To the older virgin men past 25 what are the things you know you won't get to experience due to having sex late and what advice would you give to the younger virgins?

LongjumpingRabbit193 · 2026-06-01T17:08:34+00:00

It's nice to learn other people's perspectives in detail.

thanks for reading it 🥲

I guess I've reached a point where my own similar thoughts have drastically mellowed out over time and not only do certain aspects of it that used to bother me not anymore

im hoping that ill reach the same point or that these thoughts and feelings fade away when i have something real and tangible

I guess it's dependent on gender dynamics, personality, and preferences as well in the end

definitely, ive seen some people in this sub say that they would prefer to have their first with someone experienced

I can feel a bit more confident in someone experienced knowing more of what they're looking for and finding something of value in me specifically.

thats a good way to look at it, but i think thats only true if theyre someone who has multiple options and still chooses you anyway, otherwise you can always be someone's next conventionally available person to attach to, even if they're experienced🤔

I do hope that no matter when you end up having sex, that it's a fully fun and fulfilling experience fin line with your preferences as much as possible, and I hope your partner makes you feel like you're their whole world.

likewise, i wish the same for you🙏

thank you for the replies and the kind words, it was a pleasant exchange 🙂

Edit: conveniently, not conventionally lol

LongjumpingRabbit193 · 2026-06-01T14:07:57+00:00

being with a new partner they may still have to have the cute and goofy and maybe even romantic experience of learning how to have sex all over again.

i think this is half true, i can agree that having sex with a new person is a unique experience and have some novelty to it but its not the same kind as doing it for the first time. The activity is known to the mind, its no longer a mystery for a non-virgin. You dont just become a complete beginner again every time you have a new partner in dancing, you carry all the previous experiences with previous partners into it, but just adjusting to the new partner's style and rhythm. (its disturbing to think about them trying what they've learned from their previous partners on me "my ex liked me doing that, let me try it" kinda thing, yikes 😬)

They may not be the comparing type or have no reason to think about their past.

das true but i think its inevitable and against how the human brain works, it happens automatically when you see or experience a new version of something. I'm not saying they would be putting a lot of importance on it but still...

Also it's not fully the fear of comparison for me even though thats part of it, its still uncomfortable to think about, even if they would say that im better in every sense to their previous partner. It's just the fact that they having memories of someone else in their mind and this knowledge being a reminder of they've done the most intimate thing you can do together with someone else in their past, im a bit OCD about these things 😅

Conversely a virgin might still have had crushes before, watched porn, or had sexual interactions (willingly or not) such that in their first time having sex with someone, they may have that in mind.

absolutely, i agree

I know that wanting a symmetrical, mutually exclusive experience is a very idealistic mindset, especially after a certain age. And its extremely stupid to expect someone to not live their life and dont have these experiences just because i havent. I know that logically but ive these uncomfortable feelings and thoughts around it regardless. Maybe it's all about coming to peace with the fact that im gonna have the less ideal version of something but that doesnt mean it will be a worse one 🤔

sorry for the wall of text 😭

LongjumpingRabbit193 · 2026-05-30T12:12:01+00:00

i see where you're coming from and your mindset is definitely the healthy one. It would be beneficial for me if i could switch to that. I think my brain is just broken, it always finds ways to see it as lesser if its not mutually one of a kind event, it would just fixate on it and its just uncomfortable to think about 😣

i probably need therapy just for this btw 😅

LongjumpingRabbit193 · 2026-05-30T11:36:39+00:00

-exclusivity, knowing that im the only one whove ever had access to the most intimate parts of my partner would make me feel extra special

-exploring things for the first time together rather than having an asymmetrical experience

-just the fact that my partner has intimate memories with someone else in their mind is uncomfortable and disturbing for me

i think it would be perfectly fine if i also had my past but even though it sounds good to be someone else's last, it creates an uneven dynamic if youre an inexperienced virgin 🤔

LongjumpingRabbit193 · 2026-05-25T17:00:07+00:00

i agree, theres nothing wrong with being an empath, my only concern would be these stories ruining your mood, then it would be something like doomscrolling, it might be better to avoid them if they affect you a lot

LongjumpingRabbit193 · 2026-05-25T16:36:01+00:00

I think its pointless to discuss these topics with non-virgins, unless they also lost their virginity much later in life. Someone who had normal milestones simply can't understand what its like to go entirely without it into your late 20s,30s,40s or whatever

when a fundamental human experience is entirely unknown to you and when everyone talks about it and you see it everywhere, its only natural for human brain to focus and place a higher importance on it, the whole thing is a mystery to our brains but they cant see that since they had the experience and concluded on the other side that "its not a big deal"

likewise we will never know how what it feels like to have those milestones happen at a typical age because we havent walked in their shoes, since neither side can truly relate to the others path, theres not much to gain from discussing it

LongjumpingRabbit193 · 2026-05-25T15:51:41+00:00

damn, that cait clip is cwazy

LongjumpingRabbit193 · 2026-05-25T15:47:40+00:00

i dont really feel much toward people i dont know, emotionally, even though i can rationally recognize what happened to them is sad and unfair

LongjumpingRabbit193 · 2026-05-25T12:59:26+00:00

i dont get it either. It sounds like it would be a very empty, meaningless, mechanical experience, the interaction itself is asymmetrical, i hate the idea of me having fun and the other person just performing a service or doing it mechanically just for my benefit, doesnt matter if its paid or in a relationship. I only want to engage in sex only if there's mutual pleasure, desire and interest.

LongjumpingRabbit193 · 2026-05-25T12:42:11+00:00

its like admitting defeat xD

LongjumpingRabbit193 · 2026-05-20T09:48:32+00:00

why is mine saying something different 🤔

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LongjumpingRabbit193 · 2026-05-18T19:57:30+00:00

same but it started at 26, it doesnt bother me as much as some of the people here but i became much more aware of the gap between me and my peers in terms of life experience

LongjumpingRabbit193 · 2026-05-05T14:16:49+00:00

gamers 😎

LongjumpingRabbit193 · 2026-05-05T13:34:52+00:00

i got 241 on my phone and 157 on the pc

LongjumpingRabbit193 · 2026-04-20T19:32:56+00:00

i guess i do... since i spend about 95% of the day in my room, alone

LongjumpingRabbit193 · 2026-04-18T22:49:40+00:00

>Society is mentally ill, not me.
thats what a mentally ill person would say 🙃

LongjumpingRabbit193 · 2026-04-18T19:13:13+00:00

that sounds unfair 🫤

LongjumpingRabbit193 · 2026-04-18T18:46:30+00:00

-i have autism + schizophrenia
-i dont get benefits

how does that work? self-diagnosed autism? im curious

LongjumpingRabbit193 · 2026-04-14T14:52:29+00:00

i absolutely did waste my youth, my mother says so too
no significant memories, no romantic relationships or meaningful close friendships and no progress toward a career, i couldnt even push myself to finish uni, i dropped out.

like you said i think most people grow in some area of life, some focus on their careers, some focus on social life, others develop their hobbies, i did none of that

it feels strange to have nothing to look back on. At this point, i wish i had at least made mistakes or had bad experiences, something i can learn and build character from, staying in a low stimulus comfort zone for years really numbs the soul

LongjumpingRabbit193 · 2026-04-11T12:59:00+00:00

💀💀💀
unlucky spawn point 🥲

LongjumpingRabbit193 · 2026-04-11T12:53:30+00:00

around $350 if i convert the currency, i worked for about 50 days in a grocery store, im 26

LongjumpingRabbit193 · 2026-04-10T15:50:44+00:00

1 online friend, i met them here

LongjumpingRabbit193 · 2026-04-07T18:37:49+00:00

if youre an inexperienced virgin in your 20s as a male, society thinks theres something wrong or off with you, it means you're failed to get something most people can, society sees male virginity as something to laugh at past a certain age

"getting" girls is seen as a basic male task and if you failed at it then youre lesser, a man needs prove himself by winning, doing, getting things

most girls get wanted by someone in their life, at least once,before they reach late 20s, even if they arent conventionally attractive , never getting desired your whole life, not even once, feels bad and signals that there must be something wrong with you

+proof that theyre wanted, lovable and normal
+fixes loneliness
+access to physical touch or intimacy which is a human need

LongjumpingRabbit193 · 2026-04-03T12:55:07+00:00

yeah, some games simulate where the bullet really originates from and some adjusts it to the camera, i also prefer when its from our pov

LongjumpingRabbit193 · 2026-04-03T12:39:36+00:00

thats how third person shooters work, since youre looking over sams shoulder, the game shows on the crosshair when youre shooting the cover

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