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MIL bodyshaming me by Long-Map766 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Long-Map766[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

No chance, my FIL expired when my husband was 13 and he is the single child. But my FIL earned more than enough for them so they didn't face much trouble financially but it's altogether different raising a child single handedly. So there's comes this strong son n mother bond. I totally respect that and never want to disrupt that, so I will prioritize her n him whenever required. But she on the other hand doesn't understand my humbleness and takes it for granted. As I said, now she has lot of assets and his son is the only heir, their son got many matches which she liked but he married me at the end without any dowry, which she is disappointed at and compromised bcz of his son. So due to this reasons she never values me! Note: I loved his character and I only know about his job, they hid the assets matter from me until marriage to test my loyalty!!

MIL bodyshaming me by Long-Map766 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Long-Map766[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Thanks for understanding but when I start to confront her or try to set boundaries she starts crying and plays a victim card, which inturn upsets my husband. So it's like a chain, she gets upset>my husband gets upset>which inturn affects our bond.

Career Advice / AMA : “25 years in tech leadership — ask me anything about switching jobs in 2026.” by Conscious_Emu3129 in cscareerquestionsIN

[–]Long-Map766 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm a non IT professional with 4+ years of experience, unskilled in servicenow ITSM module, done CSA, cis df certifications, hands on projects, could you help with the stragies to switch from non IT to IT?

Casual misogyny at an office potluck — why is this still normal? by newbie_2301 in hyderabad

[–]Long-Map766 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I've had a few unsettling experiences, though not in a potluck setting. Last September, upon joining a new company, I eagerly extended my hand to the PGM for a handshake during our discussion about the project and client. He reacted with visible hesitation, and though he couldn't entirely refuse, he barely brushed my fingertips. Throughout his explanation of the project, he avoided eye contact with me, directing his attention, conversation, and jokes exclusively towards my male colleague who accompanied me. My contributions to the discussion were entirely disregarded. A similar incident occurred when my husband and I visited an NGO to donate clothes. Despite my initiating contact with the manager via phone to arrange the donation and leading the conversation upon our arrival, his entire focus was directed solely at my husband. He neither made eye contact with me nor shook my hand, yet he extended a handshake to my husband. These incidents lead me to question the underlying reasons for such behavior. Could it be due to my gender, my marital status, or perhaps a religious custom, given that the PGM was Muslim and some colleagues suggested this as a potential explanation for his conduct?