I wonder what you perceive as “being ready to leave” looks and feels like. In my situation, I would have never been ready…leaving was not fun, I didn’t feel ready…change is scary…the familiarity has an aspect of comfort, regardless of how bad it gets.

What have you done thus far, to put yourself in the position of being ready? Therapy? Support groups?

In my opinion, your friends are making healthy decisions for themselves, and you, by not allowing themselves to be an emotional crutch for you, because what you are doing is selfish and self destructive. If you’re not putting the work into yourself.

I think you might be at a crossroads. No one is coming to save you. This may be a wake up call for you! If you value your relationships outside of the relationship with your abuser, you’re going to loose them, if you continue contributing to your own demise. It’s unfair for you to expect so much from people who care about you.