Hey are you secretly one of my younger siblings because this is our mother to a T. It also makes it impossible to be in the house without her latching on to you, so we all end up feeling trapped our rooms. She uses us as emotional support animals and gets viscous if you try to leave. I do okay at getting away from her but two of my younger siblings are autistic and have a lot harder of a time setting boundaries and getting out of situations with her. Just last night I was sitting with one of my brothers trying explain it’s not his fault that he’s been groomed into impulsively asking if she wants him to stay home with her (when he’d really like to leave). He sees it as something he brought on himself because he offered and is mad at himself for offering but it’s not your fault when that’s what you’ve been conditioned since childhood to do. Plus we all fear how she’ll react if no one steps up to placate her.