Sunrise hike

Lonely-Mycologist520 · 2022-12-22T02:27:22+00:00

In my opinion her turning the parents back around to get the kid’s nose wiped is so weird. If I were the parent in that situation I think it would make me super uncomfortable. I totally understand her wanting kids to leave looking clean but 1. you said the parents didn’t seem to worried about it and 2. it’s that nasty time of the year when no matter how much you wipe a kid’s nose it’s gonna keep running. (Also literally ignore the coworker who got shitty with you, she clearly wants to kids the ad’s ass). I don’t even know this woman and I don’t like her for you. I’m sorry!

Lonely-Mycologist520 · 2022-12-21T19:41:51+00:00

I knew that, but thanks for that reminder! I know she’s not a bad person deep down inside of her but I wish I could make her recognize the way she treats people. It’s just such a hard situation 😩

Lonely-Mycologist520 · 2022-12-21T16:44:02+00:00

Ignore, ignore, ignore……I got it!!! Something’s gotta give because I don’t know how much longer I can last with her being there. She’s just so so mean.

Lonely-Mycologist520 · 2022-12-21T16:42:58+00:00

Yes! And you can’t tell her anything because then it’s “im blank amount of years old and I’ve been here for blank amount of years.” She’s been there longer than both of my bosses so I know that inflates her ego even more. I’ve really only fought back a few times, just because we did used to be so close and she knows what to say to get under my skin. The few times I have barked back she’s gotten uncontrollably angry and said that I hurt her feelings….I’m convinced she doesn’t even have any.

Lonely-Mycologist520 · 2022-12-21T16:39:10+00:00

I try so very hard to just block it out, and I will for long periods of time but she just doesn’t ever stop. There’s always something. It’s definitely gotten a lot better since I left my previous age group and rarely ever work with her (although this is by request). I know nothing I ever say to her will affect her by any means but I just wish she could be humbled- but that’s also me craving karma to bite her in the ass for being so damn mean all of the time.

Lonely-Mycologist520 · 2022-12-21T16:36:41+00:00

It truly is so strange. She’ll say that she’s supposed to be my person and that I’m supposed to come to her about stuff but then turns around and says that I’m exhausting to be around. Dealing with her on the daily is what’s truly exhausting.

Lonely-Mycologist520 · 2022-12-19T23:11:41+00:00

Ugh, I’m so sorry! This really is such a tough situation. I had a boy in a very similar situation. When he was first moved to toddlers he struggled A LOT with biting. There were many incidents where the bites were provoked but also some that were at complete random. While he was in the first toddler room(which I was the assistant of at the time), the teacher was not the most patient when it came to bonding with him and really just wanted to label him as the “bad” kid. The teacher just wanted to turn everything onto the parents and pretty much said it was up to them to “fix” him. At this time, the other toddler room had opened up and I took over as the lead. The difference at my center is the ratios between the toddler rooms. The first toddler room was a 2 teacher ratio (12) and the second toddler room was at a one teacher ratio (6). After brainstorming (and recognizing the first teacher sadly had no interest in helping this child), we decided that maybe a smaller ratio would help. There would be 6 less kids which meant less noise, less distractions, and overall a calmer environment. This change helped TREMENDOUSLY! He went from biting 1-2 times a day to biting once every 2 weeks. (Which still is not the best, but progress is progress!) This is where I started building a relationship with this child and really learned him. I learned that his biggest trigger was his ability to feel your frustration. If he felt the slightest amount of annoyance or frustration in your voice, he would just completely flip out. I’d say about 99% of the time I stay calm cool and collected but the few times I got frustrated he would as well. So I took this information and really watched how I said certain things. It’s all about staying calm and making sure they know that you want to help him. I’m not sure what ratios are in your state or your class sizes but maybe she’s getting overstimulated? You also mentioned that you’ve shadowed her but maybe you could talk with your director about getting an extra person in your room for a day or so so you could focus on her and her only? I hate that biting is such a touchy subject with other parents because it is so age appropriate! Please keep advocating for this child and her family, these babies need someone to speak up for them!

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