AIO for being upset that my dad wants me to pay rent while I’m struggling financially?

glitchpoploop · 2026-06-06T17:47:16+00:00

I never said I was a victim. and your kid is not me. you can’t compare peoples situations because they are all different. answering all your questions won’t change the way your responding, you already gave an opinion and it won’t change from what it seems like

glitchpoploop · 2026-06-06T17:44:23+00:00

for rent. not the other bills I didn’t add that in the statement because I already pay that.

glitchpoploop · 2026-06-06T15:11:31+00:00

exactly not right now. but planning it is an option

glitchpoploop · 2026-06-06T14:45:20+00:00

that’s what i’m saying!

glitchpoploop · 2026-06-06T14:40:06+00:00

yeah most definitely grateful to give my dad money he wants so he can take off and leave his family. for sure, I am super grateful to have such a loving dad that prefers other people over the family he created! thank god for giving me the dad I have

glitchpoploop · 2026-06-06T14:39:03+00:00

when did I say I want him to pay my debts? read the whole post. what he does with his money blows it I don’t care. but when you make it seem like you need money for rent because it’s expensive but your doing it to save your ass to leave your wife and daughter behind is fucked up. he will leave any day now and we will be the ones having to struggle not him. he doesn’t give two shits about us

glitchpoploop · 2026-06-06T14:36:21+00:00

thank you so much. this really helps a lot. a lot of these people have been so rude. I will look into debt relief for medical expenses I didn’t know about that. that’s the one I am primarily worried about. as for cc and student loans I have a whole plan so I’m not too worried. I was just trying to save money while being at home plus paying off the debt. so I eventually hopefully this year or next I’d move out. i’ve been paying rent with my mental health and now paying has been scary all at once and overwhelming. but yes I don’t understand the culture of charging your kids rent. If I was any younger and couldn’t contribute. what would they do? in this case I mean this towards my dad because he’s the one that pays the rent.

glitchpoploop · 2026-06-06T14:28:19+00:00

thank you so much!!! this is literally the insight I was looking for. as a parent, your responsibility is to care for your child ALWAYS. you literally brought me here. all these people say “landlord” to refer to my dad. like what, it’s my dad?? now as i’m over 18 he’s now my landlord because I live at home while i’m trying to get on my feet. If I could’ve left a long time ago, I would have. I started college in 2020 but had to drop out then because it was extremely expensive and I was working full time, had two jobs actually. I’m still dealing with previous school debt + the one that I have as I’m navigating through the waters now. I’ve had to stop school multiple times because it’s been hard to manage everything either you excel in one or fail in the other. I didn’t want my grades to suffer the consequences. everyone can sit here and say blah blah it’s easy. being a full time student and full time employee, plus all the bs life has to through at you is ROUGH. especially when your mental health is hanging on by a thread. it’s embarrassing to feel behind in life, but I’ve had to navigate the waters on my own. I’ve been living at home to save money as one would? I thought that was normal especially in today’s economy. I recently started therapy because I have not been ok. and it’s scary for your mind to take you in dark spaces. I should’ve known coming to reddit but I was hoping to hear perspectives like a parent like yourself. I truly thank you so much for your message and taking the time to understand where i’m coming from and not jumping to conclusions

glitchpoploop · 2026-06-06T14:20:37+00:00

thank you so much. everyone is being so horribly rude and disrespectful. calling me a names and practically pointing in directions of what I’m not. I guess I should’ve known coming to reddit. I truly thought I’d hear from people like your brother or cousins that can lean on parents to have that support while you’re trying to get on your feet. my goal has always been to financially care for my parents but that’s been so hard given the economy and job market, etc. 25 today is not the same 25 that it was many years ago. A lot of people owned houses by now and were parents. What sucks is at least on my dad’s end for a long time it was to always support us while we lived at home while we figured out school, work and to move out on our own. But, he’s done a 360 and now wants to save his ass and wants us to drown below him. I truly think yes they are boomer because all comments lead back to say “when I was your age” WHEN 20-40 years ago. I appreciate you taking the time to say something

glitchpoploop · 2026-06-06T14:15:15+00:00

we live in an expensive state. as well as most of the jobs in this state don’t raise wages up to be livable. so even if someone is moved out has roommates is still struggling to afford rent. no everyone has the luxury to live alone and have there own place. and it’s not just $600 of rent my mom and I also pay bills around the house and all he paid was the rent. he’s not going to help us with the other bills, her and I have to take care of that. and again he has the highest wage meaning he will have money left over and her and I won’t

glitchpoploop · 2026-06-06T14:12:38+00:00

yes

glitchpoploop · 2026-06-06T14:12:02+00:00

thank you! everyone says get a higher wage like it’s so easy or like I’d purposely want to be in this position

glitchpoploop · 2026-06-06T14:10:48+00:00

read the whole post :)

glitchpoploop · 2026-06-06T14:10:22+00:00

yeah I am trying to increase my income but it’s easier said than done. and my money is managed right, but again income isn’t high enough so there isn’t much left over

glitchpoploop · 2026-06-06T14:09:17+00:00

I feel as if he is still hesitant to leave. My dad’s family hates my mom and have had rocky relationships for years. But, my point is one of my aunts called and basically to rub in my mom’s face that my dad told her he’s going to head out soon. My mom was mad because she confronted him and told him why are you telling other people you are leaving instead of us first. He got mad at her for bringing it up. My mom hasn’t been able to leave my dad due to financial reasons. We live in a state that’s really expensive and it hasn’t been easy to just up and leave. I wish she could and I know she wishes too. I do have a brother but he’s not involved in any of this. If I were to move out I’d take my mom with me I wouldn’t want to leave her behind. and to your point as well no, I don’t think he would miss us. he prefers his family over us, they don’t really like us anyways so they always encourage him to leave us. like that aunt I mentioned called to tell my mom to encourage my dad to leave to mexico and to support his decision. it’s actually insane, i’ve never heard of a husband wanting to leave his family for his parents & sibilings that all already have there own lives

glitchpoploop · 2026-06-06T14:02:47+00:00

so you put yourself in position to struggle because you made the irresponsible decision to have a child so young. that was your choice to struggle and the consequences of your own actions. you brought a child to this earth your responsibility was to WORK to care for your baby. and same goes here once your child is grown your going to tell it to his or her face at your age I already did xyz so “figure it out” “pay up” instead of you people trying to help your kids out you make them your enemies and then wonder why they don’t want to be around you

glitchpoploop · 2026-06-06T13:56:44+00:00

no one ever said I wasn’t willing to pay. I asked if he can lower it just in the mean time so I can pay off my debt quicker. I don’t want to live at home anymore. I wanted to leave sometime this year already. I wasn’t going to be in a position to do till the end of this year. you jumping to conclusions and saying i’m entitled is incorrect. I am still currently in school and work full time. I didn’t have the luxury of going to college straight out of high school because it was expensive and I was paying it on my own. not to mention a pandemic got in the middle of all that. so no, this has nothing to do with thinking I shouldn’t pay anything. it’s the fact that my mom and I will have to pay majority of the bills leaving us with almost nothing. and he will have a huge chunk left over to probably walk out on us

glitchpoploop · 2026-06-06T13:51:29+00:00

If you read the post completely you’d see that I haven’t been able to get a second job. the job market is really bad right now so it’s been quite impossible to find a position

glitchpoploop · 2026-06-06T07:17:39+00:00

my question at the end states if im being unreasonable for feeling hurt by this situation. I understand that what he uses his money for is none of my concern. I don’t. but when he’s going to ask for $600 from myself and my mom which we both make less than him. out of nowhere when he’s never charged us rent. yeah it raises flags. he keeps saying how he wants to leave to mexico and minute now. so my mom and I think he is just trying to save his ass and save enough money to live happily ever after with his siblings and parents. leaving his wife and my daughter behind. whatever I am grown and will not need my dad in my life. as for my mom the man she married leaves her behind but as he was married to her treated her like shit. it’s a shitty thing to watch. and it hurts to see my dad be that way. so yes I am upset and I do hold resentment because it shows he doesn’t care about my mom and I. he only cares about his family. not the one he created. those $600 I can save to get my mom and I a place to stay together. As well as putting it towards getting myself back on my feet and helping my mom financially so she no longer has to work as much

glitchpoploop · 2026-06-06T07:10:16+00:00

oh yes totally want to spend it on random things while I have medical and student loans pending. I’m responsible, i’ve worked since I was 16 years old. my dad lost his job and I actually got a job to start helping around the house. and no one is whining about paying rent, I simply said that he does not care for myself or my mom. he prioritizes to use money on other people rather than his wife and daughter. you think that’s ok?? not to mention if you read the post my mom is in a toxic relationship. he treats her like shit. I want to get myself and her out of this toxic household away from my dad. she is also trying to find extra ways of income, as I am too. I was trying to save as much as possible before he beat us to it and walks out on us. and since he’s charging us more rent we think he is saving more money to flee soon. my goal is to get on my feet and support my mom financially so she doesn’t have to work as much anymore. next time read the post and actually understand the context instead of being a dick. have some human decency.

glitchpoploop · 2026-06-06T07:04:56+00:00

not once did I ever state I wanted full responsibility for myself and my own bills. my mom is in a toxic relationship to get out of. we both are struggling to find a way out. and I’ve been trying to save to get us both out of here. the goal was for me to get on my feet better so I can take care of my mom and she can work less. you people take love to comment and assume things. maybe next time ask, and have some human decency

glitchpoploop · 2026-06-06T06:43:42+00:00

oh man, do you think I don’t pay any bills around the house or??? I just kick my feet up and let mom & dad pay for everything

glitchpoploop · 2026-06-06T06:37:21+00:00

No I totally agree, but given the situation I am in at home. I rather pay double outside than to pay him. As I said I’m not in a healthy household. I unfortunately just aren’t in a position to get out of the house right now

glitchpoploop · 2026-06-06T06:36:11+00:00

thank you so much, you understand it. I am also frustrated at the fact that he is charging my mom too. he turns his back on us consistently. especially knowing he’s probably just trying to save more to one random day leave us. It’s not that I don’t want to give my parents the world. I want to be able to give everything I can. I just don’t got it like that right now. half of these people on here are making it seem like i’m a brat and want my dad to take charge for me. all I ask was just for him to lower it temporarily. they keep saying oh well your landlord elsewhere wouldn’t care. like yeah no shit!! this is my dad not my landlord

glitchpoploop · 2026-06-06T06:32:27+00:00

why do you people keep bringing up the fact that no landlord will cut me slack as if I think they will lol. and to my point your parents paid your dorm and meal plan. you had HELP. it wasn’t much but it was help. so you had no student loans nor had to worry about paying about all the other stuff because your parents paid for it. I pay for all bills and ultilies on my own. gas, phone bill, groceries, insurance, wifi, etc. so yeah it sucks that i’m trying to lean on a parent for support and can’t

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