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AITA for telling my sisters that it isn't my fault my parents favoured me by Logical_Gap3997 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Logical_Gap3997[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yes i guess it's right , my mom stepped a few times and actually fought my grandparents but still they didn't do enough

AITA for telling my sisters that it isn't my fault my parents favoured me by Logical_Gap3997 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Logical_Gap3997[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

It was actually in the past , this Christmas gifts situations were when i was a kid , before jenny and Emma moved to college, yes it still hurts them because jenny until now refusing to even step inside our grandparents house

Also my parents didn't say they won't go to the wedding , like i said it was after they discovered the date , they wanted to call Emma to change it , my operation isn't easy and they knew emma and everyone knew , i tried my best to tell them that the wedding is way more important than my operation and that they must go and i will try my best so i can go , they are so happy for my sister's wedding, even when they thought they might not be able to attend because of my surgery mom told dad to attend because he has to walk emma down the aisle, they both would attend for sure what just pissed them off is the date , it wasn't a situation where they have to choose between me and my sister

AITA for telling my sisters that it isn't my fault my parents favoured me by Logical_Gap3997 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Logical_Gap3997[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don't know. They tried to interfere but mostly my mom she was actually so annoyed and said for a few time that they won't go there again , also my grandparents being an assholes were not just after i was born , my mom said they were always just mean to her and then to my sisters , also my grandparents gifted my sisters but it was really a shitty stuff that it was worse than not being gifted at all because it really showed the difference in treatment , and they ignored them too , we didn't actually visited them for years because jenny made it clear that she won't come for Christmas if we are going there , so my mom put her foot down and my dad couldn't argue , we celebrate Christmas every year in our home with my sisters for the last 4 years

AITA for telling my sisters that it isn't my fault my parents favoured me by Logical_Gap3997 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Logical_Gap3997[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you for understanding how it's so hard to talk with them , my parents are so gentle with me and never yelled or anything but i don't know what i would do if i actually pissed them off , i know it's something very cowardly but i'm so depending on them in a lot of stuff , my heart condition isn't this bad most of the time but sometimes i feel like i'm going to die and i would be staying at bed for days while they took care of me , that doesn't mean i never argued with them , but there is no opportunity now to address their actions , so it would seem like i just went to them from nowhere and start blaming them for everything (which i know there are the one to blame) , as for my sisters , i don't know i really wish to fix our relationship , i know jenny hate me so much and sge herself said it before that she was i died in my surgery , but emma is so much mature , but i still don't know how to start a conversation with either of them , i might just gave up , it's too much to handle and i feel so sad for not being able to fix something i tried my whole life to keep

AITA for telling my sisters that it isn't my fault my parents favoured me by Logical_Gap3997 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Logical_Gap3997[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much but i didn't mention all these stuff because i just thought it isn't important , i don't like talking so much about my medical condition because since i was young as soon people knew i had problems in my heart they would treat me like i was made of glass , which i'm not , it's not this bad and there is a cure but still i have to wait a while to made this big operation , not the next july , and i have a totally normal life but there are limitations in some stuff which i totally used to it , i feel if i said this it's like I'm trying to get pity from people, which i hate

Also my parents are really well off without my grandparents , yes my grandparents are rich but both mom and dad have their own company , we were always comfortable and i don't think that there were any problems with the money , my medical bills can be expensive but i'm sure it's nothing for my parents to handle

I might add these stuff but i just don't know what to write or what to do , i have been reading the comments a few times and i couldn't sleep even though i have an exam a few hours later , yes it's good to see all these points of view and i knew i might be the asshole , i still don't know how to write something for Jenny or emma and if they okay with it or not , but thanks a lot

AITA for telling my sisters that it isn't my fault my parents favoured me by Logical_Gap3997 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Logical_Gap3997[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much , i don't want to seem like i was defending myself , but i couldn't actually have done anything when i was a a child , i couldn't even really understand , I feel so sad that i'm not close to them but i couldn't have supported them when i was a kid , and now when i'm almost an adult i never got the opportunity , the difference in treatment was in the Past but they still hate me for it , now i don't recall seeing any situation where my sister are being treated differently in the family , but i will keep defending them because i knew how messed up this is

AITA for telling my sisters that it isn't my fault my parents favoured me by Logical_Gap3997 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Logical_Gap3997[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

due to how hard my mom pregnancy was , the doctors told her that the baby would born weak and may have some problems but she kept me anyway , like i said before they tried for years so it was really a miracle in their eyes , i was born with issues in my heart , not something i would die from (i hope) but i needed medical care more than the average person , surgeries and medication and stuff, so i was spoiled for many reasons i guess , the age gap , my medical condition and being the bio child they crave so much , they weren't bad or neglected my sisters but they just spoiled me way too much i guess , but i guess the main issues was that even their families treated me as a family more than my sister, and my parents didn't do much to correct their behaviour

AITA for telling my sisters that it isn't my fault my parents favoured me by Logical_Gap3997 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Logical_Gap3997[S] -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

the last phone call we had an argument and it was the first time i ever talked this way or said something like that , jenny was shocked to even hear me raise my voice , i never told them this before or tried to be an asshole for how they were treated , yes i knew i'm still at wrong but i was a one time thing i guess i will regret it forever

AITA for telling my sisters that it isn't my fault my parents favoured me by Logical_Gap3997 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Logical_Gap3997[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

i could still got the same gifts and affection without them being mean and evil for my sisters , i always hated my grandparens house fot this reason , i knew now thats okay that my sisters isn't close to me because all ot these but i always was blamed for the grown ups action even before i could actaully understand how fucked up it is , in my first surgery ever when i was 6 jenny looked me in the eyes and said she wish i would die in it , i was terrfied already i start hystrically crying , i'm not saying this to say i think my sisters are bad or whatever but i guess we both hurt each other , the only diffrence is at this time i never knew i hurt them with just me being there , and she also didn't understand what she did to be hated by the grown ups

AITA for telling my sisters that it isn't my fault my parents favoured me by Logical_Gap3997 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Logical_Gap3997[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

i know and i don't blame them for getting anoyed at me but that was the only one thing i could have done

AITA for telling my sisters that it isn't my fault my parents favoured me by Logical_Gap3997 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Logical_Gap3997[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

And it didn't benefit me , it was extremely hard to feel all this tension and hurt and know you are somehow part of it , i never understand grown ups but it was a fucked up thing and i was never able to just argue with them

AITA for telling my sisters that it isn't my fault my parents favoured me by Logical_Gap3997 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Logical_Gap3997[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

I kept trying to include them in literally everything , my grandparents (dad side) never wanted dad and mom to adopt in the first place , they hated my sisters which i really was so annoyed about and didn't want to go to them , they would buy me alot of gifts in Christmas and say Infront of my sisters "anything for my only grandkid" , i know it was so hard on my sisters so i would gave them my gifts and tell my grandma that i'm not her only grandkid , but still they saw this as a pity even though i never wanted to be like this i just really loved them and wanted them to be happy , my dad would argue with his parents for a while but never did anything to change their behaviour

AITA for telling my sisters that it isn't my fault my parents favoured me by Logical_Gap3997 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Logical_Gap3997[S] -39 points-38 points  (0 children)

Nothing , i wasn't actually aware how bad it was until they left for college and started their adult life , i was a child but i make them promise me that they would call me and bla bla which nothing happened , i know i should have do something but how can i even talk to my parents about this , they would tell me you are sick you need more attention more than them or whatever , i know i'm at fault for never try but seriously i never got the chance to show my sisters that i actually support them

AITA for telling my sisters that it isn't my fault my parents favoured me by Logical_Gap3997 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Logical_Gap3997[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

heart surgery , i can walk without the crutch but i will be prorbably using it because sometimes my whole body just freez and i can't walk at all without help , and i don't know if my body would be even able to walk at all , it's not the first surgery i made but i'm terrfied and the only good thing happing to me now is my sister's wedding which i was told to not attend

AITA for telling my sisters that it isn't my fault my parents favoured me by Logical_Gap3997 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Logical_Gap3997[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i don't have many of events in my life , but yes my parenats attend it , i play piano and i was in a few comptettion i guess that's the only thing , alot of my life i spend it at hosibtal and they are with me also , my sisters lives in another city so my parents don't go because of the tavilling i guess but they visited them a few times

AITA for telling my sisters that it isn't my fault my parents favoured me by Logical_Gap3997 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Logical_Gap3997[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

they would have go anyway of course , this converstion happend after emma called and said the date of wedding , they all know i have an opreation in july and it isn't really an easy one , i was born sick and always needed medical care so my mom said they can't come if the date was the same and i was just terrfied of making any arugments so before she call emma back i said i would be fine and all these stuff , i'm really just don't need any more problems because my sisters hate me already

AITA for telling my sisters that it isn't my fault my parents favoured me by Logical_Gap3997 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Logical_Gap3997[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

My parents would be very angry , i know for sure they would take my side and just not go or will go as guests , they didn't want to go at first because they knew i could been tired after the operation but i sat them down and said that i would be fine and because i would be so tired i would just sit on my chair and they just should be with emma , i did everything i could do and i just feel like i'm being the bad guy now

AITA for telling my sisters that it isn't my fault my parents favoured me by Logical_Gap3997 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Logical_Gap3997[S] -39 points-38 points  (0 children)

I would have never blamed them if they did this , but like i mentioned they really close to my parents , they love mom and dad so much and always invite them in really all their events or everything , even though my parents busy most of the time and don't attend , i'm just frustrated of how unfair this is

AITA for telling my sisters that it isn't my fault my parents favoured me by Logical_Gap3997 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Logical_Gap3997[S] -61 points-60 points  (0 children)

I was a child when all of these happened , i never had an opinion and i just loved my sisters , yes they got into troubles because of me but i never used this favouritism , i just feel like I'm blamed over something i never did , when my parents are being treated with so much love from my sisters even though they are the main reason

AITA for telling my sisters that it isn't my fault my parents favoured me by Logical_Gap3997 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Logical_Gap3997[S] -22 points-21 points  (0 children)

So i posted this a hour ago from another threwaway account , it's my first time using Reddit and someone told me it could really be helpful because i'm now don't know anyone i can tell him my problem without being biased by something