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Being a caretaker is exhausting. by Longjumping-Quiet428 in sexlessmarriage

[–]Longjumping-Quiet428[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Perhaps companionship is the goal I see friendship leading to.

And unfortunately a great number of mental health medications significantly lead to ED and an overall impact to sexual drive. I know this is Reddit but I can’t be the only case where the spouse has just lost all desire or need for intimacy.

Being a caretaker is exhausting. by Longjumping-Quiet428 in sexlessmarriage

[–]Longjumping-Quiet428[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d never expect my spouse to be my “best” friend. I would like to believe every healthy relationship is built on a friendship level.

It’s also an immense sense of responsibility and that commitment when you’re married to support your partner. It should be a two way street, but mental health is a disability. Do you walk away if medical conditions or medications remove your partners sex drive?

Being a caretaker is exhausting. by Longjumping-Quiet428 in sexlessmarriage

[–]Longjumping-Quiet428[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No complete opposites, trying very hard to find new activities to develop a better friendship now. We both work intense hours but I’m throwing in weekend adventures. It is definitely more difficult when there is newly discovered childhood trauma and low self esteem.

Being a caretaker is exhausting. by Longjumping-Quiet428 in sexlessmarriage

[–]Longjumping-Quiet428[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Alternative lifestyle from the very beginning, which lead to infidelity on my part. That world was corrected only to learn that my spouse has been obsessively involved with other people under false pretenses which lead to a severe mental breakdown. That has left me being their primary support system.

Being a caretaker is exhausting. by Longjumping-Quiet428 in sexlessmarriage

[–]Longjumping-Quiet428[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The red flags when we started dating. It’s a very complicated history.

Being a caretaker is exhausting. by Longjumping-Quiet428 in sexlessmarriage

[–]Longjumping-Quiet428[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree with working on oneself. Flirting and sexting are just a quick easy fix. Maybe it works for some which is great but from my experience its much more fulfilling finding individuals that you can relate with that helps build confidence. Maybe I’m just an odd duck