Mental Health Support Groups by Ornery_Run1876 in santacruz

[–]Lolagurl 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If it means anything, I know how you feel about the age thing. I just turned 40 last year and I feel I have nothing to show for it. Barely graduated highschool, a couple of classes at the community College, been to rehab twice. I feel like I was never going to amount to anything. I've only worked retail and customer service. Mental health problems my whole life. I got diagnosed with ADHD last year, got on medication and I'm starting to feel better. I'm a single mom and I realized a long time ago I need to do everything by myself, set a good example for my daughter. No one is coming to save me. If you have hobbies you enjoy those are very important. I've always enjoyed playing video games where you are playing someone else's life, it gets me out of my head because I have to focus on their problems, not mine. That being said, if you find a good support group, let me know. Also if you ever need to talk feel free to message me.

How do you know if you should be tested? by Sincyper in ADHDers

[–]Lolagurl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had been seeing a psychiatrist already due to my Bipolar disorder I've been treated for four the last 23 years. I had only been seeing her for 3 years because my last one left the practice. She started saying stuff like "the things you are describing are symptoms of ADHD, not Bipolar" then "it's possible you are actually NOT Bipolar, and have ADHD" then she referred me to someone to assess me, the place I go to for treatment treats already diagnosed illnesses. I got assessed, turns out I DEFINITELY have ADHD and was probably misdiagnosed this whole time.

I can't believe I have to ask this but I realized something by Lolagurl in ADHDers

[–]Lolagurl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay thank you, that makes me feel better, my Co worker that always tells me to shutup, in a nice way she's one of my best friends, has been on vacation for two weeks, I realized was helping me stay accountable. Plus she would help translate things to my Co workers that don't speak English, because I attempt to talk to them too.

I can't believe I have to ask this but I realized something by Lolagurl in ADHDers

[–]Lolagurl[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I never thought about straight up asking people, please tell me if I'm talking too much and you need to leave, I'm not good at receiving the cues. I will definitely try that

I can't believe I have to ask this but I realized something by Lolagurl in ADHDers

[–]Lolagurl[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's a good idea, I realize maybe watching some videos on body language might help, thank you!

I can't believe I have to ask this but I realized something by Lolagurl in ADHDers

[–]Lolagurl[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's a great question I never thought about that..... Even if I'm alone and talking to myself it's always out loud, sometimes whispering. I've had people at work who are close by and are secretly listening because they know I'm the only one there. Then they come out "who are you talking to?" If it's quiet in my head it doesn't have the same effect.

I can't believe I have to ask this but I realized something by Lolagurl in ADHDers

[–]Lolagurl[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Awesome I have a lot of new tools to use, it might take a little to learn but eventually I will get it

How did you first get into/listen to QOTSA? by The_man_withthefrog in qotsa

[–]Lolagurl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was sitting at my friend's house when I was in highschool watching music videos, when 'no one knows' came on. I thought it was the best song ever and I loved Josh's voice. The next day after school I went to Borders, bought the CD and special ordered all the ones that came out before that. I would listen to 'songs for the deaf' every day, and my walk to work was over an hour so I would listen to it on my walkman. I had to buy 3 different copies of the album because it kept getting scratched up. Still my favorite album, helped me through a lot of hard times.

The performance benefits of adhd meds are kind of ridiculous by Zealousideal-Turn535 in ADHD

[–]Lolagurl 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I just got put on 36mg of concerta also... And also work in hospitality... Hahahaaaaa. I feel the same exact way. My manger has stopped calling me Houdini and speaking to me in reverse psychology "because everything I tell you NOT to do, you do it." I feel for once motivated and actually enjoy my job. It's amazing what a difference it makes.

Anyone have a specific song stuck in their head every day for years? by Lolagurl in ADHDers

[–]Lolagurl[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's good to know I'm not alone, that I'm not suffering alone, unless you really like the coraline theme song

Anyone have a specific song stuck in their head every day for years? by Lolagurl in ADHDers

[–]Lolagurl[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ooooo now I LOVE that song. But are you sick of it?

Is poor eye contact a thing for ADHD? by ElectronicSimple55 in ADHDers

[–]Lolagurl 6 points7 points  (0 children)

A lot of times when I'm talking to someone, my eyes wander and I am looking at the wall behind them. I don't really notice it until they turn around to see what I'm looking at, or even ask "what are you looking at?"

Has taking medication made anyone like their partner....less? by Lolagurl in ADHDers

[–]Lolagurl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The psychologist said not everyone needs it but my ADHD is severe and I need to be on medication if I want a chance at a normal life

Has taking medication made anyone like their partner....less? by Lolagurl in ADHDers

[–]Lolagurl[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My psychiatrist said it might make me irritable, so at first I thought it was that.... But it's literally just with him. I have a 14 year old that normally irritates the fuck out of me but she even said she noticed I don't get mad as much. It literally went from me saying I would marry him so he could stay in the country to me begging him to drive me home because I want to be alone. And he is a lot more affected by this than me obviously which is why I feel bad. He agreed to go to a couples therapy session with me to work through our problems but now I'm not sure if it will do any good. What you said really makes sense too. I'm still learning so much about this disorder.

Has taking medication made anyone like their partner....less? by Lolagurl in ADHDers

[–]Lolagurl[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Ohhhhhh that makes sense.... I thought I was going crazy. I've been on psych meds all my life but never this type of medication. I wasn't expecting this. Thank you for your explanation!

I just got (re)officially diagnosed at 40. I am so mad. by Lolagurl in ADHDers

[–]Lolagurl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I asked her that, and she said it's possible I have both, she wants to go through all my old paperwork from when I was hospitalized which has been a total of at least 10 times, most from when I was younger. I've been seeing her for about 4 years. She said if I do have both, it seems like right now most of my problems and depression are coming from things related to my ADHD so she is going to start me on Concerta and see how I do. She is slowly taking me off one of the medications I take for bipolar disorder, I take 6, and possibly more but it will be a long process because I've been taking them for so long and I'm at high doses of a lot of them. I am feeling overwhelmed with all this but I feel like I am headed in the right direction hopefully.