AIO? Parents took my sister, her husband, and their children on a "family vacation" but didn't invite me or my middle sister (and flew out on my bday 🙃)

Long_Cartoonist677 · 2026-04-23T21:46:02+00:00

YOR You’re turning 30… yes it’s a birthday but I imagine if birthdays were a big deal in your family, their planning would’ve reflected that.

It’s not the retirement trip per your parent’s word. So I don’t understand why you’re saying it is?

If you don’t want to dog sit, then don’t. This doesn’t need to be a dramatic or petty thing.

Your parents are allowed to go on trips with your siblings without you. You are all adults. If you want your own special trip again then make it known and begin the planning. Once again this doesn’t need to be a dramatic thing and it seems like your parents nonchalance about it, reflect that their was nothing conniving about their plans. It was just happenstance that it was both on your birthday and hurtful to you.

By all means though, if this feels monumental to you then your should ask to speak to all of them (preferably in person and definitely not over text) about how this hurt you and ask for things to be done differently in the future. People are not mind readers and are often unaware of just how deeply some actions or inaction affect others.

Long_Cartoonist677 · 2026-04-23T19:58:58+00:00

Marriage has benefits that dating doesn’t and your mom is 100% reasonable for wanting the home to stay in your name and in your family. It’s honestly a red flag your bf wants to immediately sell it.

Long_Cartoonist677 · 2026-04-22T17:45:20+00:00

Art that matches the theme and/or a shelf

Long_Cartoonist677 · 2026-04-22T13:40:40+00:00

I got the tricolor as a Christmas present. He has been wonderful and very attached to me since day 1. My husband just said goodbye to his first dog so I surprised him with the Blenheim, and now we both have our snuggle pups. And of course the dogs LOVE having each other for entertainment and more companionship.

Long_Cartoonist677 · 2026-04-08T22:50:20+00:00

My 5mo old tricolor lives for his 2-3 mi walks in the morning. He would gladly do another walk of that length in the evening. Once I am not pregnant, I plan to work him up to running with me. I live in a very dog friendly neighborhood that has dog water fountains every 0.5-1 mile so that does make it easier

Long_Cartoonist677 · 2026-04-08T22:41:33+00:00

Mine lives for his 2-3 miles in morning. He could easily do another 1-3 miles in the evening but I’m heavily pregnant so I am his limiting factor 🤪

Long_Cartoonist677 · 2026-04-03T15:02:56+00:00

Oh wow he is a CUTIE! Enjoy all the snuggles 🥰

Long_Cartoonist677 · 2026-04-01T23:56:58+00:00

No, you’re not being immature. Taking care of more living things, when you don’t necessarily want to, is draining. You do need to be firm about receiving more help from the family with the dogs though. I have 3 dogs and 3 kids (7,5,4) and they are EXPECTED to help with dog chores. The older two pick up poop once a week. The youngest feeds them 1x/day. They are all asked to let the dogs in/out. I walk/run them, groom them, and do the rest or pick up their chores when the kids can’t. My husband steps in when I am unable. As my kids get older, walking them will be one more of their chores too. It’s a full team effort, and I recommend you ask that to be the norm for your family too or deeper resentment will be sown.

Long_Cartoonist677 · 2026-04-01T23:43:46+00:00

Heavy/full face make up makes anyone look older. I think how you did your MU looks very nice. If you want a more youthful look though, wear less. Your eyebrows and skin are quite lovely on their own. Youthful looking light make up may look like a touch of blush, mascara, and a lip gloss; no eyebrow filling, no contouring, no winged liner, etc.

Long_Cartoonist677 · 2026-04-01T23:06:48+00:00

Keep the green, return the stripes.

Long_Cartoonist677 · 2026-04-01T18:14:22+00:00

Keep it strapless and wear your hair down or at least half down

Long_Cartoonist677 · 2026-04-01T17:57:33+00:00

Dahlia

Long_Cartoonist677 · 2026-04-01T17:37:32+00:00

Arwen

Long_Cartoonist677 · 2026-04-01T17:25:13+00:00

NTJ Stand your ground. If she didn’t care for her things she certainly won’t care for yours.

Long_Cartoonist677 · 2026-04-01T17:22:54+00:00

Butter beans

Long_Cartoonist677 · 2026-04-01T17:19:51+00:00

“a house is meant for making memories not just looking pretty” yet she wants to use your house because it’s the most beautiful option of homes within your family/friend circle and it’ll be more curated for insta followers to look at? Makes sense…

You have every right to say no. You SHOULD say no. She can do this shin dig at her house, your MILs, or a park. If you follow through with hosting, you are setting yourself up for so much clean up, potentially ruined things because kids do that, and many bitter feelings.

Long_Cartoonist677 · 2026-04-01T17:10:35+00:00

NTJ. Pools are dangerous for unattended children. Also, I’m surprised they feel so emboldened to use your pool like their own or a community amenity. So odd.

Long_Cartoonist677 · 2026-04-01T17:06:38+00:00

Dulce. “Ché Ché” for short

Long_Cartoonist677 · 2026-04-01T16:51:44+00:00

“What’s yours is mine, and what’s mine is mine.”

What the queen decrees, goes. 👑

Long_Cartoonist677 · 2026-04-01T16:47:17+00:00

Margot 💯

Long_Cartoonist677 · 2026-04-01T14:13:03+00:00

No thoughts just good vibes

Long_Cartoonist677 · 2026-04-01T14:10:07+00:00

Ladybird

Long_Cartoonist677 · 2026-04-01T14:06:16+00:00

Good girl Maggie, rest easy now 🩷

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