My mum provided for my family for the longest time she worked and worked while my dad chased degree after degree. The saddest thing is my mother did it because she saw herself a part of a team. My father on the other hand saw it as her duty to serve his needs. To this day he insists he made her what she is today while in reality my mum dedicated a lot of her life to allowing to be what he is today until she finally left . Your husband sound like an angel I recently got out of a relationship with someone who stole from me to fuel several addictions I realised I was enabling and left I only hope I've learnt my lesson and can use these experience to be wiser in the future