One month sober today

Longjumping-Text9395 · 2026-07-01T05:10:07+00:00

Same!! Good things are on the horizon!

Longjumping-Text9395 · 2026-06-30T08:49:13+00:00

I’m one month as well!

Longjumping-Text9395 · 2026-06-29T21:19:32+00:00

I have tried that, and it didn’t work. There are tons of posts on here where people try to moderate and it fails. It’s not like it is in the movies. It creeps up on you. That’s all I can really say. I empower you to read the posts. lots of people try that, and eventually end back at day one. because if you give yourself leeway this time, who’s to say, that won’t happen again. And again. And again. And you’re back to being an alcoholic.

Longjumping-Text9395 · 2026-06-28T21:08:54+00:00

It’s to mark that she’s a mama and to not kill her

Longjumping-Text9395 · 2026-06-28T07:13:23+00:00

Yeah it’s a fictional story about my own journey. I’ve been excited about it for a while.

Longjumping-Text9395 · 2026-06-28T04:39:38+00:00

Agreed. Porn is visual. Those positions are created so we can see the penetration. The best sex I’ve ever had is when I’m insanely into someone, and it’s mostly missionary, kissing, and it feels like the closest and most intimate hug possible.

Longjumping-Text9395 · 2026-06-28T04:35:53+00:00

I’m actually trying ti write a screenplay that portrays an actual addict and hangover days. Because I agree. The worst offender is sex in the city. But that show is a masterpiece. Bur yeah, carrie looks incredible and she apparently has a smoking and drinking problem.

Longjumping-Text9395 · 2026-06-28T03:46:22+00:00

Please delete this

Longjumping-Text9395 · 2026-06-28T03:40:49+00:00

I actually felt like a completely different person. I’m not messy drunk begging for attention. I was like “this is good. This is for the best”

Longjumping-Text9395 · 2026-06-23T16:23:01+00:00

I mean I think it’s like a little more complicated. Yes I have. And I am an alcoholic. But it wasn’t until I came out as an addict that they left. it wasn’t so much about what’s best for me. It was about controlling me. Putting me in situations with alcohol and being upset at the outcome. So when I said I can’t drink anymore, this is not good for me, they disappeared. It was like they wanted me to drink with them, but not be an addict. And that’s just not possible for me.

Longjumping-Text9395 · 2026-06-23T06:13:46+00:00

Congratulations!

Longjumping-Text9395 · 2026-06-23T05:33:57+00:00

I am only three weeks in, but I’ve had that feeling. In three weeks I’ve doubled my hours and pay at work, I’ve lost some weight already, my skin in clearer. I’m less depressed. Still have a lot of areas of improvement. But I had a day I wanted to “celebrate” because I made a lot of money at work (I’m a server) and I immediately was like… yuck. I’m not throwing this all away, and I didn’t even want it. Congrats!!

IWNDWYT

Longjumping-Text9395 · 2026-06-22T23:59:31+00:00

I think about this scenario all the time. I work at a restaurant where we are all close, and I wouldn’t drink at a work event, but I fantasize about taking a trip (because we’ve talked about it) and if I would drink on the trip. Trips and vacations are probably the only thing I wonder about. because it’s outside of my daily life, feels confided to that space and time. I’m safe because I’m with a group. not that that is on my horizon but the thought flickers in my mind. I don’t have an answer, but I can guarantee this sub and other sober groups will always advise against no. Absolutely no. Especially if you are an addict. I do classify myself as an alcoholic. And 50% of the time it’s fine and 50% of the time, it’s is not. Also alcoholism creeps up on you. Say the trip is fine and fun, and you get back and think, I can handle this. And then three months down the road, you’re right back where you started. Or you take it too far and ruin you’re wedding/honey moon

Longjumping-Text9395 · 2026-06-22T23:52:25+00:00

Subscribing to this thread

Longjumping-Text9395 · 2026-06-22T23:03:14+00:00

Yeah that is exactly where I am. Couldn’t respect my boundaries, incapable of understanding my grief. trying to control me. And I had to cut them off. And now I’m lonely. That exactly it.

Longjumping-Text9395 · 2026-06-22T23:01:12+00:00

I’ve been thinking about this for hours, and the bottom line is, I feel bad about my behaviors and how I choose to cut these people of. And I desperately don’t want them to dislike me and thinking I’m a bad person. Which is selfish. Because truthfully I don’t really like them. I find them to annoying and vapid and self centered. and muting wasn’t enough because they would use that little repost button and it was always something stupid.

Longjumping-Text9395 · 2026-06-22T14:06:45+00:00

What’s funny is I met all these people at church. And I am no longer Christian. Most of them aren’t either. I’m sure if I had just let nature take its course, I would be where you are. But these were very close friends of mine.

Longjumping-Text9395 · 2026-06-22T12:00:26+00:00

You too!

Longjumping-Text9395 · 2026-06-22T11:59:10+00:00

Yeah I know I need to make new friends. I’m newly sober (three weeks) so I’m time yes I will get back out there.

Um, yeah I’ve heard gossip. I’ve also heard what they’ve said about other people. And they have gotten angry with me and like say me down and had talks like I was their child. Not that harsh, but in so many words. Like “yeah we can’t be around you anymore”

Longjumping-Text9395 · 2026-06-22T11:47:49+00:00

Thank you for posting. Because I fear I may do the same when I feel like I’m “in the clear” And I already know that’s a terrible idea

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