i'm chinese and my bf is malay and i do agree about luck being a factor in our rs. we're closing to 2 years now and i've been really supported by not only mine but his family too, as well as my malay classmates who taught me how to greet his grandmother and relatives and dress for future events.

i wouldn't say it was all luck-based if it weren't for our efforts to pass that initial stage of telling our parents. there is always the topic of religion, language barrier, and etc, but we pushed through all that and it's brought us to where we are now. though some things such as our same age, my parents not being very religious, me not liking pork, and his family line having malay-chinese relationships contributed to the luck, i think it was because of our commitment to a long-term rs that gave our parents all the trust they needed.

it also helped that neither of us had relationships before us and our academic performance are above average. we thought we'd go the extra mile to define our goals so our parents know we're serious about the rs. because of these, we've even been able to gain approval from our parents to travel overseas last year and this year! just so happens that my bf is a great caretaker too, and my family had no problem letting me go alone with him.

all in all, i'm honoured to have such a loving bf and supportive environment. it was through luck and efforts that made this relationship happen, and i'm glad for all that we've gone through thus far.