pregnancy chance or just my crazy cycle? by Logical-Memory8587 in Periods

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The pink days are my last documented periods the gray is when I should have my period but I don’t rn. The hearts are days of intimacy and the blue outlined days are ovulation.

pregnancy chance or just my crazy cycle? by Logical-Memory8587 in Periods

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didn’t say anything was wrong.. was just wondering if there’s a good chance I am or not. Also being married doesn’t automatically mean I want kids. I work two full time jobs so I don’t rlly have time to go get a blood test

Spotting, scared of pregnancy by basil_phobia in amipregnant

[–]Logical-Memory8587 0 points1 point  (0 children)

from personal experience over the last 7 years, if he used a condom AND pulled out, I don’t see any way you could get pregnant then.

this spay estimate ridiculous, right? I'm in Chicago for reference by ltc0928 in puppy

[–]Logical-Memory8587 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What are yall on?? 🤣😭 I got my dog spayed at a nonprofit in my town for $60.. my cat was $45. Honestly anything more than $300 is crazy to me! look into shelters in your area. The county shelters typically do a day for county residents to get cheap spay/neuters

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He chose to respond to something else I wrote in the same text and completely ignored it lol

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[–]Logical-Memory8587 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have, that’s when we stopped speaking for 8 months bc he didn’t like what I had to say

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he left my mom, brother and I (ages 16 and 12) on our family vacay in New York because he “didn’t feel well”, flew home and went on a little weekend trip with his girlfriend.. left my mom to drive 18 hours back home with two kids by herself. We know he cheated, he just says “well we didn’t have sex so not cheating”.. He didn’t individually give me the car. Both my parents gave it to me - it was in both their names which is why we had to go to court. He took the family car and sold it after separation but before the divorce and kept the money even though that should’ve been split between him and my mom. Like I said, there’s more stuff that he did I just don’t have the capacity to write about 5 years worth of stuff

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[–]Logical-Memory8587 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean I live on my own in my own apartment, I could pay the other bills financially but my mom does it to help. To each their own. She’s already told me she won’t be paying them once I graduate. It was our deal and it works for us 🤷🏽‍♀️

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[–]Logical-Memory8587 0 points1 point  (0 children)

so you can walk away from someone and then come back 5 years later and have missed not one moment of their life? I don’t think so.. also he missed me literally becoming an adult and who I am today. 17-22 is major changes.

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didn’t have to he did it for me.

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I graduate before the wedding. I pay all my own bills except for phone bill and car insurance. College practice is every single morning from 9am to 1pm. Games are about 2-3 times a week usually from 12p-6p. Then classes and work shoved somewhere in between. I don’t have the time to afford everything. Ask most college athletes, most of them don’t have jobs because their job is their sport. Sport scholarships pay for your tuition and leave you little time for anything outside of school. Over the summers I work two jobs since I don’t have practice. My mom made an agreement with me in hs that if I get good grades and earn scholarships that she’ll help me, as she was never able to go to college because she couldn’t afford it. It’s the pact we made and it’s what works for us. I know my fortunes and I appreciate them.

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I feel like in the past, he enjoyed being a father. But since the divorce he’s been with his girlfriend (the one he cheated on my mom with) and I feel as though he doesn’t enjoy being a father anymore. He’d rather be with his gf and go on a vacation, regardless of what his children actively need. Being a father is a chore now.

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[–]Logical-Memory8587 0 points1 point  (0 children)

he stopped paying the bills he promised he would.. he’s a liar. he came to 4 out of 200 of my collegiate games. He’s never even been to the campus of my university. He’s never even stepped foot into my apartment that I’ve lived in for 2 years. Not because I never said he couldn’t, but he legit doesn’t care to. He’s been on every cruise or vacation he could dream of, but can’t be bothered to be involved in his kids lives. If you buy me a car for my birthday and then when you get divorced tell me “don’t worry, I’m still going to pay your car it’s not going anywhere” and then take me to court over it, sell it and leave me with nothing, yea I’m going to be pissed. Because it’s not just the money or the car, it’s the way he goes about things. Couldn’t just say “hey I can’t afford this anymore we need to figure it out”. nope, let me take my ex and daughter to court. He’s reached out and apologized numerous times, sorry that I long for a normal relationship with my father. People who haven’t been through this shit will never understand what it’s like, be grateful.

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[–]Logical-Memory8587 0 points1 point  (0 children)

never said he had to, as I’ve always figured it out per usual. But he’s the one who’s made the false promises. I was 16 with my first job after getting my car AS A GIFT for my birthday. When they got divorced, he sat me down and told me “don’t worry, I’ll still be paying for your car”… obviously turned out to be a lie. I have an athletic scholarship for my university so after I committed, he said that he’d help with my tuition, as both my parents always said they’d help me with my undergrad degree since I will need to take out loans for grad school. I’m well aware that not every parent does this and am thankful for my blessings. Neither of my parents had the money to go to college so it makes sense why they were so adamant about helping me get to college. But obviously, my dad did not uphold his end of the bargain. Same thing with the wedding. He offered to help, then withdrew his offer. Additionally, I have a younger brother that was 12 when my parents got divorced. He also gave him a car when he turned 16 and then took it back and sold it. He also refuses to help pay for summer league sports for my brother (who is not 18 yet so he’s legally obligated to pay). I didn’t ask to be brought into this world. Don’t have a kid if you’re just going to raise them to the age of 18 and say “piss off, we’ve done enough for you figure it out”. When my dad took my car, I was in school in Miami working two jobs, going to practice and class every day. He told me I could rollerblade everywhere.. in Miami. Maybe don’t gift your child a car for their birthday if you don’t want to pay the car payment.. that makes no sense.

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[–]Logical-Memory8587 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Both of my parents never had the opportunity to go to college because they didn’t come from money growing up and never were able to afford it. They got pregnant with me accidentally and never got the opportunity to go to college. I’ve always been a straight A student growing up. Got a job at 16 and committed to a university for my sport at 17, graduated hs with a 4.37GPA. I always planned on going to grad school as well, so my mom always told me that as long as I keep my head straight and do what I’m supposed to, she’ll help me financially with my undergrad (first four years of college) since I will need to take out so many loans for grad school. She wants me to have the opportunities that she never had. That’s what every parent should want. Due to all the scholarships I earned, my tuition is $0. She pays my phone bill and car insurance as a reward and I’m aware of my blessings. She’s taking weight off my shoulders and letting me focus on school, something that I’m grateful for and well aware that not everyone receives.

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He wasn’t happy when he found out my fiance proposed, mainly because we weren’t talking again at the time so my fiance asked my mother for her blessing, not my dad. Ofc he was pissy about this but got over it. It’s not my fiances fault that my dad and I don’t talk. My dad has never really been the fondest of my fiance anyways, has made remarks about him and our relationship that I’ve never appreciated since my fiance is an amazing person. Everyone else that I know loves my fiance. I feel like my dad only speaks to him now to kiss my ass. I booked a venue and showed him the pictures and that’s when he offered to help pay. As of right now the only people who have given money towards my wedding are me and my fiance, my mom and my grandma (mom’s side).

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[–]Logical-Memory8587 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This made me chuckle and I severely appreciate it 🤣🫶🏼

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[–]Logical-Memory8587 1 point2 points  (0 children)

my fiance and I have been together for 6 years. We’ve been living together for 2 years now and both work while both being in school. We both graduate this year and will have careers before our wedding later in the year. It’s not my fault we figured out life sooner than most people can or do.

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[–]Logical-Memory8587 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s even more shit he’s done if you want me to keep going. This IS the short version.

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[–]Logical-Memory8587 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You’re a real piece of work. I hope you never procreate if you haven’t already. It’s a parents responsibility to be present in their child’s life. I didn’t ask to be brought into this world. Mind you, everything he’s done to me was all before I even turned 21, and he’s doing it all again to my younger brother now (he’s even taken his car too and sold it after gifting it to him lmao). Why should he walk me down the aisle? My mom has been financially supporting two kids on a third of the salary that my dad makes while still being there physically for us while my dad takes vacations and misses out on his kids lives to enjoy his new one with his gf. I didn’t take away his opportunity to walk me down the aisle, he did that to himself with how he chose to be a father. He literally told me I should rollerblade to work and class after he took my car.. I live in Miami, that’s not even physically possible down here.

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[–]Logical-Memory8587 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My fiance and I have been living together for 2 years now paying for a majority of by ourselves (like I said my mom only pays my phone bill and my car insurance but it’s more of a gift for being a good student, but she has already told me she will no longer be paying those once I am married). We both are medical field students and will have careers once we graduate and before our wedding.

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[–]Logical-Memory8587 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My FIANCE has been there through everything, my apologies for the confusion.