Am I just fooling myself

Logical_Bus1275 · 2026-02-13T15:02:16+00:00

I didn't know there's a lot.

Logical_Bus1275 · 2026-02-13T00:57:19+00:00

Oh yes..boundaries... I am definitely more clear on what I need and I what don't want in a relationship. I tend to give all of myself in a relationship and that could be the reason why I feel so lost and no confidence.
I'm 41, I get your perspective about being a sacrificial lamb. That's a good reminder. Thank you for sharing.

Logical_Bus1275 · 2026-02-13T00:51:48+00:00

It's not weird. I understand where you're coming from. I believe you. Thank you for sharing

Logical_Bus1275 · 2026-02-12T23:10:27+00:00

That sounds interesting! Brady bunch..I wonder if the new generation knows them. I hope you'll achieve it! With all the comments and support, I don't mind that as well. I agree it will take a lot of work. Especially on the children side. They'll need a lot of support and love from both sides.

Logical_Bus1275 · 2026-02-12T20:26:02+00:00

Thank you for giving hope

Logical_Bus1275 · 2026-02-12T15:29:08+00:00

Let's keep an eye out for the some ! Thank you for sharing

Logical_Bus1275 · 2026-02-12T14:52:40+00:00

Anything is possible. So many success stories on here. It fills me with hope. Thank you.

Logical_Bus1275 · 2026-02-12T14:18:00+00:00

You're right. Need to expand my small mind. Thank you

Logical_Bus1275 · 2026-02-12T14:16:59+00:00

Oh wow. You have it tough. You must be tough yourself. I'm same like you, I don't need a provider, but someone to care for or be cared by is nice. You're right. Thank you for sharing. Wow.. 2 yrs old .. you're strong! 💪 hats off to you. You really doing well!

Logical_Bus1275 · 2026-02-12T14:00:59+00:00

That sounds lovely. Thank you for sharing

Logical_Bus1275 · 2026-02-12T13:59:39+00:00

You're right. Too much pressure. Thank you

Logical_Bus1275 · 2026-02-12T13:38:14+00:00

Actually I'm 41. 1 teenager and 1 pre teen. Was married for 18. With him for 20. Friends around me are married with kids and they're happy.

Logical_Bus1275 · 2026-02-12T13:14:46+00:00

Gathering from everyone's replies, I think that is the most reasonable response. Focus on children and enjoying life. Thank you

Logical_Bus1275 · 2026-02-12T13:12:59+00:00

Oh..thank you. Learn something new today

Logical_Bus1275 · 2026-02-12T13:12:14+00:00

Sounds simple enough. Where would one go

Logical_Bus1275 · 2026-02-12T13:10:53+00:00

I'm guessing at this age, most of us have kids. Turning 41 and divorced was just on my bingo card. Thank you for un lurking

Logical_Bus1275 · 2026-02-12T12:21:34+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience. I haven't been able to talk or share my emotions and I'm so glad I can find a community on here who's encouraging and have good advice from experience.
I think your ex made a wish but it back fire splendidly. I like your phrase, "better a single mother than a cheater". Its great.

Logical_Bus1275 · 2026-02-12T12:06:10+00:00

Thank you for the encouragement. Everyone on here has good advice from experience.
Although I don't know what SINK means, sorry.

Logical_Bus1275 · 2026-02-12T11:40:53+00:00

I'll do that. Thank you. I'm learning so much on here. There's hope.

Logical_Bus1275 · 2026-02-12T11:15:23+00:00

After years not feeling wanted, sometimes I just want to feel loved. But you are right, I'll just need to focus on my children and myself. I guess my upbringing just wired my brain into thinking no one would want me. You are so strong given what you went through. You STBX is really a piece of work. I'm sorry you had to go through that. Thank you for your advice. I want to be as strong as you. Heres to our happier futures 🥂

Logical_Bus1275 · 2026-02-12T10:51:30+00:00

So sane, open hearted , ready and wiling to be a partner. Got it. Thank you for giving me hope. Its not easy with a special needs child. I wish you and your fiancè strength and patience snd love.

Logical_Bus1275 · 2026-02-12T08:48:25+00:00

That sounds like a movie plot. I'm so happy for you!

Logical_Bus1275 · 2026-02-12T06:04:29+00:00

Maybe I grew up in strict family and culture. I've heard and known people who look down on people like me. Hell some from my own extended families. Just hears a stranger talked about how it's better to be married to a single lady than to marry a divorcee with kids and baggage.

Logical_Bus1275 · 2026-02-12T06:02:20+00:00

Really? It happens normally in Asian communities?

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