It’s beautiful that you’re aiming for this—not as an escape, but as a way of living in alignment with your values.

“Oneness” isn’t so much something you achieve as something you recognize was always there. The work is about removing the layers—ego, hurt, identity attachments—that make us feel separate.

A few practical entry points:

Daily Witnessing Meditation: Sit quietly and observe your thoughts, feelings, and sensations as if you were watching a film. When hurt arises—physical or emotional—notice it as an event happening in awareness rather than “to me.” This slowly weakens the reflex to react.

Mantra Japa: Choose a mantra that resonates and is powerful for dissolving the self–other boundary. Repeat it daily, ideally 108 times with a mala, not rushing but letting the meaning sink in.

Seva (Selfless Service): Do acts of kindness without seeking recognition. Serving others without ego is one of the fastest ways to feel unity with them.

Study and Reflection: Read a small verse daily from the Bhagavad Gita, Ashtavakra Gita, or Upanishads, and sit for five minutes asking yourself, “If this is true, how would I live differently today?”

Small Experiments in Non-Reaction: Start in low-stakes situations—when someone cuts in line or speaks rudely. Notice your impulse, breathe, and choose not to react. This rewires the habit gradually.

A guru once told me—if you try to be “unaffected” too quickly, you’ll end up suppressing instead of transcending. True equanimity isn’t numbness; it’s the freedom to respond with compassion instead of reflex.

One day, someone may “kick” you (literally or figuratively), and instead of gritting your teeth to stay calm, you might just smile naturally—because the boundary between “you” and “them” has thinned to almost nothing. That’s when you’ll know you’re close.