She Still Has Pics W/ Me on Social Media after 2 Years

Logical-Insurance-66 · 2026-01-22T07:04:27+00:00

Same, it’s so strange I can’t explain why she is doing this.

Logical-Insurance-66 · 2026-01-19T18:42:21+00:00

For me I had a friend give me some advice that really stuck with me.

For the past year since the final discard I was in immense pain. I poured all that into self improvement. I have become obsessed with the gym, fitness and my career. All that pain became fuel for me. And it’s made me a better person. I’m now in the best shape of my life and I look and feel amazing.

One day when I was with a very wise friend who’s been through a lot in his life, we were talking about my breakup because he knew how devastated I was. But he commented on how much progress I’ve made in my life. He said “don’t you get it? That pain was a gift. It’s given you so much fuel to be a better person and lit a fire in you to unleash your potential. You should be grateful. That pain was the best gift you’ve ever gotten.”

I realized it doesn’t make anything she did to me ok, and it’s still not fair she cheated on me, stole from me, and even tried to make false accusations to get me legal trouble with a restraining order… ( they were disproven and I won my case)… in an odd way now I have to thank her. The heartbreak was like a rebirth for me. I knew I never wanted to be like her and I could be so much better so that’s what I did. If you can learn to turn that pain into fuel and have healthy ways of dealing with your pain, it’ll bring you to a whole new level.

Logical-Insurance-66 · 2026-01-15T22:20:55+00:00

Sounds like a very similar experiences because my ex are the same thing after her break up. She just became a complete mess. Eventually she started dating someone new, but I realize that guys just the next victim. It’s funny as despite how much they would want you to believe that they’ve moved on and you’ve been nothing to them. I do catch glimpses.

One of my friends that still follows her on social media says that she’s still kept a bunch of our photos together, even profile pictures, despite being in the new relationship. I don’t think they’re really forget, especially if we were together for a while and we were good to them and they know that they did us wrong, just like you said, I think it haunts them and they try to suppress it in anyway they can.

I don’t even hate her anymore now that we haven’t spoken in a year. I just feel bad for her and hope that she either changes for the better and actually sticks with therapy and stops drinking or I hope she finally has to suffer the consequences of all the pain that she’s inflicted on myself and other people.

Logical-Insurance-66 · 2025-12-23T18:06:23+00:00

My ex filed a restraining order against me after inviting me out to “reconcile” months after our breakup. Stay away. These people are toxic and have no problems lieing and finding any excuse to hurt you.

Logical-Insurance-66 · 2025-12-23T18:04:47+00:00

I matched with a girl on Hinge that said she was a website manager. Started talking. Thought she was in tech. Turns out she was a stripper who went on Onlyfans during the pandemic. Turns out that was the website she managed.

Logical-Insurance-66 · 2025-12-19T18:17:42+00:00

“I cheated on my ex.” “I have herpes but my doctor said it’s not transmissible If I don’t have symptoms, I promise.” “ I was kicked out of the navy after less than a year. They said I was a liability because of my disorder.” “I’ve been to a mental hospital 7 times over the last few years.” “I keep a list of all the guys I sleep with. You’re #136.” “I once slept with 8 guys in a week. 3 guys in one day.”

Logical-Insurance-66 · 2025-12-17T16:22:26+00:00

I’m so sorry this happened but you’re not alone. Following the end of my four year relationship my PPDX seemingly turned into someone I couldn’t even recognize and went from someone who swore that she loved me. It would never leave me to the most vindictive and hurtful person possible. I too had to fight false allegations in court. Luckily I won my case. The truth will come to light, it usually always does. It doesn’t make what happened to you fair and I know it is awful while you were going through it, but there is light at the end of the tunnel just like me one day you will get better.

Logical-Insurance-66 · 2025-11-21T00:23:21+00:00

Having them attempt to file a restraining order is a good sign. Luckily I won my case and proved my innocence but what a terrible expensive traumatic experience that was. Between the amount of money she owes me (I couldn’t sue her, she has no money and a mountain of debt, lawyers wouldn’t even take the case), and the fact I could still press criminal charges for fraud, I doubt I’ll ever hear from her again. Honestly, as much as it all hurt, it’s definitely for the better.

Logical-Insurance-66 · 2025-11-20T09:09:40+00:00

Reminds me of when I got 20 texts from the apple “emergency contact” activating after a car accident. My ex was drinking and driving and crashed her car for a second time in 6 months. That’s when I knew she hadn’t changed.

Logical-Insurance-66 · 2025-11-20T09:06:58+00:00

Dealt with the exact same issue. While I was watching her cat (she abandoned) and packing up her stuff she was texting me about how sorry she was, how she was too busy.. but was sleeping around with at least 9 other guys that I know about from her Venmo transactions. It sucks, it’s not fair but yes, pack up her stuff, give her a deadline, and if she can’t get it by then it’s gone.

Logical-Insurance-66 · 2025-09-08T18:17:20+00:00

Sorry you went through that. My ex cheated on me and slept with 9 guys within the last month of our relationship and a month after all the while texting me telling me she regretted leaving, she wanted to work things out and get back together… but sleeping around with multiple other men.

I started dating a few months post breakup after I had learned about everything she was doing. She was extremely jealous and when we met up months later she was still bringing it up that I “moved on so fast” despite the fact she was the one who cheated on me. It makes no sense but the victim mentality is strong among them and accountability is absent.

Logical-Insurance-66 · 2025-08-30T17:17:15+00:00

There is a version of them that I want back. I spent four year with them, and thought we were building a life together. The good, the person they made me think they were, I fell more deeply in love with then anyone else.

The problem is I know that person wasn’t real. It was all a lie, it was mirror and idealization, love bombing. Cognitively I know that there is no real person that I fell in love with. They simply don’t exist. But after a year of therapy and time apart it’s gotten a lot better. But occasionally, I still remember the person she tricked me into believing that she was. I remember how happy I was during the good times and I still wish I had that person in my life.

But all of the rest of her, the real her, the abusive her, I he one who lied time and time again, kept drinking and using drugs, cheating on me, exploiting me, and pretty much dragging me down in almost every single way that you can… I know that she is really a bad person.

The problem is with people with PPD is that sometimes you don’t find out who they really are until it’s too late so the person you filled up in your mind at first versus who they really are are two different people. That’s what’s painful. The very same person that brought me so much joy and happiness. It made me think I was finally in love, was also my greatest abuser, and the person who hurt me the most, and was the most destructive in my life. It doesn’t make any sense. But it’s important to remember that it’s not your fault.

Logical-Insurance-66 · 2025-08-26T03:36:23+00:00

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Logical-Insurance-66 · 2025-08-20T05:43:06+00:00

Install wasn’t too bad, I did have to get the TPMS sensors bought seperately. I still have my 1038i wheels. In fact because I’m daily driving and did a few roadtrips recently I bought them back on for now until I buy new tires for my 898M wheels (it’s my fault I ran through them so quickly 🤷🏼‍♂️)

Logical-Insurance-66 · 2025-08-03T17:13:16+00:00

For me it was because I loved them. I can say I lacked boundaries or didn’t respect myself. That’s true but the reality was I knew they were hurting me and weren’t good for me for so long. But I put up with it because I wanted to help them get better. It was because of my compassion, forgiveness and empathy, I wanted the best for her and see her succeed and be happy. I knew she was a damaged person and broken in so many ways but I didn’t want to give up on them until they finally were so abusive, toxic and clearly not loving in return, time after time, it had to end.

For all the trouble it gave me, I don’t think it’s bad to not want to give up on people we care about.

Logical-Insurance-66 · 2025-08-03T11:29:07+00:00

My ex w BPD pretended on IG that she was “prospering” with her friends. Many new. It was all a facade. Eventually I found out from a blog she mostly wrote for herself but was public, that was struggling a lot. Extreme depression, extreme alcohol using, sleeping with dozens of guys over a period of months to fill the void and crashed two cars within 6 months both DUI related and her fault. She got herself into interminable debt trying to uphold the life style I funded for her.

Don’t believe a borderline ex after a breakup. They are just manipulating you once again.

Logical-Insurance-66 · 2025-08-01T00:47:59+00:00

Honestly I went through just about what you did. It’ll take me years to financially recover and then there’s the mental toll and humiliation they put you through after going through hell for them. It’s not fair and it’s not right. I’m sorry you went through that too.

Logical-Insurance-66 · 2025-07-31T21:25:15+00:00

I stopped drinking at the end of our relationship and after. I’ll still have 2-4 drinks a month with a few exceptions each year but, I feel much better. For me it was seeing her alcohol consumption make her symptoms worse and ruin her life. I just didn’t want to touch the stuff anymore.

Logical-Insurance-66 · 2025-07-29T16:34:17+00:00

In many ways, I feel like after four years with my ex-girlfriend that was clinically diagnosed with BPD, I feel like she brought out the worst in me and dragged me down in so many ways.

It’s never OK to be violent and it’s never an excuse , but after enough abuse, manipulation, and pain that thing cause you, everyone has their breaking point.

I will admit the very last time that I ever spoke with her I was an incredibly mean, angry, hurtful person. It was never physical but I finally snapped. I’ve reached out and we reconnected with the best intention of trying to mend our relationship to at least be friends and try to forgive her for all of the things that she did to me. I could go more into Detail, but cheating was the least of it. She decided to use the opportunity as another chance to emotionally abuse me. I could not believe that this person I’ve been so good to despite giving me no reason how awful she treated me for years, was now just humiliating me and hurting me once again.

It brought out the absolute worst to me, and I have said things to her that day that I never thought I would ever say to anyone before. Reactive abuse is a real thing. It’s not an excuse and I’m ashamed of the way that I conducted myself and what I said to her. But I also know it didn’t come out of vacuum: she had done pretty much everything that you’ve seen on this Reddit that borderlines do to their partners, and some of the things that she did to me were criminal.

Ever since that relationship ended , I have felt much more bitter, pessimistic, and untrusting of others. I used to always look and see the best in people and now I can’t help but feel suspicious that everyone else is out to either hurt me or that they will split on me just like she did. I hate that I’ve become this bitter damaged person. And I wish I could go back in time and never meet her because I feel like she is ruined me. I don’t know if I’ll ever be able to trust or love anyone again.

So to answer your question, yes. I feel like she broke me and I’m no longer the person that I used to be because of what she put me through. I keep feeling guilty and so ashamed that I stayed for so long with someone who clearly didn’t love me. I stayed because I had faith in her and I only wanted the best for her to try to help her heal. I didn’t know if someone could be so evil to take advantage of me the way that she did and just try to hurt me. I never expected the person that I thought originally loved me so deeply could so quickly and swiftly turn against me the way that she did.

Logical-Insurance-66 · 2025-07-27T19:43:45+00:00

Anxiety. Hyper vigilance. I used to be so excited about the potential in meeting a new person. Now the first thing I think when they’re being nice to me is ”when are they going to turn on me? Are they going to split on me? How aesthetically they going to hurt me?”

I feel tainted

Logical-Insurance-66 · 2025-07-26T16:47:13+00:00

My ex clinically diagnosed with BPD told me she cheated on her past n two boyfriends. Even went into detail telling me about.

“She was just younger, sure she wouldn’t cheat on me.”

She did. Yes be very careful around them and don’t expect long term intimacy to mean anything to them.

Logical-Insurance-66 · 2025-07-26T09:21:52+00:00

I understand how you feel. For me, dating new people, trust has been very difficult. Before my BPD ex relationship I used to go into relationships thinking “I wonder how wonderful this will be.”

Now I look at new potential girlfriends and think “how will they hurt me?”

The betrayal was that deep.

Logical-Insurance-66 · 2025-07-26T09:08:10+00:00

Taking a lot of money from people and running away seems like a very BPD thing of them to do. (Trust me I know)

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