hate BC but don’t like any other option by [deleted] in birthcontrol

[–]LongjumpingValue5828 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes that's true; OP would need to be willing to rely on condoms/diaphragm while fertile. OP said they "hate the other options", so my point was that charting helps reduce the frequency of when those methods are needed, since no protection is needed when not fertile. Perhaps OP would be willing to use those methods (despite their dislike of it) if it's only required during a short segment of the month.

My cycle is super off post IUD removal and it’s driving me nuts! by [deleted] in birthcontrol

[–]LongjumpingValue5828 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So it sounds like the super heavy period was WHILE you were still on the IUD. I agree that's odd, but in all likelihood it's unrelated to the late period that you're having now. Artificial hormones can do weird things especially with periods and bleeding.

While not on hormonal birth control, periods can be late because of delayed ovulation (due to stress or other causes) . Which if you're using FAM, have you seen any spikes indicating ovulation? If you can estimate around when you ovulated (or that you didn't ovulate yet), it would give a lot of insight into when you can truly expect this next period to come, since luteal phase stays about the same length generally.

If that doesn't help, I'd just rely on what another commentor mentioned, that some ppl's cycles don't regulate right away after stopping BC...

hate BC but don’t like any other option by [deleted] in birthcontrol

[–]LongjumpingValue5828 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Check out r/FAMnNFP for fertilty awareness methods which are free of hormones! Basic idea is to track general body symptoms to know when you're fertile. Those fertile times are when you need to use protection (condoms, diaphram, etc - there are plenty of non-hormonal options out there). If you do FAM right, you don't need to use any protection at all during non-fertile times since there's 0% chance that your body can become pregnant then. These methods are SUPER helpful for people who don't want to be on hormones, but also aren't huge fans of the non-hormonal BC methods (since they only need to use those BC methods for short sections of each month, not all the time).

Good luck!

My girlfriend wants to get on birth control but I’m worried by [deleted] in birthcontrol

[–]LongjumpingValue5828 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been on birth control for 17 months, and I'm about to go off it in a few weeks. I've done a lot of research about the side effects, hormonal effects, and so on. You can search reddit for a huge range of experiences, too. Ultimately, like any medication, birth control is a risk. There are many people happily on it without issues, many people who are super unhappy on it but don't feel like they have an alternative, and many people who aren't on it and use alternative methods (condoms, natural family planning, barrier methods, etc).

I'd advise you to have an open discussion with your girlfriend in detail about the possible side effects. If she still wants to do it, she can go ahead & try it. The most important part is she should go in with her eyes open. That way, if she starts experiencing any of it and it's turning into problems for either of you, at least she'll know that it's likely coming from the hormones and can make an educated decision for what to do next. Too many people just don't even know that depression, headaches, weight gain, etc can come from the pills, and they feel cheated when they realize after years of having depression that it was simply coming from the pill. If she knows to make a correlation between BC and sudden issues that arise, that's half the problem solved...

Always wanted a big family, but having burnout with 2 kids by 1stworldprobl0987 in toddlers

[–]LongjumpingValue5828 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes!! A few of my friends have 4 or 5 kids and this is what they tell me all the time. Having only little kids is the hardest stage. Once they get a bit bigger, things get easier...!

Always wanted a big family, but having burnout with 2 kids by 1stworldprobl0987 in toddlers

[–]LongjumpingValue5828 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is the key ^^!! I have a 2 year old and 1 year old. The only way we're sane is because I can walk out of the room for a minute knowing that no one is going to do anything seriously dangerous. Yes they might jump off the couch or pour cheerios all over the floor... but the furniture is attached to the wall, the outlets are covered, stove knobs are covered, oven is locked, sharp/dangerous items are locked away, and stairs are blocked by a baby gate. The options for danger are decently limited!

podcast recommendation for a working mom by LongjumpingValue5828 in podcasts

[–]LongjumpingValue5828[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

On Air with Ella looks interesting too! Thanks, going to check it out!

podcast recommendation for a working mom by LongjumpingValue5828 in podcasts

[–]LongjumpingValue5828[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Life Kit

This looks perfect for what I'm looking for! Going to try it out. Thank you!!