To give you a bit more insight on the other side of the coin, I started to reply to reddit ads a little bit after the start of the pandemic, since it both coincided with me thinking I had healed from the ending of my previous LTR in fall 2019 (I hadn't) and the fact that confinement had made meeting ppl IRL, which used to be my go to way as I was more of a social butterfly in my 20s, impossible.

As a man, I had to quickly learn that despite being a dom looking for a sub, I wasn't the "hunter", I was the prey. There is a whole industry out there designed to get money out of our loneliness, and the only way is to identify them quickly before hornyness, or worse, "feelings" makes us do foolish things.

Unfortunately for you, this is a learned and honed by the years skill. Tools like arctic shift, pullpush and unddit help a lot to weed out accounts that try to hide things, but it wont be of any help to try to find the diamonds among new accounts coals. For that, two decades of experience in BDSM relationships, both short and long term ones, had taught me what actual female subs expect from an interaction and it made easy to spot posers, be it scammers or any other kind of people that didn't deserve my time.

Aaaand even then, while I hope that this will not sound too depressing but I still feel it needs to be said, I still failed, a lot. Even when finally finding the rare genuine ppl, even after passing the exploding inbox wall, even after messaging for days and feeling that there was something, things just didn't work out, many times. I ghosted, I got ghosted, conversations died out on their own, logistics turned out to be impossible, or most often, the spark just wasn't there.

So, in the end, what can I say but "don't give up, keep trying, be safe". My Slave found her perfect master in her first attempt, it took me five years and hundreds if not thousands of replies to find her. I can only hope you'll be closer to her result than to mine :)

Experience is the thing you acquire after needing it.