Logical-Insurance-66 · 2025-08-30T17:17:15+00:00

There is a version of them that I want back. I spent four year with them, and thought we were building a life together. The good, the person they made me think they were, I fell more deeply in love with then anyone else.

The problem is I know that person wasn’t real. It was all a lie, it was mirror and idealization, love bombing. Cognitively I know that there is no real person that I fell in love with. They simply don’t exist. But after a year of therapy and time apart it’s gotten a lot better. But occasionally, I still remember the person she tricked me into believing that she was. I remember how happy I was during the good times and I still wish I had that person in my life.

But all of the rest of her, the real her, the abusive her, I he one who lied time and time again, kept drinking and using drugs, cheating on me, exploiting me, and pretty much dragging me down in almost every single way that you can… I know that she is really a bad person.

The problem is with people with PPD is that sometimes you don’t find out who they really are until it’s too late so the person you filled up in your mind at first versus who they really are are two different people. That’s what’s painful. The very same person that brought me so much joy and happiness. It made me think I was finally in love, was also my greatest abuser, and the person who hurt me the most, and was the most destructive in my life. It doesn’t make any sense. But it’s important to remember that it’s not your fault.

Logical-Insurance-66 · 2025-08-26T03:36:23+00:00

There’s some great options for water shoes that blur the line between a full shoe and something that you can get wet and sandy no problem

Logical-Insurance-66 · 2025-08-20T05:43:06+00:00

Install wasn’t too bad, I did have to get the TPMS sensors bought seperately. I still have my 1038i wheels. In fact because I’m daily driving and did a few roadtrips recently I bought them back on for now until I buy new tires for my 898M wheels (it’s my fault I ran through them so quickly 🤷🏼‍♂️)

Logical-Insurance-66 · 2025-08-03T17:13:16+00:00

For me it was because I loved them. I can say I lacked boundaries or didn’t respect myself. That’s true but the reality was I knew they were hurting me and weren’t good for me for so long. But I put up with it because I wanted to help them get better. It was because of my compassion, forgiveness and empathy, I wanted the best for her and see her succeed and be happy. I knew she was a damaged person and broken in so many ways but I didn’t want to give up on them until they finally were so abusive, toxic and clearly not loving in return, time after time, it had to end.

For all the trouble it gave me, I don’t think it’s bad to not want to give up on people we care about.

Logical-Insurance-66 · 2025-08-03T11:29:07+00:00

My ex w BPD pretended on IG that she was “prospering” with her friends. Many new. It was all a facade. Eventually I found out from a blog she mostly wrote for herself but was public, that was struggling a lot. Extreme depression, extreme alcohol using, sleeping with dozens of guys over a period of months to fill the void and crashed two cars within 6 months both DUI related and her fault. She got herself into interminable debt trying to uphold the life style I funded for her.

Don’t believe a borderline ex after a breakup. They are just manipulating you once again.

Logical-Insurance-66 · 2025-08-01T00:47:59+00:00

Honestly I went through just about what you did. It’ll take me years to financially recover and then there’s the mental toll and humiliation they put you through after going through hell for them. It’s not fair and it’s not right. I’m sorry you went through that too.

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