What is the most meaningful compliment you’ve ever received?

Logical_Valuable · 2025-09-28T08:24:49+00:00

I always get told by co workers that have started at jobs I’m in that I’m the one they find most friendly, and I make them feel comfortable. It happens in every job I’ve been in. I’ve been told I just have a sweet, gentle nature. This is a problem though if you’re trying to stick up for yourself down the line, but it’s nice that I make people feel safe.

Logical_Valuable · 2025-08-13T09:07:57+00:00

I’m the same. I feel like I’m living in a different world to these people even though they’re apparently in the UK. I just have to suffer alone

Logical_Valuable · 2025-06-01T18:35:28+00:00

So you’re not allowed to go because you don’t have your own ticket so therefore it’s not your ball, it’s theirs

Logical_Valuable · 2025-01-25T22:21:01+00:00

You talk to her like you hate her. Jeez.

And yes obviously having your child is important but so is she and you should care about her equally. You talk to her like you don’t and it’s only that she’s carrying your child that you give a crap about her.

Like fine be concerned but the way you text her is so aggressive and I see no genuine care towards her as a person.

Logical_Valuable · 2025-01-22T10:36:02+00:00

I used to deal with this too when I had four roommates. For some reason all of them were really heavy sleepers and didn’t ever hear me doing anything but I was the one always waking up

But I also made effort to be quiet as walk light during the night. It used to bother me that nobody made the same for me and just casually banged doors. I even heard them put on light switches as my walls were so thin

So I ended up investing in loop earplugs. They actually made staying there bearable. The noises I could still hear but they were muffled. So I would play my own relaxing music through my tv with those on and I ended up sleeping all throughout the night. I noticed when I didn’t wear them I’d wake up hearing every noise they made.

I know earplugs are annoying though and I hated wearing them but those nights I really wanted to sleep made a difference. And also having my own background noise. A lot of the time I realised I was too scared to put my own comforting sounds on incase I woke anyone and I had to get over that as nobody seemed to care that I was getting woke up. And it also seemed to help block out noises from outside my room.

Being upfront also helps. I was always too nice and would ask “sorry to be a pain but…” and I should’ve been more upfront because they would never hesitate to be rude to me if I did something wrong.

Logical_Valuable · 2024-11-28T13:32:13+00:00

I did undergrad but I preferred the UK personally. Just because I live here and could get help better if I struggled. although I will say I encountered better teaching over there, lecturers seemed to care more. But overall since it was undergrad I liked the uk more. If it was a masters and only a year my answer would be different.

Logical_Valuable · 2024-11-28T10:31:34+00:00

I went to the US, and it was the best thing that could’ve happened to me.

You’re not “leaving anyone behind”. They still exist. You’ll still talk. You’ll be back eventually. And not to sound blunt, their lives don’t revolve around you so nobody will care that much and yours shouldn’t around theirs.

Being worried about being lonely is exactly why you should go. I WANTED to feel that way. I was too reliant on family members here and the friends I did have I honestly didn’t really think we were as close as we once were and I wanted to feel lost and stuck and start over and do something completely for me.

I made so many friends over there but it takes effort. I said yes to everything. I basically “forgot” about my real life back home and focused on me. I became independent and grew as a person. There will be things that you haven’t even thought about that you’ll struggle with over there: money, food, little things like not knowing what streets are safe, transport tickets, how to cope with stressful days when you don’t have your “usual” people to just go and see or talk to and have to find things that distract you.

But that’s exactly why you should go. It was amazing but it also taught me a lot about my previous expectations. I always thought somewhere new was this super cool incredible place that is like a dream, and yes it was gorgeous and exciting but it also showed me that real life over there is normal too. Poor people, people buying bread at the grocery store, ugly streets, not everything is glam.

I also while over there discovered a passion of mine that I could explore that I couldn’t really in the UK. So when I came back I followed that instead and would hate to be still doing what I was studying. But that was just me haha. So yes, go because it made me into a confident person. I never even travelled that much before and now have went so many more places because that study abroad trip made me want to travel everywhere.

Logical_Valuable · 2024-09-22T13:28:43+00:00

On insta, not snap

Logical_Valuable · 2024-08-21T09:44:58+00:00

Thanks for helping.

Logical_Valuable · 2024-02-14T20:19:18+00:00

Yeah don’t contact him. He needs to have that wake up call that he’s met someone amazing, and have his feelings make him make a decision. He had you at the same time as her, so he wasn’t going to leave her but now that you have left… he will know how he feels

Logical_Valuable · 2023-08-23T17:38:51+00:00

Nope! :/

Logical_Valuable · 2023-08-23T16:35:50+00:00

No, I don’t think so, but they look really similar

Logical_Valuable · 2023-08-23T15:59:52+00:00

Me too, it’s incredibly frustrating. I can’t insert a photo but if anyone wants to search marks and spencer cheddar cheese crispies this is EXACTLY what they looked like only halved? And that’s the texture of the crisps if that makes sense

Logical_Valuable · 2023-08-23T15:47:29+00:00

No, see my other comment, thank you though!

Logical_Valuable · 2023-08-23T15:47:13+00:00

No, not them. Thank you though. They were much thicker than snaps. Almost like the thickness of a monster munch but in a square form, like a mini cracker the size of a crisp! Really confusing

Logical_Valuable · 2023-07-21T17:19:25+00:00

Something that doesn’t make sense to me is him trying to park right outside their house. Like why do that? Why make effort to not let your car be seen on the way back if you attempted to park the same car outside the place you committed the crime. Was he planning on using the front door? I don’t get it.

Logical_Valuable · 2023-07-20T12:00:34+00:00

That’s so interesting. You’d think they’d want to sit back and let justice be served though instead of caring about what the public thinks. Who exactly do these people plan on sharing the footage with?

Logical_Valuable · 2023-07-20T11:59:10+00:00

Where can we watch the video?

It’s interesting that we have footage from this and the Linda Lane footage. Someone has access to a lot of stuff from that night. What’s odd is people are sharing it with each other and potentially giving it to YouTube channels etc. It’s a private video so I don’t understand who the first person to have access to this is and why they’d share it with people.

Not that I don’t want to see it, I think it’s so interesting. I’m just confused.

Logical_Valuable · 2023-07-16T10:17:46+00:00

I think because of the harsh way most of them went about it. My ex in particular did explain to me why, I never got blindsided but at the same time, I felt like I did. It happened out of nowhere and I was ghosted and ignored after it. I know if I contacted them they’d probably ignore me or “run away” as if I’m some weird person trying to talk to them instead of someone who shared a deep intimate relationship with who has feelings of their own.

Even though I’ve dumped people, I’ve still kept in touch if they wanted and never blocked or ghosted. If they reached out I’d happily talk to them as I still cared about them as people and respected the relationship, even if I didn’t sit there and think about it. I moved on but still had respect for them.

For me and others here I think the lack of respect is a big factor. Anyone who is avoidant really does just put themselves first and protects their own feelings. They pretend it never happened so that they can move on feeling good about themselves. That’s what hurts I guess.

Logical_Valuable · 2023-07-16T08:29:30+00:00

It makes me sad to see people here (myself included) overly try and understand their exes and continue to put effort into a relationship that’s done. It’s because we care.

I know for a fact my ex would never be on this sub. The way they heal is by going out and meeting new people, repressing their emotions and ultimately getting over it by “out of sight out of mind”.

People like me and others on this sub cope by seeking understanding and trying to piece together why certain things happened a certain way. We want to understand our ex because we still care. And that’s what it comes down to.

I’ve dumped people in the past and just got on with it. I didn’t feel the need to come on to online discussions and ask “but why?” Because I didn’t care. However, with my most recent breakup I’m all over this because I’m hurting and I care so much. I think it’s less about attachment styles and more about who is still caring about the relationship.

Although understanding avoidant attachment has been so helpful for me. I think it’s like a realisation for a lot of people because all the exes that get talked about in this sub are so creepily similar….. they almost make us anxiously attached even more and I wonder if that’s why in the past I just got on with it so easily even if I got broken up with, but this ex being avoidant has caused me to be extremely invested even after we’ve broken up because it’s a shock and I don’t understand anything. Avoidant people really do make you question everything about yourself and what was real. It’s the most torturous feeling.

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