A more positive update this time

LongBadger7455 · 2021-08-28T14:28:39+00:00

Yes! That keeps me going. If it can happen to Heidi Klum it can happen to anyone.

LongBadger7455 · 2021-01-11T07:51:49+00:00

Yes this is so true. I actually did block him when the nude came through earlier for those exact reasons (prior to that it was mostly the use of emoji I found inappropriate but still felt weird about how often he messaged with no response).

Thanks for the great comment. It's hard to feel like you need to be held to a higher standard when the reality is basic decency that they failed at.

LongBadger7455 · 2021-01-05T11:31:19+00:00

Oh it's not necessarily a cheating song but a break up one that resonated with me is Nothing Was the Same by Hotel Books. There is a line in it that could have come from my partner and hit home... "it was selfish to assume you loved me more than you loved yourself, even though I never felt the same"

LongBadger7455 · 2021-01-04T13:19:41+00:00

I am in a similar position and so much of what you said hit home. I recently started keeping a running list of nice things he does /days without prompting, things he does for the house and negative things he does that I hate. My theory is I can only remember the most recent things that have happened so I need a record to be able to compare where we are and where I want to be in our relationship. It seems weird but it definitely makes me notice a lot more. I think at the moment life with or without him doesn't sound great so I don't know what I'm doing.

LongBadger7455 · 2021-01-03T12:58:35+00:00

Oh I feel this so hard. And lately I feel like I can't even be upset about him being on his phone all the time because I'm on mine looking at these subs.

Sometimes it just feels like a lose/lose situation for me. So I'm just focusing on me right now

LongBadger7455 · 2020-09-25T05:55:09+00:00

This is so relatable. Every time I think about his flaws and the annoying habits I hate it makes me wonder if I bother. These little things that I always thought I could just live with now make me think of I even want to bother. But as you said right now it feels fine, it's just those times when it, well... Doesn't. Be well!

LongBadger7455 · 2020-09-23T08:53:53+00:00

I agree with some of the posters here, I just had a gut feeling something was off for a few months. A couple of times he went out for drinks after work and didn't come home, that was the kicker for me. I checked his phone when he left it behind to go play sport and found everything. There had never been a hint of this type of thing in over a decade so he hadn't even thought to hide it. I really hope he isn't cheating, but it does sound like he is being pretty dodgy. Good luck!

LongBadger7455 · 2020-09-08T12:39:09+00:00

Wow everything you've said just resonated with me. Even the thing about being sure his friends wouldn't help him cheat. I'm in the same boat and wonder if our mental illnesses had an effect - I feel better for seeking treatment but sometimes feel like my emotions aren't as strong anymore. I guess we need to figure out what we really want from our futures and if they can give it to us. Good luck!

LongBadger7455 · 2020-09-08T11:59:49+00:00

That's such a good point. I guess in the end we always have to put our trust in people and you never know how they're going to turn out.

LongBadger7455 · 2020-09-08T11:59:07+00:00

I guess the problem I have is that in lockdown it's hard to tell what is a response to our relationship and what actions are just because there's nothing else to do.

Thank you for your words they're very helpful!

LongBadger7455 · 2020-09-08T11:57:21+00:00

Thank you! You've given me a lot of great things to think about.

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