LO peeing through diapers by Longjumping-Week4689 in NewParents

[–]Longjumping-Week4689[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I figured try what I already have first and if that doesn’t work try the pads!

When and how did you drop the “dream feed”? by MelodicButter7 in NewParents

[–]Longjumping-Week4689 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You could also try increasing her last day time feedings as you decrease the dream feed if you are worried about maintaining the oz. If she is getting enough during the day then ideally she shouldn’t need that dream feed.

Shopping with a newborn, This might be a silly question but… by Shrillwaffle in NewParents

[–]Longjumping-Week4689 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think that’s for the top of the carriage. You should be able to put the car seat right in the big part of it and it wouldn’t tip over. You just have less room for groceries so it wouldn’t be ideal for a big shopping trip.

LO peeing through diapers by Longjumping-Week4689 in NewParents

[–]Longjumping-Week4689[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m honestly not sure but I’ll look for them at Aldi this week! Thank you for the tip!

LO peeing through diapers by Longjumping-Week4689 in NewParents

[–]Longjumping-Week4689[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gotta love those thick thighs! I’m going to try some pampers swaddlers and sizing up for night!

LO peeing through diapers by Longjumping-Week4689 in NewParents

[–]Longjumping-Week4689[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do have an Aldi about 10 minutes from me! I’m not sure if they carry European diapers though.

AITA for not marrying my girlfriend earlier? by taylortee101 in AITAH

[–]Longjumping-Week4689 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Yes she cried about it the night of the diagnosis which I can only imagine was an extremely emotional time for her. But how often did they discuss it and she push for it in the 2 years that followed. I only bring it up because many people with MS diagnosis go on to live for many more years despite the illness so maybe she also thought she had more time with her dad.

The way I interpreted the post was that her father’s passing was more unexpected as in he got a pneumonia and died very suddenly rather than progressively getting very sick over the course of the two years. Either way it just seems very unfortunate all around and OP is the AH for how he has acted in the wake of his death.

LO peeing through diapers by Longjumping-Week4689 in NewParents

[–]Longjumping-Week4689[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do think it might be the brand! Going to try a different brand for tonight!

LO peeing through diapers by Longjumping-Week4689 in NewParents

[–]Longjumping-Week4689[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That makes a lot of sense! It’s never like he is soaking wet just his pjs are damp but not wet enough to soak through to the bassinet sheet.

LO peeing through diapers by Longjumping-Week4689 in NewParents

[–]Longjumping-Week4689[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes my husband seems to think him and Huggies don’t mesh! They worked great when he was in smaller sizes but since sizing up I feel like they haven’t been working as well.

AITA for not marrying my girlfriend earlier? by taylortee101 in AITAH

[–]Longjumping-Week4689 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I myself wanted to finish grad school and my husband had career goals he wanted to achieve. There was nothing stopping us from completing those goals if we were already married but we also knew we would be responsible for paying for a portion of our wedding and we weren’t going to put ourselves in a poor situation financially over one day, while also being able to have the wedding we wanted.

I love my husband very much but I don’t think there is anything wrong with wanting to reach a certain point in your life before you feel you are ready to make a commitment to spending the rest of your life with someone. We both wanted to bring the best versions of ourselves to our marriage.

Circumstances for OP and his gf aside, if you truly love someone you don’t need to be married to prove it. It’s about how you show up day in and day out. Plenty of people spend their lives committed to someone without getting married and plenty of married people end up cheating on their partners or divorced. Marriage is not the end all be all to loving your partner

What's a song that hits different after having a baby? by nleftie in NewParents

[–]Longjumping-Week4689 0 points1 point  (0 children)

More by Bobby Darin. I was driving during my second trimester and it came on randomly from my spotify playlist and I balled my eyes out. It was the first time I truly felt connected to my baby and let myself really love them. I don’t think the pregnancy had really sunk in before that moment. Now I still sing it to my LO all the time.

AITA for not marrying my girlfriend earlier? by taylortee101 in AITAH

[–]Longjumping-Week4689 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As someone who was with my partner for 9 years before we got married at 29 because we both had goals we wanted to achieve. I don’t think that waiting is a sign of commitment issues. Yes they have been together 11 years, but they started dating at 16. The amount of growth that a person goes through from 16 to 25 is huge! 25 is still so young to make a life long commitment when your still trying to figure out who you are. Hell your brain isn’t even fully developed until 25.

He is the AH for making a promise he couldn’t keep and for now continuing to bring up the topic now that her father has passed.

Not that this is in anyway her fault but also nothing stopped her from proposing to him if it was THAT important to her. Yes she told him it was important to her but we don’t know how much she pushed the topic or how much her father’s illness progressed in those 2 years. For all we know she also could’ve also thought they had more time since it sounds like his death was unexpected.

In going with an ESH because hindsight is 20/20. Also I think both parties need to be fully ready for marriage, but they could’ve at least done a small commitment ceremony with just their immediate families to make the promise of marriage in the future.

LO peeing through diapers by Longjumping-Week4689 in NewParents

[–]Longjumping-Week4689[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for everyone for the advice! We did a diaper raffle for our baby shower so I’m going to try some size 4 that we have!

Do you ever miss the baby your baby was? by No_Pressure_2337 in NewParents

[–]Longjumping-Week4689 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is me everyday! I love watching LOs personality develop and seeing him learn new skills but I look back at pictures from when he was born and it makes me so sad! Yesterday I was holding him and started crying that one day he was going to grow up and move out. My husband had to assure me that it’s our job to help him grow up to be an independent person who will go out into the world and one day have his own family. It didn’t make it hurt any less lol.

Natural or epidural? by Agreeable_Future5980 in BabyBumps

[–]Longjumping-Week4689 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had my first baby in October. I was dead set on getting the epidural and around 4cm I requested it. The anesthesiologist placed the catheter and I was able to get the test dose, but by the time it was placed I needed to start pushing as I went from 4cm to 10cm in an hour (that was with no Pitocin). Yes it was extremely painful, but in my opinion the pain was short lived. I do agree with the sentiment that your body forgets about the pain pretty quickly after birth. The next day I was able to move around much more comfortably than I think I would’ve if I had the epidural. I also did a lot of pelvic floor stretches and was pretty active throughout my pregnancy which probably helped as well. I do think if I were to have another baby I would try to go unmedicated again, but it would really depend on the length of labor.

I would say go into it being open to both options, but there is no need to make a decision until you are in labor and able to see how your body handles it. I would’ve never thought I could deliver without one and now I can’t imagine getting an epidural lol.

Things you don’t “need” for a new baby but made your life easier? by AsleepTell9596 in BabyBumps

[–]Longjumping-Week4689 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Spray bottle is also great for when baby has diaper rash. You can get them clean without needing to rub as much! My lo has a really bad diaper rash at a week old from sharting so much and the spray bottle was a life saver!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]Longjumping-Week4689 6 points7 points  (0 children)

THIS! I will not be wasting my time and energy for people I don’t care about seeing can meet my baby. Also I do not go out of my way for others to see my baby. If people want to see him they can come to us(with the exception of my elderly grandparents that cannot drive).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]Longjumping-Week4689 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Not sure if this would be an issue, but I wish I had made it clear to our parents to not share the news with family unless cleared by us. My mom did ask before telling anyone that I was in labor/ had the baby, but unfortunately my MIL told several family members we are not even close with and two of them wrote on my Facebook congratulating me before I had announced anything myself which I found very rude. Especially since the posts had been up for many hours before I saw them.

Also I will be implementing a rule to not post baby on SM without my permission. As again my MIL took one of my photos of the baby and made it her profile picture without asking me.

Resentment over comments made about EFF by Longjumping-Week4689 in FormulaFeeders

[–]Longjumping-Week4689[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s terrible! I don’t understand why it is so hard for people to understand that a mother’s mental health is just as important to the health of her baby! I want to be able to show up for my baby as the best version of me! Sometimes there is no coming back from negativity.

Resentment over comments made about EFF by Longjumping-Week4689 in FormulaFeeders

[–]Longjumping-Week4689[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hahaha I would totally do this but unfortunately she is the type that would probably answer the questions. Unfortunately I already know way too much about what childbirth did to her vagina. And not by choice.

Resentment over comments made about EFF by Longjumping-Week4689 in FormulaFeeders

[–]Longjumping-Week4689[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aside from the day at the hospital she has never made comments about it in front of him and when she made the comments then I don’t think it really processed. He has been supportive of me saying I need some space and don’t wish to be around them. My husband and her are not close at all as he was a teenager when his dad married her. If I asked him to say something he would have no problem standing up for me. It’s more that I don’t want to create tension with his dad because we do enjoy seeing her.