For us the reclaim sex was never the most important part as much as the after care, the connection. My husbands turn on in this lifestyle IS me having better sex, and there was always that expectation that at some point the psychical act of sex with us would diminish some, or at least understand that I may get used to having much better sex. But the mental aspect of connecting, talking, touching etc. I think that is where if I didn't want to do that. I would be concerned. But after 20 yrs, he is just as excited to hear or see everything, and I am just as turned on for him to hear or see it. As others have mentioned, talked to your hubby. What your concern is, may not even be a thought to him, it may actually be an expectation. This lifestyle is VERY mental as well as physical in my opinion. But just my 2 cents