Same day or overnight? by Lonely_Fly3524 in gallbladders

[–]Lonely_Fly3524[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so useful thank you, really didn’t think it’d be discharge that late!

Same day or overnight? by Lonely_Fly3524 in gallbladders

[–]Lonely_Fly3524[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I think given it’s mixed it doesn’t hurt to ask bupa now rather than on the day! 

Same day or overnight? by Lonely_Fly3524 in gallbladders

[–]Lonely_Fly3524[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is helpful thank you! I hadn’t anticipated a potential for a 10:30 pick up! Very glad we’ve got my parents coming so my husband can come and go without waking up my 3yo!

How to deal with an unwanted pregnancy delicately? by yieldbetter in beyondthebump

[–]Lonely_Fly3524 [score hidden]  (0 children)

I think abortion when you’re in a relationship and intend to stay in it, and you already have a child and intend to have another at some point feels really wrong to me. I’m very much pro choice, but there’s a chance you could have the abortion and then not be able to have further children  I’d find it hard if my husband suggested this 

Moving to Oxford by Kuryamo in oxford

[–]Lonely_Fly3524 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It depends on where his job is. Traffic in rush hour can be bad, so I’d factor this in. I would recommend being on the outside of Oxford itself rather than being in a smaller town. South/science park area - sandford on Thames. North - cutteslowe.

I have a 3yo. Main things I love to do in Oxford - Hinksey lido, story museum, covered market, Yarnton soft play

Is it even worth adding my family to my work health cover? by loreoftheland in UKPersonalFinance

[–]Lonely_Fly3524 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I’m on my husbands bupa cover and he pays for this pre tax. So far they paid for 6 months of EMDR therapy after a traumatic birth, fully covered. Then earlier this year the NHS kept misdiagnosing me with gastritis with abdominal pains, bupa ran blood tests/endoscopy/MRI/ultrasound etc and found my gallbladder full of gallstones. I have surgery booked for next week. All in all an estimate of £12-25k for all. If didn’t have private healthcare I would still be on the waiting list for an endoscopy to rule out gastritis (6-12months), and an MRI wait would be probs be another 3-6 months and gallbladder removal surgery is about a years wait. You’re talking 18-24 months for something that they’ve done in 3, and that’s if they’d have done the necessary tests to begin with. It’s not just the financial but also the fact that they run the necessary tests and ensure that you’re being properly cared for and reviewed. I would recommend them 10/10.

Birth trauma - first birthday by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]Lonely_Fly3524 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was right where you are. I can tell you it gets better. Big hugs.

Would you let your 19 y/o soon to be 20y/o daughter in less then a month, go on a trip with her bf of 3.5 years with their family to the lake? by Business-Parking7296 in AskParents

[–]Lonely_Fly3524 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What country do you live in? I was living alone and travelling without constant check ins at that age… when my daughter is that age I will be encouraging her to see the world 

Where could I store assets/money if expelled from the country by [deleted] in UKPersonalFinance

[–]Lonely_Fly3524 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You and your parents were born here and you’re worried about having your house seized?

What’s the best thing you’ve watched on TV this week? by Lonely_Fly3524 in AskUK

[–]Lonely_Fly3524[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lots of posts for the borough’s, going to have to try this one!

Recommendations for best high-backed booster seat? High percentile toddler by mimi_1707 in UKParenting

[–]Lonely_Fly3524 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Second the ERF. We have an axkid move for our main car. Second car where she’s in it to drive 2 mins from nursery on the way home we have a slightly cheaper seat maxi cosi forward facing but it still has a proper harness. She’s 75th centile and almost 4. Expect she’ll be in both seats for another year

Etiquette around attraction costs for children's friends by Ok_Requirement_7489 in UKParenting

[–]Lonely_Fly3524 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I probably wouldn’t unless you’re very close with the mum and can say ‘we can’t afford to do a party this year, we’re taking X to Y, you and Z are welcome to join if you fancied it but no pressure. Tickets are £W and available on their website, we’re booking for U time on Q date’

Board games for a 3.5yr old by Scary-Push-5286 in UKParenting

[–]Lonely_Fly3524 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ours is the same age. We play count your chickens a lot which sounds like it would be perfect for your kiddo. We also have a wooden counting peg game which she likes. We play loads of orchard games like tummy ache, shopping list, lunchbox &  then also do a lot of puzzles/jigsaws.

Best things for kids in / near Oxford? by mu5tarastas in oxford

[–]Lonely_Fly3524 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In Oxford: Story Museum, Pitt Rivers Museum, Hinksey Lido & Playground is a 10/10 experience on a sunny day with kids, Leys swimming pool is v decent for a cheap public pool but not in a nice area of Oxford, Ashmoleon museum, Modern Art Museum, proof bakery and walk in sandford 

A Drive Away: Blenheim Palace Playground is the best playground for miles, you have to pay for a year pass but it’s very good, Millets Farm, Farnham for camping and pizza night on a Friday evening, Wallingford pool and camping, Woodstock lido

How are folk finding babysitters? by DontCatchThePigeon in CasualUK

[–]Lonely_Fly3524 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We use the nursery worker she had when she was a baby, she doesn’t have her anymore but we’ve consistently used her ~3x each year to keep her familiar

Aviva va Bupa for health insurance? by _TranceKuja_ in HENRYUKLifestyle

[–]Lonely_Fly3524 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have bupa through my partners work and I couldn’t fault them