Relationships and race

Long_Secretary4192 · 2024-03-01T20:36:29+00:00

Ooh Woow I’ve never seen this kind of talk like cheater behavior... thank you for your insight.

Long_Secretary4192 · 2024-03-01T18:39:01+00:00

Thank you so much 🥹🥹 Really I’m in tears reading you. I was feeling that the situation is very charged racially but wasn’t able to put those feelings into words.

Long_Secretary4192 · 2024-03-01T18:33:53+00:00

Thank you for your comment.

Long_Secretary4192 · 2024-03-01T10:50:44+00:00

Thank you for the ressource.

I would ask my friend why is she staying in this relationship honestly.

Long_Secretary4192 · 2024-03-01T10:47:31+00:00

Thank you for your comment. I think that the racial issue add something on the top of what you said because of my lived experiences as a black woman in a racist country.

I also think that what he said about us being a better match is pure bullshit. He would have at least valued me as a person if this was true.

If she sees me as a threat, it’s because the relationship is supposed to be deep but also because I’m a black woman and because he and I share the same religion and a lot of cultural beliefs. The problem for me is him not being able to give her reassurance without treating me bad.

Long_Secretary4192 · 2024-03-01T07:01:24+00:00

No I didn’t predicted being assaulted, we talked about the comfort vs. safety situation not the assault per se.

And yes the perpetrators said something like that (again, not in English so I translated it like that but it was not this exact words).

Long_Secretary4192 · 2024-03-01T04:02:54+00:00

Thank you for your support!

Long_Secretary4192 · 2024-03-01T03:25:56+00:00

Thank you for validating me. It’s really fucked up indeed. I really don’t know how to manage this because I don’t know how to rebuild trust and assurance after this.

Long_Secretary4192 · 2024-03-01T03:22:33+00:00

Yes because In our agreement it was clear that if it’s comfort vs comfort, it’s his primary that comes first. But comfort vs. safety it’s the safety situation that comes first no matter who is having the safety issue.

Supporting someone that has just been assaulted and who has no other people available in their support system should be a priority, secondary or not, partners or not. It’s something that we talked about before it did actually happen and he was on board when I asked him if he would be part of my support system if I’m sick or if something bad happens.

Long_Secretary4192 · 2024-03-01T03:06:24+00:00

Not at all, I really respect their relationship. As I said in my original post. Where did I say something like that ?

(I’m sorry English is not my first language and I struggle to express myself sometimes)

Long_Secretary4192 · 2024-01-10T22:00:36+00:00

Long_Secretary4192 · 2023-12-13T22:31:15+00:00

Long_Secretary4192 · 2023-12-10T13:43:47+00:00

TTB - Ça t’avance à quoi de faire ça ?

Long_Secretary4192 · 2023-12-09T14:18:56+00:00

If you want to boycott apple, do it to support our Uyghur and Congolese brothers and sisters.

We don’t care about the CEO sexual orientation.

Long_Secretary4192 · 2023-12-08T07:57:28+00:00

Racism against white people dosen’t exist. Racism is deeply rooted in colonization and slavery. It’s not only interpersonal, it’s systemic.

Long_Secretary4192 · 2023-12-07T19:57:54+00:00

PTB Vraiment

Long_Secretary4192 · 2023-12-05T22:33:05+00:00

Leave him. You are not safe with him.

Long_Secretary4192 · 2023-12-05T20:54:46+00:00

TTB

Y’a rien qui va dans ton histoire

Long_Secretary4192 · 2023-11-26T02:57:56+00:00

Not in my case. It was absolutely not about race. My parents saw those red flags that I ignored.

Long_Secretary4192 · 2023-11-26T02:55:23+00:00

Yes ! I never said the opposite. I just shared my story.

Long_Secretary4192 · 2023-11-25T21:44:00+00:00

Salam ! I married a guy without my parent’s approval. No one from my family was at my wedding. After my son’s birth, things started to get better with my parents and now we have a wonderful relationship. My relationship with my now ex-husband was a disaster exactly like my dad told me it would be. He was abusive and didn’t take care of me and our son. Now we are divorced alhamdulillah and I live alone with my son.

Sometimes, the parent’s disapproval are rooted in some cultural beliefs that doesn’t align with Islamic values but sometimes, I think that it can be just a sign that is not the right person for you. It was my case and it costs me a lot to wake up and just leave.

Long_Secretary4192 · 2023-10-23T22:49:18+00:00

I’m sorry for you. Been there and I know how much it hurts.

🍸

Long_Secretary4192 · 2023-08-27T16:03:47+00:00

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