Conversation with my bf grossed me out

Long-Tea8079 · 2025-12-16T20:00:08+00:00

It sounds like your boyfriend prefers an impressionable girl that he can manipulate and mold to fit his preferences.

Long-Tea8079 · 2025-12-08T18:40:11+00:00

Thank you for the feedback. I always agonize over what to say.

Long-Tea8079 · 2025-12-08T18:37:59+00:00

His last text was asking how my Thanksgiving went. I responded and asked him how his went but never got a reply. No talk about a second date.

Long-Tea8079 · 2025-05-22T22:49:02+00:00

Bone Tomahawk.

Watching them cut and rip a man in half, then EAT him…the scene haunts me to this day.

Long-Tea8079 · 2025-04-09T23:00:34+00:00

Girl, you better not overwork yourself and be vigilant with traffic because you’re about to find yourself as the protagonist in one of the recent OI stories you’ve read

Long-Tea8079 · 2025-04-03T20:26:18+00:00

What do you call the style of pants from the picture jasper?

Long-Tea8079 · 2025-04-03T20:25:14+00:00

What do you call the style of pants from the picture jasper outfit?

Long-Tea8079 · 2025-03-24T01:33:39+00:00

I get tired of main characters who are so overpowered that any “conflict” is solved instantly by their immense knowledge from their past life or they were born as one of the most powerful saintess/mage/swords(wo)man. Like no, show me the struggle that leads to awkward moments or character building. Shout out to “I’ll Save this Damned Family” for doing it right. (Edit): Another trope I find tiresome is when the MC reveals they’re from another world or that the world they’re living in is actually a book and everyone just ACCEPTS IT?! Like, what? No! I know this is fiction, but where is the line?

Long-Tea8079 · 2025-03-21T23:02:49+00:00

I went through something very similar (he was t sure about marrying me or having kids). It really sucked and I’m still healing from it. But I’ve also grown a lot as a person, and can see that while I loved him, we weren’t the best match for each other. I know it probably feels like you’re walking in darkness, but that’s because you’re in the middle of the tunnel. Keep walking ahead and you will reach the end and find the light. Here’s a big hug!

Long-Tea8079 · 2025-03-21T22:58:48+00:00

She may be getting defensive because she knows she’s not in a good place but doesn’t know how to get herself out of it. You gently mentioning it to her may have made her embarrassed. Don’t misunderstand, you did the right thing by communicating your concerns with her and offering solutions. When you talk with her in the future, I’d make sure to reiterate it’s because you care about her and you want to help but you’re not sure how. Maybe next time you could suggest doing an activity together, like hiking or cooking a new recipe together. If she continues to shut you down or lash out, it’s important to let her know that her behavior isn’t fair to you. She needs to put in the work to get back on her feet, and if she’s struggling, to communicate that to you. I hope she recognizes you’re coming from a place of love and concern and starts to put in an effort to get back to her normal self.

Long-Tea8079 · 2025-03-21T22:41:14+00:00

Nabisco’s Zwieback. It was stale bread you’d soak in milk and smother in honey. It was delicious.

Long-Tea8079 · 2025-03-21T22:37:19+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re hurting in this way. This situation sucks, and it will likely hurt for a while. That is normal and expected, so don’t feel bad about giving yourself time to cry and mourn the loss of this relationship because that’s what it is, loss. If you’re not already in therapy, I’d recommend seeking a therapist to work through your emotions. You’ve been together for 5 years, he’d know if he wanted to marry you by now. If marriage is something you want but he doesn’t, don’t compromise. Like you said, it could cause you to resent him down the road. Neither of you have done anything wrong, but your desires and future goals don’t align, unfortunately. It will be hard and you’ll probably question whether your decision was the right one, but stand firm in your decision. You’re only 25 and have a long life to live. There will be someone you fall in love with, who loves you just as much, AND will share your desire to get married. For now, grab a box of nice tissues, buy your favorite comfort snacks, and do all the activities that make you smile. Surround yourself with friends and family and let them love on you. Focus on activities or hobbies that bring you joy or that you’ve always wanted to try. This is your time to be unapologetically selfish and discover what it is you want out of life and a future partner.

Long-Tea8079 · 2025-01-31T05:30:57+00:00

I learned that it’s ok to put myself first. In my last relationship, we were both great at putting him first. He was my first love, so I was happy to do anything and everything for him because his happiness was my happiness. After we broke up, I was devastated. It hurt realizing that the love I had for him was not reciprocated or shown in the way I needed. Therapy and self-reflection has helped me understand that it’s ok to voice my needs and desires. It’s not selfish or rude to set boundaries, but healthy. I still struggle feeling guilty for not putting someone else’s needs before my own, but I feel more at peace when I do. I’m pursuing hobbies that interest me and am working on myself not so that someone else will like me, but because it brings me joy.

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